Job interview w/91 year old fella

So sorry that job didn't work out for you Denise, maybe there is something better to come for you I sincerely hope so.
 
thanks Nan, been checking around today, off and on, mostly playing on here though. Printing out more fliers to distribute for pet-sitting. Something will come up;)
 
Denise, Have you thought of online tutoring for grade and middle school student. I Did that for awhile. Reading and Math are the hardest for the younger children, but if someone has the patients, it can make the difference between a passing or failing for a child. :flowers:
 
Thanks Ina, but that wouldn't work for me. I need to rest for awhile and rethink what I want to try for. I appreciate the help though, denise
 
yeah, hard to run in those alluminum undies too, without rippin em:lofl:me and the tinman, "there's no place like home, there's no place like home", wears my oil-can?
 
I was only just catching up on these posts as I've been busy attempting to write a book in addition to working a full-time job and caring for my 94 year old mother. Consider that everything that happens, happens for a reason. Coming from my own experience, caring for someone in their 90s is NOT easy; it is hard work and then consider as in my case that the person is suffering from a form of dementia as well. I know that I can say that she's better off with my looking out for her, but then on the other side of the fence am of the opinion that the best place for her is in assisted living. I only wish I was Ms. GotBucks so I can afford it. At between $7000-10,000 a month, her money wouldn't last a year.

I agree it is sad to be with someone with the repetition of the questions and the stories. It's almost to the point of ad nauseum but you deal with it because you know that they cannot help it. Health is another story, I don't want to deny my diabetic mother sweets, but she blackmails me to the point where I don't have a choice but to buy what she wants. I'm trying to keep her out of a nursing home and she keeps trying to put herself into one. She's handicapped and needs to use a walker, but she continues to gain weight. I keep asking her to cut down but to no avail because I would be forced to put her in a home if she loses her mobility.

While you looked upon the caregiver's job with enthusiasm, be thankful that it didn't work out. It takes a person who is able to not get close "emotionally" because it is sad. You have to remain emotionally unattached or it does take a mental and physical toll on you and this comes from someone who can say this because I'm experiencing it.
 
LogicsHere said:
While you looked upon the caregiver's job with enthusiasm, be thankful that it didn't work out. It takes a person who is able to not get close "emotionally" because it is sad. You have to remain emotionally unattached or it does take a mental and physical toll on you.
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Excellent point.
 
LogicsHere said:
I was only just catching up on these posts as I've been busy attempting to write a book in addition to working a full-time job and caring for my 94 year old mother. Consider that everything that happens, happens for a reason. Coming from my own experience, caring for someone in their 90s is NOT easy; it is hard work and then consider as in my case that the person is suffering from a form of dementia as well. I know that I can say that she's better off with my looking out for her, but then on the other side of the fence am of the opinion that the best place for her is in assisted living. I only wish I was Ms. GotBucks so I can afford it. At between $7000-10,000 a month, her money wouldn't last a year.

I agree it is sad to be with someone with the repetition of the questions and the stories. It's almost to the point of ad nauseum but you deal with it because you know that they cannot help it. Health is another story, I don't want to deny my diabetic mother sweets, but she blackmails me to the point where I don't have a choice but to buy what she wants. I'm trying to keep her out of a nursing home and she keeps trying to put herself into one. She's handicapped and needs to use a walker, but she continues to gain weight. I keep asking her to cut down but to no avail because I would be forced to put her in a home if she loses her mobility.

While you looked upon the caregiver's job with enthusiasm, be thankful that it didn't work out. It takes a person who is able to not get close "emotionally" because it is sad. You have to remain emotionally unattached or it does take a mental and physical toll on you and this comes from someone who can say this because I'm experiencing it.
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Thanks for your reply. I do appreciate it, and realize that I wasn't a good match for the job. I doubt I could have stayed even if Harry's family hadn't stepped in. I am sorry for your situation, I now have a different attitude toward folks that choose not to care for their elderly family members. It's so easy to point the finger at someone until you walk in their shoes (I mean, get a taste of what it is to be in their shoes) denise
 
Hello LogicsHere, I had the care of both my parents. My father lived in our house, and my mother lived in a small trailer in our back yard. And yes, at the same time. So you do have my sympathy. By the time my parent passed, the toll started to show in my health and mental state.
One thing I did was to get a family member to unwrap all candy, and put those wrappers around sugar-free candy. At that age I didn't care about the chemicals in the sugar-free stuff.
Maybe her SS could hire a sitter/friend to visit a few times a month to give you some time off. I :applause: you.
 
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