It is most definitely a two way street.
I spent 30+ years contorting myself into all kinds of weird pretzel shapes trying to be what my husband wanted me to be. It was a miserable, wretched time, made so much worse by the fact that he was abusive, domineering, controlling, text book narcissist. Even if he hadn't been any of that, still I wasn't interested in an "Ozzie and Harriet" kind of marriage where's he's the king of his castle and I'm his loyal servant who never complains and is always at his beck and call. Nope. If it's not an equal partnership then it's not worth it.
It doesn't sound like you have any of that going on, but still, your situation sounds less than ideal.
Like you, I'm young for my age lol!
You teach dance? What kind? I'm a ballroom dancer myself!