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Blessed said:
Such an exciting time. I saw the picture of the home you posted. Lookd like you both will be very happy there. Keeps us updated as you make it your own, decorating, updating the garden how you want. Are you going to keep the little awning, I love it.
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The awning stays. :giggle:
 

You need to tell them all that has gone on but try not to get upset, angry at them. The do (CPS) deserve it but I hope they review the complete case from the time Paxton was born. I want you to still be in the position of his foster parent. If they decide to remove her parental rights, which they should, hope they see the Dad is not in the position to raise a child as well. I would hope that they would allow you the opportunity to adopt him if that is what the both of you want.
 
THE KIDS ARE IN CPS CUSTODY!!!

Police stepped in and made sure the kids were taken from their mom! Jackie has a security device in her house and it recorded Tara hitting Paxton, screaming at him, and calling him names! Jackie called the police and showed the recording to them, and they forwarded it to a CPS intake specialist, and the kids were taken a couple hours later.

Jackie said one of the cops was particularly disturbed by the recording, visually upset, so she told him about how Amador County (where the kids are now) messed up 100% when they took the kids before and asked him to ask Sacramento County CPS to take the case. He said he'd look into it. It's real iffy, but with several complaints filed against Amador over the previous case, there is a chance...if the cop does look into it.

Anyway, the kids are currently with an emergency placement foster family. Jacki won't know exactly where for at least a few days, maybe not til next week or even the week after (that's how CPS rolls). They are together. I hope the people they're with are good-hearted and nice.
 
Fingers tightly crossed that these kids are taken away from that malicious *itch. Somehow I feel that you’d be content to know that they’re all in a good place and safely away from her. It’s heartbreaking knowing little innocents are being destroyed because of failure of the system. Maybe there’s hope now.
 
Jules said:
Fingers tightly crossed that these kids are taken away from that malicious *itch. Somehow I feel that you’d be content to know that they’re all in a good place and safely away from her. It’s heartbreaking knowing little innocents are being destroyed because of failure of the system. Maybe there’s hope now.
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Absolutely. A loving, energetic, 100% sober couple (y) ...(or person)
 
Teacher Terry said:
I really hope that those poor kids go up for adoption. I was a social worker for 4 years working with abused children and it was such difficult work.
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I worked for an adoption/foster care private agency that contracted with the city. Although I saw sad/awful things I saw happiness and joy as well. We had a great bunch of foster parents. I started in foster care, then went to the natural parent dept. and also arranged adoptions.
 
Pepper said:
I worked for an adoption/foster care private agency that contracted with the city. Although I saw sad/awful things I saw happiness and joy as well. We had a great bunch of foster parents. I started in foster care, then went to the natural parent dept. and also arranged adoptions.
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I almost PMed you about this last night.

Tara will argue crap like "I didn't hit him that hard" and "It was a really bad day" "First time for everything, won't happen again" and whatever else she can grasp at. But this is the 3rd time CPS seized the kids, and the 2nd time her parental rights are on the line.

Today at 2pm, she has a court hearing (if not an actual trial). In your estimation, just you guessing, what are her odds of getting the kids back? Also, I just want to mention she got kicked out of the "mission home" and her and the kids moved to a motel....on the county's dime. Also, she's not working and is, in her words, too busy to look for work.

And, per the kids' father, Tara's on 2 "casual" dating sites and leaves the kids with anybody who's willing to babysit while she has these sex-only rendezvous, and she's been emailing with various people about making sure the kids never see their dad and anyone on dad's side of the family and this old guy the kids call "Uncle Frank"....but I doubt he'll give the court all that info. He hacked her phone to get it. Plus, he and Tara are still under a no-contact order.
 
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Finally got a call from the kids' CPS caseworker this morning. Her name is Shannon, and Shannon is a permanency worker, or whatever they title the person who's job is to place kids in a foster home that intends to adopt.

I didn't get much information, like, she wouldn't tell me where the kids are right now, but she will set up visitation, but that depends on what happens in court today. It's clear there's a lot riding on this hearing. Tara could lose her parental rights, and if she does, Shannon will immediately make the kids available for adoption.

She said younger applicant parents will get first consideration, and I told her I'm fine with that. Also, she said it's extremely unlikely Jackie will be their adoptive parent, but CPS will request an open adoption so she can still be their "Gaga". Also, I could still be their Uncle Frank.

She said she'll call me Monday.

In other news, we've started moving stuff to the "new" house.
 
Results of yesterday's hearing: Tara (mom) is prohibited from any contact with the kids, and no third-party may contact the kids on her behalf. She requested visitation with only the twins. Request denied. (because she's accused of exposing them to Paxton's abuse)

Paxton was examined at a hospital prior to yesterday's hearing. Several abuse injuries were discovered, old and new, including a severe one on his spine and at least 4 on his head. :mad:

Turns out his preschool teacher called CPS several times over the past 4 or 5 months to report suspected abuse. No response from CPS except the one time they asked Paxton how he got those scratches and bruises on his face and thighs, and he said "I fell." No further questions. :mad:

Paxton and the twins are currently in a home with foster parents who are licensed to foster and already pre-approved to adopt. For the next 2 or 3 weeks, no one can visit the kids except social workers, home-health workers, and the kids' attorney, and they'll get half-days preschool for a little while. This is so the parents get more time with the kids than other foster parents get, so they can all get acquainted more intimately, and decide if they want to adopt.

This home is in El Dorado County, which indicates Amador County searched farther than normal to find appropriate placement. I'm taking that as a good sign. I'm assuming Amador CPS doesn't want to make any more glaring blunders than they already have.

