Men do not get pregnant! Couples should stop saying that they are, IMHO.

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Oldpawn

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This has bothered me as it sounds absurd. Men play their part, but only women get pregnant.
 

I totally agree Oldpawn. The first time I heard that was when my son in law said it. I didn't say anything but thought it was an odd way to put it. I don't think it was said when I was pregnant back in the early 70s. If I had heard my hubby use that phrase I would have told him I'll carry it around for 9 months and then you go to the hospital and have it. Then he can say "we". Sunny I think, we are expecting a baby is much more acceptable.

Actually when I was growing up in the 50s my family never even used the word pregnant. It was always, "going to have a baby".
 
Ruth n Jersey said:
I totally agree Oldpawn. The first time I heard that was when my son in law said it. I didn't say anything but thought it was an odd way to put it. I don't think it was said when I was pregnant back in the early 70s. If I had heard my hubby use that phrase I would have told him I'll carry it around for 9 months and then you go to the hospital and have it. Then he can say "we". Sunny I think, we are expecting a baby is much more acceptable.

Actually when I was growing up in the 50s my family never even used the word pregnant. It was always, "going to have a baby".
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My grandmother told me that she had asked her mother, "What does pregnant mean?" and her mother slapped her and said, "If you want to talk alley talk, go out into the alley and do it!"

Back then, no "proper" woman was pregnant. She was "in an interesting condition" or "expecting a little visitor from heaven" or daringly "in the family way".

I have a letter that was written by my great-grandmother to my grandmother, telling her that my grandmother's younger sister was expecting. How she put it was, "Well, your sister is wearing a different sort of dress these days."
 
Warrigal said:
Oldpawn wrote:
"Men do not get pregnant! Couples should stop saying that they are, IMHO."

Warrigal wrote:

I agree. It is very odd IMO to say "We are pregnant".
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I'm with you two (and the others on this one), though I suppose it is not the most annoying thing you'll hear these days IMHO.

I doubt it will make any man a more responsible father if that is what it is designed to do, but can't see too many down sides either (except that it kind of screws your mind to hear two people say they are pregnant when only one carries the baby).
 
I think men say it that way because they've been convinced (pressured into thinking) it makes the mother feel they are really in this together. That said, I don't like it either. Doesn't bug me a whole lot, I just think it's silly.
 
Well, it's obvious that the woman is pregnant (or will be obvious in time) so the only way for it to be obvious about who is the father is for him to say "we're pregnant". You know, these days, one can't always be sure. :playful:
 
Can't remeber who said this but...........

chic said:
It really doesn't bother me. It's just words. If it makes a man feel more committed to the relationship and his unborn child then fine. Say we're pregnant.
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I can't remember who said this, someone famous if I'm right, but I'm told words do matter in this world, because the way we use words leads to understanding, and to some extent should not be debased by making them mean something obviously preposterous.

That said it doesn't bother me as much as the OP really, as so many words are being twisted aren't they, (I hope I can say that without appearing too political?).
 
If the man was excited about the pregnancy and expressed it as "we are pregnant" then I would probably congratulate him, rejoice with him and if agreeable to the pregnant couple, I would plan a baby shower where the mom and dad were both included and put "come celebrate with the pregnant couple" on the invitations.
 

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