My name isn't "dear", "dearie" or "hon"

hearlady said:
I think they're just trying to be nice.
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So do I. I've been called Hon in a friendly way by other women for many years, don't think it has anything to do with age. I likely said it myself after a friendly chat with someone. Now, if men start calling me those types of names, it's different. Too many years of being hit on, and I usually stop them in their tracks. Now, if an older man says something like that in an innocent way, I'll let it slide. IMO, you have to feel the vibe and do what comes naturally. Generally, in my experience, the women who use those terms regularly were likely raised to do so and mean no harm.
 
Leann said:
I don't get rankled easily but lately I've noticed that young women have started calling me "dear", "dearie" or "hon". Case in point, I was paying for some groceries last week and as the cashier was giving me my change, she said "thanks, dear". Later the same day I had a similar instance where another person called me "hon". I realize I'm not a young chick but I must be an old hen to these younger people. I don't mind if someone calls me "ma'am" but the other names ... no. It sounds insulting to me.

Have you encountered anything similar?
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Yes,, but endearments don't bother me at all. I just do not see any insult. Why would I?
 
One of my previous forums had posters known as members of " The Old Hags Club", does that count?
Dear and Luv are quite normal terms of endearment in areas and places in the UK as is Duck.

Got that Buddy?
 
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Llynn said:
There is a cashier down at the village grocery who calls me honey or dear every time she waits on me. She also open carries a 40 cal automatic on her hip every day so I have never felt like bringing the issue of pet names up with her. We just get along fine.
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I think you meant to say...A 40 caliber SEMI AUTOMATIC pistol. One that fires a round, each time you pull the trigger. An "automatic pistol " would keep on firing, as long as you hold back the trigger, and there is remaining ammunition in the magazine. AS a Canadian, I shudder at the idea of living in a place where where store clerks are armed like Police. JimB.
 
Myrtle said:
I think they usually mean well and in this day of not enough employees and poor customer service I'm just happy that they aren't ignoring me.
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I agree. At least being acknowledged for a puchase is a good thing.

I've been called so many names, that if someone calls me an endearment, stranger or not, I'm OK. It's better than being called something else.

But if it bothers someone, that's valid also.
 

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