Nice People: It Must Be Said But Saying It Won't Help

PeppermintPatty said:
Not ALL people who live alone are kind. Some are just as introverted ; they don’t like being around people. Some are just narcissistic; others don’t like being around them. There is a huge difference.
Click to expand...
True. I know a man who's a friend of my family who lives alone and enjoys his solitude which is great because I discovered he's an absolute monster, People probably avoid him because he's toxic.
 
dilettante said:
This thread makes a pretty good Rorschach test.
Click to expand...
The patient was shown the first 'blot' to which he replied, "sex". To the second 'blot' he replied, "sex". So too the third, the fourth, the fifth, and the sixth. The doctor couldn't resisting speaking out, "My oh my, you have a dirty mind!" to which the patient said, "Me?! You're the one with all of the dirty pictures!"
 

There is something about the way nice is defined in the video that I find strange. It shows people who are mature, capable, loving people and the society that is selfish that they have to deal with. All people are either or nice/mature or selfish and shallow.

I would lean towards the nice person, and at times I encounter a selfish person who doesn't like me or thinks my ideas stupid. But not very many. I continue to do the best I can with others and make/have many friends.

I don't need a pack of friends but I am really not alone. Maybe I am not nice enough. :)
 
MGTOW is probably the best method of ending life’s main source of frustration. “Just walk away”. No confrontation. THAT’S THE WHOLE MESSAGE. Beautiful - and it makes you the nice guy.

 
OldFeller said:
I'm introverted and enjoy my own company over that of others. In a short conversation you would get the impression that I'm open to people but you'd be disappointed the next time when I had nothing to say.

However, I like talking to people I've known all my life. Primarily my kids and a few friends.

I find that people are more interested in themselves so I would have to be just as interested in them as they are. Which explains why I like to talk to my kids.

I have one friend ever since grade school who calls me twice a year and we talk a couple hours on the phone. He's extroverted from a large family and his comfort zone is socializing. He's got more people and their stories in his head than anyone should have.

Another friend since high school I enjoy talking to but he's like me and prefers his own company to that of others. He let's you know that he's busy. But we can talk awhile on the phone.
Click to expand...
I could have written this. My DH is also from a big family and is likely the one that calls you twice a year! LOL. When I am quiet my DH always says "What's wrong?". I have to reassure him I just have nothing to say at the moment?
 
I'm happily single but I wouldn't say I was 'alone' apart from living alone. I have a good social network and friends some of whom I've known for decades while others are more recent. Something I read recently along the lines of 'if you stop creating you just become a consumer' - I think the point is to remain interested in something. That way your personal life becomes more interesting than any possibly non-existent relationship.
 
People tell me I'm a nice guy, and yes, I am alone. (In that discussion, my son doesn't count.) But I'm alone now for one simple reason. My wife was the love of my life, before she passed away she told me to find another wife. I told her that she would be a very hard act to follow.
 

You must log in or register to reply here.

Back
Top