My Wedding Band... When to Remove it, or Keep it On?

I removed my wedding band as soon as I escaped from my abusive ex, even though in my mind the marriage had been over for several years. I just had to find a way to escape safely. He would have had a fit if he didn’t see it on my finger before then.

If Ron dies before me, I’ll continue to wear my wedding and engagement rings, because I’ll still feel married even if he’s not around. If I ever got to the point where I didn’t feel married any longer (presumably that would be if I became interested in dating again) I’d probably just move them to my other hand. They’re lovely pieces of jewelry and I adore them.
 
Supernatural said:
However, when should I stop wearing my wedding band since technically, as a widow, I'm no longer married?

Sorry to ask, I'm curious and confused as this particular situation. Thanks!
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It is a beautiful piece of jewelry that someone you loved deeply gifted to you. Wear it as long as you want. If it is the left hand, ring finger symbolism that you want to avoid, have it resized to fit another finger or have it turned into a pendant.
 
Supernatural said:
Strange question, maybe, but I'm wondering. In a case of divorce, acquaintances told me, they remove their wedding band within 6 months. Some even on the day the finalisation comes through.

However, when should I stop wearing my wedding band since technically, as a widow, I'm no longer married?

Sorry to ask, I'm curious and confused as this particular situation. Thanks!
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I still wear my wedding band although my husband died 14 years ago. I told my boys that when I die, remove the band and include it with my other gold jewellery and sell it off and share the profits.
 
I kept my wedding ring on for several years after my husband died. Around the fifth year, I decided to take it off. But more recently, I put it on again. It has 10 small diamonds (for our 10th wedding anniversary). It's been ten years since his passing. I also noticed that since I put it back on, people I deal with on a daily basis (shopping, bank, etc). show me more respect. I'm not sure if I'm correct, but that's how it feels like. As if I am with "someone" and not alone.
 
oscash said:
I still wear my wedding band although my husband died 14 years ago. I told my boys that when I die, remove the band and include it with my other gold jewellery and sell it off and share the profits.
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As I had stated on this thread, my wife passed away 9 years ago; I still do and will always wear my wedding band for the rest of my life. It is the one and only item I plan to take with me. I would suggest that you consider doing that with your wedding band.
 
That’s A personal matter. Whatever you decide is OK.

When my wife left me and the kids, I wore my wedding band on a string around my neck. I pretty much knew she was not coming back but, hope springs eternal……..

when the divorce was final I took it off permanently. It’s in a drawer someplace.

I suspect had we stayed together I would have worn it for years afterwards.
 
Supernatural said:
Strange question, maybe, but I'm wondering. In a case of divorce, acquaintances told me, they remove their wedding band within 6 months. Some even on the day the finalisation comes through.

However, when should I stop wearing my wedding band since technically, as a widow, I'm no longer married?

Sorry to ask, I'm curious and confused as this particular situation. Thanks!
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In the case of widowhood, the correct answer is whatever you decide. It is what your heart tells you to do. It's heartbreaking no matter what.

For divorce I do not know.
 
I asked this same question a few years ago. My wife passed away in 2016, and some one suggested "she will let you know". So I continued to wear it until 2018, when in the morning shower, the ring simply fell off my finger. Soapy water and all that. I let her know I got the message and put it in a small box of memories.

Damn, I miss her.
 
mrstime said:
I will never take off my wedding band, we have been married 65 years, so obviously no divorce. Only death will separate us, at which time our son will take DH's band (seldom worn because of his work) and mine and my grandma's little ring and turn them into a ring he can wear.
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66 years now!
 
Buckeye said:
I asked this same question a few years ago. My wife passed away in 2016, and some one suggested "she will let you know". So I continued to wear it until 2018, when in the morning shower, the ring simply fell off my finger. Soapy water and all that. I let her know I got the message and put it in a small box of memories.

Damn, I miss her.
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I'm so sorry, the grief is so very hard. You must be feeling lost, lonely without her.
It is entirely your choice what to do with all things, such as your ring, her clothes and items. You can only deal with such in your time when you feel ready.
It will likely help if you can talk to other widowers as they understand how it is. Yet each person's path is individual.
 
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