helenbacque
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I've always thought perfect solution was a very close friend who lived next door - separate living quarters
Living Alone Should Be Temporary ONLY
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I think he means the loneliness is so great and would be for many who (notice I did not say ALL) have been married for a long time or alone for a very long time, I would start off with dates, then engaged or as one stated next door neighbors. Yet I remember, hearing "not to s**t where you live" in case it does not work out.
I do not think he meant to be an expert....only his take on the loneliness that can swallow one up. Notice I did not say ALL, for those who feel like fighting. Just my take on it.
RadishRose
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But surely after a certain age, marriage is no longer a goal?
I absolutely am in agreement with you.It's interesting to see all these posts and different viewpoints in response to @Mitch86's statement. I respect Mitch's post, and all your posts and wish you all the best of luck!
I've had the opportunity to be in two relationships in my life: a short, abusive relationship with a mentally ill person, and it took me a long time to heal. I thought I was finished with relationships, then I found the love of my life (I wasn't looking, it just happened) and I consider it a miracle. After a rocky start, we both began to trust each other and our marriage became heaven on earth. I told him that it was like living in paradise. I stayed at home and raised our son after being a career woman, and he was the breadwinner. We were sister, brother, mother, father, lover, friend, to each other. We were like two peas in a pod. This was a beautiful feeling to be in love, and it spurred me to write clean love stories based on my own experience. He passed away suddenly after several years of marriage, and it was heart wrenching, like a piece of your body being ripped away. I've been alone since then. Its been 8 years.
About four years ago, I was thinking of doing what Mitch suggested, looking for a love interest. I had experienced a wonderful relationship with my late husband, and wanted to re-experience something like that. Mitch, I did try looking for someone, but it's not easy as we get older. I'm not the only fish in the pond. Many single women are out there looking for good men. Also, I realized how picky I was when offers did come. As men get older, they also come with a lot of baggage, hurts, and ailments. Over these years, I have made friendships, but nothing serious. I am open to a relationship, but I've lived on both sides of the fence and know what will work for me and what won't. I am getting used to living by myself, but I'd also prefer, like a few others here, a relationship. Maybe I'll never find someone like my late husband, but it's worth a try. So don't give up, ladies and gentlemen, if you feel strongly about being alone or being with someone. It's who you are at this stage of your life.
I love reading your beautiful post.
Proves why you did end up with the Joy of your life. How did you meet and maybe a diary of it all yet, a book on it would be bought by me.
I see I look at marriage differently from another angle.
Reading all t he posts very carefully I see the many differences about tying the knot.
Not to be taken lightly a few adjustments in the puzzle of the many people who have not been successful (again I am not claiming to be a expert, just a peek into the formats of a relationship knots and dews..
...continuing to take notes)
I see agreement before the knot is made,
I see a mutual love for each other its the world's greatest kindness is MUTUAL LOVE as one here already attest to.
I never posted that reply.....no I feel why would I ask someone to define theire meaning of what they meant by health issues when I would not want to know.
Seems someone is using my profile to post under my name.
I was suppose to change my password and guess who gave it to me. The one who didn't want to ask that question they wanted to ..I rather not go into anyone's trouble since I myself have had way too many of my own the why I come here to forget my own and try
more positive posts. I have taken the chance all may think my brain is defected at this point.
Bob Seegar
My song Against the Wind
katlupe
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Well, for the record, I am all for love, just not living together or getting married again. That is everyone's choice depending on their own circumstance. Some couples cannot get married due to financial reasons.
oldiebutgoody
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I continue to be amazed that this thread continues and so many other appear on this forum every week. Well ladies, if you want you can always PM me and you won't be alone so you have no more excuses.*
* now watch as some of the gals here puke at that thought
* now watch as some of the gals here puke at that thought
palides2021
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The love stories (clean) that I wrote were all inspired by him! He was in my stories. I never wrote a memoir about our relationship, but he lives in my stories.
I see what you mean. I guess I was just taken aback at his seemingly one sidedness.
Sorry, but to me it sounds like you'd just be looking for another housekeeper/nurse.
I take care of the finances in our household, not because my husband has a "weakness". He just doesn't like doing it.
Nosy Bee-54
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“One of the things that distinguishes between loneliness and isolation is that loneliness has very little to do with quantity, with how many people you interact with, how many groups you belong to,” Hawkley said. “Although there is a relationship (between them), it is not very strong.”
“People can be around others and feel lonely anyway or they can be pretty much solitary souls and not be lonely,”
https://www.cnn.com/2022/02/27/health/loneliness-alone-wellness/index.html
“People can be around others and feel lonely anyway or they can be pretty much solitary souls and not be lonely,”
https://www.cnn.com/2022/02/27/health/loneliness-alone-wellness/index.html