Keeping secrets

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debodun

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Did you ever tell someone something in confidence then later hear it all over? Would you still be friends with that blabbermouth? How good a secret keeper are you?
 

I would still be friends but I would limit the information that I shared with them.

If I'm in the right frame of mind it can actually be fun to float some information and see where it surfaces, sort of like a dye test for a septic system LOL!!!

I'm very good at keeping information to myself. That ability helped me to make an above average living during my working years and it also helped to limit the amount of drama that I had to deal with in my private life.
 
I have told my husband things but it would never go any further. He would forget about it 5 minutes later if it was gossip-not interested.
If something I said in confidence was blabbed I would never tell that person anything again or anyone else who repeated it.
 
I never share private info to anyone with the exception of my Sister and my Daughter. Unless my Husband would need to know the info then I wouldn't tell him because if it was something that would annoy him he would confront someone trying to make things right.. As for keeping a secret that someone tells me I would never repeat it to anyone.
 
If you tell another person a "secret" you have to expect that at some point it will get out. Sorry, Human Nature 101.

"Three can keep a secret, if two of them are dead." - Benjamin Franklin

A guy I worked with wanted to tell me a "secret"...swore me to a mighty oath not to tell anybody. I did not even think of telling anyone...wasn't that good a secret anyway. :p

Later on, I hear several people talking about his secret, he apparently told others as well. :shrug:
 
If you want to keep a real secret, don't tell anyone else. I can and have kept a few secrets that were told to me, and it was not difficult to do. During my working years, some gossips would come to me with the intro "I have something to tell you, but you have to promise not to tell anyone else"....to that I would tell them I don't want to hear it if it can't be repeated.

That's the kind of gossip "secret" that many times goes around in circles of back-stabbers and blabbermouths. I always figure that intro is just an opening to gossip about someone else, and many times I would hear that big 'secret' told publicly around others and glad I wasn't involved. No thrills here by saying negative things about others, some people thrive on it, but I don't.

I guess I'm on the same page as Toomuchstuff.
 
Here's a thought: Why :shrug: would anyone want to tell a secret about them-self? What would be the purpose?

Like, some kind of confession to aberrant behavior, cheating on taxes or cheating on spouse?
 
tnthomas said:
Here's a thought: Why :shrug: would anyone want to tell a secret about them-self? What would be the purpose?

Like, some kind of confession to aberrant behavior, cheating on taxes or cheating on spouse?
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They say that confession is good for the soul!

That may be part of the reason that some people dump their whole life story on a stranger that they meet on a bus or in an internet forum and will never meet again.
 
Shalimar said:
Seeking absolution, perhaps?
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ab·so·lu·tion
ˌabsəˈl(y)o͞oSH(ə)n/
noun
noun: absolution; plural noun: absolutions

formal release from guilt, obligation, or punishment.
synonyms: forgiveness, pardon, exoneration, remission, dispensation, indulgence, clemency, mercy; More
discharge, acquittal;
freedom, deliverance, release;
vindication;
formalexculpation;
archaicshrift
"Father, I am a sinful man in need of absolution"
antonyms: punishment, condemnation
an ecclesiastical declaration of forgiveness of sins.


I guess it can be said that people feel better about getting stuff off-their-chest, so to speak.

I know and admit that I am "damaged goods", but I think that forgiveness is easier to obtain from God than from humans. Yes, I am jaded in certain ways...:shrug:

It's ironic that with the people for which receiving an apology is important, that they are the least likely to accept said apology.
 
tnthomas said:

ab·so·lu·tion
ˌabsəˈl(y)o͞oSH(ə)n/
noun
noun: absolution; plural noun: absolutions

formal release from guilt, obligation, or punishment.
synonyms: forgiveness, pardon, exoneration, remission, dispensation, indulgence, clemency, mercy; More
discharge, acquittal;
freedom, deliverance, release;
vindication;
formalexculpation;
archaicshrift
"Father, I am a sinful man in need of absolution"
antonyms: punishment, condemnation
an ecclesiastical declaration of forgiveness of sins.


I guess it can be said that people feel better about getting stuff off-their-chest, so to speak.

I know and admit that I am "damaged goods", but I think that forgiveness is easier to obtain from God than from humans. Yes, I am jaded in certain ways...:shrug:

It's ironic that with the people for which receiving an apology is important, that they are the least likely to accept said apology.
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I think we are all damaged goods. Some people either don't believe in God, or require a more "tangible" forgiveness, that said, there is no guarantee absolution will occur. Yes, those who require apologies are often adverse to accepting them, and rarely apologise themselves. Their guilty *******, how do you plead approach, is sadly lacking in compassion. I call such folks, the frozen people.
 
Sassycakes said:
I never share private info to anyone with the exception of my Sister and my Daughter. Unless my Husband would need to know the info then I wouldn't tell him because if it was something that would annoy him he would confront someone trying to make things right.. As for keeping a secret that someone tells me I would never repeat it to anyone.
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I agree except I wouldn't tell the sister or the daugher. Oh, and husband if needed. Secrets aren't something you should share.
 

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