My name isn't "dear", "dearie" or "hon"

Worse than calling me sweetie or honey are the ones who always sign of on a phone call with I love you. Really? You hardly know me. Do you expect me to say it back? I awkwardly mumble something meaningless like OK so we'll talk again.
 

I just want the people I meet to dislike or like me in their own way,
not take offense to what I call them ! ..... .... ... .. . Boom! .....

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We can be friends, but I won't kiss your ass!
 

horseless carriage said:
When you are dealing with customers, like a retail shop, or clients on a business to business basis, if you address the gentlemen as "Sir," then surely addressing a lady by way of endearment, has to be patronising, condescending and sexist, or am I just too old fashioned?
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I'm as apt to call a man Sweetie, Dear or Hon as I am a woman. Never had a man call me out on it. Or a woman, for that matter.

People know when they're being disrespected and I'm not disrespectful.
 
If many people find these terms belittling, why is it still ok to keep using them. They certainly aren’t necessary.
 
A lady working cashier at a Moto Mart put on her Bitchy Witch Hat and I said she was a honey of a Witch. She Laughed.
Was it Popular or Poplar! Is it Payton or Painting. ... :coffee: ...
 
I actually call everyone dear nowadays - when I was working at a local college, the students seemed to like it. When I'm on the phone ordering pizza, when I'm in Fabricland and the ladies are helping me, and they call me dear as well. When I'm on the phone with Telus, they seem to want to help me more when I call them dear. Also, I don't mind being called Hon, love, darling, any of those. When people are calling you these names, usually they like you and want to help you.
 
I can understand offense being taken. Endearments may seem chummy and overly personal when used in a professional setting. My grandmother would have been insulted.
But I don't think taking options away from people is a good idea and the endearments allow us to know more about where a person is coming from, what they're about. I'm glad people are allowed to reveal themselves.
I have an adult grandson who calls me by my first name. I take it he doesn't like me and I'm grateful to know it.
 
Leann said:
I don't get rankled easily but lately I've noticed that young women have started calling me "dear", "dearie" or "hon". Case in point, I was paying for some groceries last week and as the cashier was giving me my change, she said "thanks, dear". Later the same day I had a similar instance where another person called me "hon". I realize I'm not a young chick but I must be an old hen to these younger people. I don't mind if someone calls me "ma'am" but the other names ... no. It sounds insulting to me.

Have you encountered anything similar?
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Young people get up and give me their seat on the bus. I say, "Thank you very much!" What do you say? Kindness should be repayed with kindness.
 
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