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Murrmurr said:
Word is Paxton's mother moved to Texas. Her fiance, Paxton's father, is still in a Calif prison.

Oh, and she's pregnant.

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Given their previous history, that's very sad news for the new life they have created.

Are the laws regarding custody different in Texas? Is she moving to avoid the possibility of losing custody of the newborn?
 
Trish said:
Given their previous history, that's very sad news for the new life they have created.

Are the laws regarding custody different in Texas? Is she moving to avoid the possibility of losing custody of the newborn?
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Melanie's the person who told me about this, and she said Tara is probably trying to avoid Calif CPS.

See, Tara appealed the Calif Supreme Court's decision to terminate her parental rights to Paxton (and the twins), and if that appeal isn't resolved yet, then she still has an open case w/CPS. That gives CPS the right to drug-screen Tara (with 2-weeks prior notice) and to request her and the new baby's blood tests and medical records. If she's avoiding this, it's because she's still using drugs, obviously...or at least drinking and/or smoking weed.

Also, Tara's "fiance", Paxton's father, is not the father of this new baby. He's been in prison for about 2 years.

Melanie works with Paxton's foster parents. They all work at the same hospital. One of them told her that Tara moved to Texas. The only way they would know that is if Paxton's caseworker told them. But the pregnancy part is probably conjecture. Why would Tara tell the CPS caseworker she's pregnant? Even if she did, it would be unethical for the caseworker to tell the foster parents.

So, I'm not sure about that part.
 
Murrmurr said:
Melanie's the person who told me about this, and she said Tara is probably trying to avoid Calif CPS.

See, Tara appealed the Calif Supreme Court's decision to terminate her parental rights to Paxton (and the twins), and if that appeal isn't resolved yet, then she still has an open case w/CPS. That gives CPS the right to drug-screen Tara (with 2-weeks prior notice) and to request her and the new baby's blood tests and medical records. If she's avoiding this, it's because she's still using drugs, obviously...or at least drinking and/or smoking weed.

Also, Tara's "fiance", Paxton's father, is not the father of this new baby. He's been in prison for about 2 years.

Melanie works with Paxton's foster parents. They all work at the same hospital. One of them told her that Tara moved to Texas. The only way they would know that is if Paxton's caseworker told them. But the pregnancy part is probably conjecture. Why would Tara tell the CPS caseworker she's pregnant? Even if she did, it would be unethical for the caseworker to tell the foster parents.

So, I'm not sure about that part.
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It seems the most logical answer as to why she would move, that or she is hoping to avoid someone closer to home, a debt or the fiance?

Whatever the reason, she does not sound like someone who is making an effort in the hope of regaining parental rights. I think you said that her mother was not in touch with her but, if someone has tipped off the caseworker, it might be her mother in an attempt to save another grandchild from the chaos of life with Tara? :(
 
Trish said:
It seems the most logical answer as to why she would move, that or she is hoping to avoid someone closer to home, a debt or the fiance?

Whatever the reason, she does not sound like someone who is making an effort in the hope of regaining parental rights. I think you said that her mother was not in touch with her but, if someone has tipped off the caseworker, it might be her mother in an attempt to save another grandchild from the chaos of life with Tara? :(
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Interesting take. And that's possible.
 
Pepper said:
Life is a crap shoot, isn't it? Some of us luckier than others since before one is even born.
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Makes me wish people could be forced by a court to be sterilized. For free. Some of the reasons would be unresolved history of child abuse, 3 or more significant CPS cases, chronic drug addiction and alcoholism, pedophilia...stuff like that. Maybe even chronic unemployment. Things with statistics that prove that, if you have kids, you're going to ruin them forever.
 
I've decided to stop driving. My legs haven't been working well for almost a month now and it keeps getting worse. They just don't respond like they should, and more and more often, one of them will go completely numb; usually the right leg, occasionally the left. That comes on kind of gradually and very painfully. Like, the pain swells, increasing in intensity until the leg finally goes numb. And that's a relief, but then, of course, I can't walk....or apply the breaks when I need to stop my car.

The numbness lasts anywhere from 10 minutes to a couple hours. Decompressing my spine by hanging upside-down for a while makes it stop most of the time, but it's really hard getting to the chin-bar and setting it up, and then getting my legs over it, so if it happens shortly before Michelle gets home, I wait. I could call one of my sons, but I don't.

Anyway, I gave the van to my granddaughter. She lost her job a while back, and sold her car so she could pay the rent and stuff until she got another job, which she did a couple weeks ago. So, she'll use the van until she can afford a good used car, and she promised to respect and protect Paxton's paint job on it. No drive-thru car washes and no detergents; just hose it down and dry it off. Soft towels are in the back.

Meanwhile, I'm scheduled for a spinal MRI. My spine doc ordered images several months ago, and he said then that there isn't anything he can do to correct the problem, but he'll take another look. It's possible the problem wasn't visible 6 months ago. He did see a small cyst there, but it's definitely benign and it wasn't directly on the spinal cord or in contact with any nerves. Maybe that changed. We'll see. Shouldn't hurt to take it out, anyway, imo.

And I dug my old walker out of the storage room. It's leaning against the wall over there, handy in case I need it. Just looking at it is a bummer. I won't be going on walks anymore, also a bummer. I still work in the yard, though, where I'm close to home. I ordered groceries online and the first delivery arrived today. This is going to work out nicely. The delivery fee is about $10 and the driver's fee is $6 and change, but I'll only do one major order a month, so that's not too bad.

