Ladies married to 10 years younger, Men married to 10 years older??

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Denise1952

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I met a guy awhile back, 10 years younger, just wondering if anyone has a solid relationship with this age difference, but only want to know about older women, with younger men.

I already know men with younger women seems to work out ok. It's hard to be from "the old school" though and take a guy up on a date that is 10 years my junior.

What do you all say? Would love to hear actual "voices of experience" and if you want, you can send me private message on it, I won't tell. Really, I forget most of what I hear;)

Denise
 

I reminded him that when he was 61, I'd be 71. He said that because of a bad pancreas (not cancer though) that I would probably outlive him. I'm beginning to really think less of the "number" thing. A lot of couples look the same age and you would never guess they are 10 years apart, or any number apart. The chemistry thing again, if it's there, then I believe you're right:) Who knows when anyone is leaving Earth, after all. The docs can't even know for sure. My uncle outlived the 6 months they gave him by about 15 years. Go figure.
 

That is always a question I have about younger men, and that is why, when they could have younger. I guess that goes for any age, a man preferring younger, I can understand it, I just wish sometimes the guys that want younger than I, would be interested enough to go out with me. I think too many (including myself) have preconceived ideas about age. I like Phils reply, I think that is true;)
 
Football? Baseball?

Not basketball, I hope - those guys are always on the rebound. It's bad enough the football guys always want to score and the baseball guys just want to run the bases ...
 
Denise my late husband was 12 years younger than me, we had a fantastic relationship, a few friends looked down their nose at us, but once they realised that it was serious they were happy. He took on my daughters as his own no questions and was very proud of his daughters, they adored him.We were so in tune with each other,i knew what he was about to say and visa versa.
I was so lucky to have the love of a man like this he was a very special man, and i miss him so much.
 
Jillaroo said:
Denise my late husband was 12 years younger than me, we had a fantastic relationship, a few friends looked down their nose at us, but once they realised that it was serious they were happy. He took on my daughters as his own no questions and was very proud of his daughters, they adored him.We were so in tune with each other,i knew what he was about to say and visa versa.
I was so lucky to have the love of a man like this he was a very special man, and i miss him so much.
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Thanks Jill, for telling me about him. I am sorry for your loss. I don't think I'll be worrying about age-dif anymore, it really does depend on the person doesn't it, Denise, hugs for you ((((((((((((Jill))))))))))
 
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder: An old saying but true!
My wife is 7 years younger than me, So what's the difference
the other way. We have two sons, five G/Kids & have been together
since 1969.:heart::dontworry:
 
I think the men in my relationships have all been older than me, usually by just a couple of years. I don't think I'd want too much of an age difference, but 10 yrs. is not much in the big picture of things. If I clicked with someone, age would not matter.
 
Denise, Phil hit the nail right on the head.....
Age is just a number and it really depends on the way you feel about yourself.....
If you think old, you will be old......:eek:ld:
I'll be 70 next month and mostly I feel at least 10 years younger than that and am often told I look younger....
Age doesn't worry me at all. :dontworry:
 
I wouldn't have wished to be involved with anyone too much older than myself, my husband is 2.5 years older than me. But the idea of marrying anyone younger would have been awful, imo.
 
Hi nwlady
I really don`t think it matters of the 10 yrs difference.. like Phil says what is age ? but a number.. and I know the age gap can work.. my brother was 25 and his wife 37 when they married and have been happy ever since.. and that is 30 yrs ago.. she is 67 now and he is 55 so more like a match and you never notice it or even think about it just accept it and I love seeing them being so happy.

Nowadays we all tend to live similar lives, do the same things , unlike when our parents were young. and there were clear gaps between the generations..These days its OK to act younger when your older... we have the freedom to choose what lifestyle we want , women are looking younger these days and act younger as no doubt you do too.. I bet you feel and act like your in your 40s..

All I can say is if you are happy and you feel he is the right one for you.. then go for it!!.. I am the other way around my first husband died when I was 23.. married my second husband when I was 26 now he was 41 but we have been married for nearly 40yrs and we still get on fine, although hasn`t always been a bed of roses we are still together..ife is what you make it .and its your choice.. I never think oh he is older! it sort of grows and you accept it.. if you care thats all that matters and if he cares for you too..

And also I think making it a success together has nothing to do with age.. Its about how you create your relationship. if its build on love, respect and communication you`re on a winning formula, no matter how old you are if your in love and enjoy being with one another and he makes you happy who cares? you know brave people follow their hearts not other people`s opinions.. you only have one life so enjoy it !
 
I'd call that young at heart TG;) I am too, but I gravitate towards personalities. If someone laughs at me, they are friend for life, LOL!! And if someone makes me laugh, same thing;)
 
nwlady said:
I met a guy awhile back, 10 years younger, just wondering if anyone has a solid relationship with this age difference, but only want to know about older women, with younger men.

I already know men with younger women seems to work out ok. It's hard to be from "the old school" though and take a guy up on a date that is 10 years my junior.

What do you all say? Would love to hear actual "voices of experience" and if you want, you can send me private message on it, I won't tell. Really, I forget most of what I hear;)

Denise
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what is the big deal about older women with younger men? Much older men have been having relationships with younger women for hundred's of years. Why do you think that there is any difference when it is older women with younger men?;)
 
SifuPhil said:
It's just a number, and as numbers go "10" isn't very big.

Do you like the person? Then age doesn't matter.
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Very true. My husband is nearly 40 years younger, so 10 is really not that much. We get along wonderfully, I have a much better relationship with him than my ex who was the same age as me. I admit I did have a stigma about this before we met, but as our relationship evolved, there was no doubt in my mind he is the right man for me. I have friends who say no way to what I did, not even 5 years younger. They are not happy, senior women should open their doors as they are truly missing out by putting such stringent age limitations on who they want to be with.
 
I can give you my personal experience. I was married to a man that was almost 10 years younger then me. We worked together and I was attracted to him because he had never been married and was a "Christian" and very active in his church. We were married in 1983. He was 28 and I was 37 and I had a son that was 9 years old.

I was very happy and I thought he was, too, but in 1992, I found out differently. He packed up and left (and took the car) one day while I was at work and only left a letter telling me that he had wanted out before the 3rd year of our marriage, but didn't have the courage to say so. He also confessed that he was seeing someone from our church. Nothing like being a hypocrite.

I won't go into the sordid details, but just suffice it to say.....don't get serious if you get in a relationship that may only end in sorrow for you. My ex wanted younger women (which never turned out for him...the idiot!) because he didn't want to be reminded that he was also getting older. He's now 66 and alone.
 

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