El Dorado County is pretty and spacious. It has quaint towns and a few big cities. Folsom, Calif is in El Dorado County. The largest city within the county is South Lake Tahoe. There's lots of farmland and hills, rivers and lakes. Part of it is in the Sierras. I feel good about that, especially if the foster parents are typical EDC residents...decent down-to-earth folks.
 
I sill want Paxton with you. I appreciate that the foster family is taking all 3 kids together. I hope that the system will recognize that he has a very big attachment to you, having raised him from birth. I would think if they asked him where he would want to be it would be with Uncle Frank. I know you could work well with the other family that might adopt the twins. You would make sure that Paxton had a good, loving home and frequent time with his siblings,

I will pray every night that you will have the opportunity to be his forever Dad!!
 
Murrmurr said:
Results of yesterday's hearing: Tara (mom) is prohibited from any contact with the kids, and no third-party may contact the kids on her behalf. She requested visitation with only the twins. Request denied. (because she's accused of exposing them to Paxton's abuse)

Paxton was examined at a hospital prior to yesterday's hearing. Several abuse injuries were discovered, old and new, including a severe one on his spine and at least 4 on his head. :mad:

Turns out his preschool teacher called CPS several times over the past 4 or 5 months to report suspected abuse. No response from CPS except the one time they asked Paxton how he got those scratches and bruises on his face and thighs, and he said "I fell." No further questions. :mad:

Paxton and the twins are currently in a home with foster parents who are licensed to foster and already pre-approved to adopt. For the next 2 or 3 weeks, no one can visit the kids except social workers, home-health workers, and the kids' attorney, and they'll get half-days preschool for a little while. This is so the parents get more time with the kids than other foster parents get, so they can all get acquainted more intimately, and decide if they want to adopt.

This home is in El Dorado County, which indicates Amador County searched farther than normal to find appropriate placement. I'm taking that as a good sign. I'm assuming Amador CPS doesn't want to make any more glaring blunders than they already have.

El Dorado County is pretty and spacious. It has quaint towns and a few big cities. Folsom, Calif is in El Dorado County. The largest city within the county is South Lake Tahoe. There's lots of farmland and hills, rivers and lakes. Part of it is in the Sierras. I feel good about that, especially if the foster parents are typical EDC residents...decent down-to-earth folks.
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@Murrmurr

Holding onto hope for the children. The tide has to turn, and it has to be now.

It saddens me that Paxton feels the need to lie about his injuries, to protect either himself or his mother.

I hope they find a good home, with a loving couple to grow with.
 
Blessed said:
I sill want Paxton with you. I appreciate that the foster family is taking all 3 kids together. I hope that the system will recognize that he has a very big attachment to you, having raised him from birth. I would think if they asked him where he would want to be it would be with Uncle Frank. I know you could work well with the other family that might adopt the twins. You would make sure that Paxton had a good, loving home and frequent time with his siblings,

I will pray every night that you will have the opportunity to be his forever Dad!!
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Knowing that when Paxton is 14 - a really challenging age for boys, when sex and violence and drugs and alcohol are just a few of the diversions and confusions - I will be 80. Who knows how far my spinal disease and deformities will have advanced, not to mention the arthritis. Will I have dementia? Be back in a wheelchair?

Paxton deserves....no, he NEEDS a strong, capable father figure. Someone who will take him hiking and camping, or practice sports with him, or build sheds and dog-houses with him - whatever kind of physical stuff he's into. Playing his drums, even. Boys need physical outlets at that age, I don't care what anyone says.

I wish I was younger and healthier, I really do. Paxton deserves a "whole" father. He totally deserves that. He's a great little guy under all the damage that's been done over the past year. He's helpful and really clever, and void of prejudice....or, he was, but I believe those qualities are still in there. And capable parents can bring his happiness back, and eradicate his fear.

If Paxton gets a great new dad, I will be super happy to remain Uncle Frank. If not, this dad-battle isn't over, I assure you.
 
Pinky said:
@Murrmurr

Holding onto hope for the children. The tide has to turn, and it has to be now.

It saddens me that Paxton feels the need to lie about his injuries, to protect either himself or his mother.

I hope they find a good home, with a loving couple to grow with.
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He lied because she promised worse if he didn't. And the poor guy doesn't know who he can trust. The one time he told his teacher that his bruises were from his mom, the teacher called his mom, right in front of him! And he caught hell when he got home.

So yeah, it's extremely saddening when he lies about the abuse.
 
Murrmurr said:
Knowing that when Paxton is 14 - a really challenging age for boys, when sex and violence and drugs and alcohol are just a few of the diversions and confusions - I will be 80. Who knows how far my spinal disease and deformities will have advanced, not to mention the arthritis. Will I have dementia? Be back in a wheelchair?

Paxton deserves....no, he NEEDS a strong, capable father figure. Someone who will take him hiking and camping, or practice sports with him, or build sheds and dog-houses with him - whatever kind of physical stuff he's into. Playing his drums, even. Boys need physical outlets at that age, I don't care what anyone says.

I wish I was younger and healthier, I really do. Paxton deserves a "whole" father. He totally deserves that. He's a great little guy under all the damage that's been done over the past year. He's helpful and really clever, and void of prejudice....or, he was, but I believe those qualities are still in there. And capable parents can bring his happiness back, and eradicate his fear.

If Paxton gets a great new dad, I will be super happy to remain Uncle Frank. If not, this dad-battle isn't over, I assure you.
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