One of the things I ordered was a bunch of bananas, and I saw the bananas got only a 2-star review. How the hell do bananas get a poor rating? I ordered them just to find out. Sure enough, they're bananas...just plain ol' bananas. Nothing wrong with them that I can see. They're more green than I'd have hand-chosen, so the actual taste test will be in a couple days or so. But I think they'll probly taste like bananas. My guess.

Just found that whole thing amusing... 1) rating bananas, and 2) rating them 2 stars.
Banana-rating people. That's kinda weird. 🙃
 
I can identify with giving up the wheels,......I startted noticing
that my attention span was not spot on, I would let my thinking
drift off to some nonsense, so I just decided to give up driving,
sold the car to my lawn guy for his daughter and she still has
it....!!
 
A few months ago DH give up driving and gave the car to our son. Then a couple of months ago he (our son) moved in with us to help us because he realized we just weren't able to do everything. He has been so helpful, and he actually cooks for us a couple of times a week. We are so lucky that he is our son.
 
Having to use my walker today, and that works if I'm lucky. My legs are still not listening to my brain.

But my brain's kind of effed up, too. My world didn't get any opiates this month, so nonoNorco. So, today I'm leanin' heavy on the gummys, and trippin'-out all day, going from my recliner to the bed to the recliner. When I wanna bother.

And, it's a weekend. Pharmacies don't do squat on the weekend.
 
Murrmurr said:
Having to use my walker today, and that works if I'm lucky. My legs are still not listening to my brain.

But my brain's kind of effed up, too. My world didn't get any opiates this month, so nonoNorco. So, today I'm leanin' heavy on the gummys, and trippin'-out all day, going from my recliner to the bed to the recliner. When I wanna bother.

And, it's a weekend. Pharmacies don't do squat on the weekend.
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I just read about this just now. Sorry to read this is happening to you.

Your last post was about going to the doctor. Did they find anything?

You generally sound upbeat. I hope there's an answer to this for you. Take care.
 
mrstime said:
A few months ago DH give up driving and gave the car to our son. Then a couple of months ago he (our son) moved in with us to help us because he realized we just weren't able to do everything. He has been so helpful, and he actually cooks for us a couple of times a week. We are so lucky that he is our son.
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well.. he's also lucky that you're his mum and dad.. because you made him the generous , kind spirit that he is... 🧡
 
Murrmurr said:
I've decided to stop driving. My legs haven't been working well for almost a month now and it keeps getting worse. They just don't respond like they should, and more and more often, one of them will go completely numb; usually the right leg, occasionally the left. That comes on kind of gradually and very painfully. Like, the pain swells, increasing in intensity until the leg finally goes numb. And that's a relief, but then, of course, I can't walk....or apply the breaks when I need to stop my car.

The numbness lasts anywhere from 10 minutes to a couple hours. Decompressing my spine by hanging upside-down for a while makes it stop most of the time, but it's really hard getting to the chin-bar and setting it up, and then getting my legs over it, so if it happens shortly before Michelle gets home, I wait. I could call one of my sons, but I don't.

Anyway, I gave the van to my granddaughter. She lost her job a while back, and sold her car so she could pay the rent and stuff until she got another job, which she did a couple weeks ago. So, she'll use the van until she can afford a good used car, and she promised to respect and protect Paxton's paint job on it. No drive-thru car washes and no detergents; just hose it down and dry it off. Soft towels are in the back.

Meanwhile, I'm scheduled for a spinal MRI. My spine doc ordered images several months ago, and he said then that there isn't anything he can do to correct the problem, but he'll take another look. It's possible the problem wasn't visible 6 months ago. He did see a small cyst there, but it's definitely benign and it wasn't directly on the spinal cord or in contact with any nerves. Maybe that changed. We'll see. Shouldn't hurt to take it out, anyway, imo.

And I dug my old walker out of the storage room. It's leaning against the wall over there, handy in case I need it. Just looking at it is a bummer. I won't be going on walks anymore, also a bummer. I still work in the yard, though, where I'm close to home. I ordered groceries online and the first delivery arrived today. This is going to work out nicely. The delivery fee is about $10 and the driver's fee is $6 and change, but I'll only do one major order a month, so that's not too bad.

One of the things I ordered was a bunch of bananas, and I saw the bananas got only a 2-star review. How the hell do bananas get a poor rating? I ordered them just to find out. Sure enough, they're bananas...just plain ol' bananas. Nothing wrong with them that I can see. They're more green than I'd have hand-chosen, so the actual taste test will be in a couple days or so. But I think they'll probly taste like bananas. My guess.

Just found that whole thing amusing... 1) rating bananas, and 2) rating them 2 stars.
Banana-rating people. That's kinda weird. 🙃
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Frank, I'm sorry you're in so much pain and gave up driving, but I admire you for that. It would be a shame if you pushed yourself and something horrible happened on the road. I had to stop driving last year due to my poor vision. My husband has a lot of leg pain and walks with two canes in the house, but he still can drive safely. I hope you can find some relief, please take care of yourself. 💙
 
Murrmurr said:
Having to use my walker today, and that works if I'm lucky. My legs are still not listening to my brain.

But my brain's kind of effed up, too. My world didn't get any opiates this month, so nonoNorco. So, today I'm leanin' heavy on the gummys, and trippin'-out all day, going from my recliner to the bed to the recliner. When I wanna bother.

And, it's a weekend. Pharmacies don't do squat on the weekend.
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My daughter is a pharmacist and works every other weekend. In fact all the pharmacies here in Houston are open on the weekends. Must be a regional thing. so sorry to hear this about your situation. Keeping you on my prayer list.
 

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