Long marriages - the secret?

TabbyAnn said:
I know a couple that has been happily married 40 years. Their secret? He provides a big nice home in one state for the wife and kids and grandkids while he lives in an upscale apartment in another state and has numerous affairs. The only people that are unhappy are the women he picks up on singles dating sites when they find out he is married. But it usually takes them a long time.
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That seems more of a weird transactional relationship loaded with tradeoffs, than a marriage. A therapist would have a field day with this couple, individually and together.
 
StarSong said:
That seems more of a weird transactional relationship loaded with tradeoffs, than a marriage. A therapist would have a field day with this couple, individually and together.
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It's an interesting situation. The wife is supported in a lovely home, the husband comes home from his bachelor pad to attend all important family functions, and the only people who seem to need a therapist are his numerous affairs when they realize they've been duped. But who knows???
 

If you combine my current marriage of 35 years with the first one of 20 years, then I have 55 years. However if time served isn't counted, then just 35 for me. I submit that time served in two prisons, is counted as one, so why not two marriages? In my case the second one has been very good, so maybe that disqualifies me under the time served law. :sneaky:
 
Rose65 said:
Marriage, not easy. Let's face it, the heady phase must fade away sooner or later. Reality sets in and soon sobers you up. The very things you thought so cute or that don't matter, do. Daily domestic drudgery comes along. It is that which can be the enemy to happiness.

Could it be said that those with the greatest patience, stamina, self discipline and ability to accept reality are the ones that last longest?

There probably comes a certain crossroads when you decide, maybe not even consciously, whether you will continue or cut your losses. If you can get past that time, that's when the rewards truly build and eventually become a treasure trove sustained into old age. Then only death will part you.

Sweet elderly couples married for an eternity get asked the question. What's the secret?
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two words

YES DEAR !!!!
 
we've been married 65 years, married young. Our oldest will be retiring in a few months, that's just weird!! I wish someone would have told me when I was shopping for a husband that ears were sold separately. The secret? A good sense of humor.
 
CallMeKate said:
Doggone, Dave, I do believe that's the sweetest thing I've heard in a very long time! @DaveA 💕
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My parents always walked with Mum's arm in Dad's. He always held a door open for her. Even when he retired, he always bought Mum a cup of tea to drink in bed, He bought a small trolley because he had Parkinson's as his hands trembled. They were such a loving couple and as Mum passed away first, my Dad tried to say in muffled tone, " She was the best". He died 3 months after her.
 

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