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Oh ((Frank))... what a journey... your journey goes on... but Bonnie's has ended on this earth, and her spirit will continue without pain . You have been the best carer and brother anyone could ask for. She had you right up to the end while she was still aware of what was happening around her.

I cried a little tear for her, ...for her suffering which now thank God is over.... you and Michelle can grieve , and finally move on knowing that you did everything in your power to give that tortured soul, the best ending to her life that was in your power. May she R.I.P

...so sorry for your loss .... 🧡

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Pepper said:
(((Frank)))
Hug you. That's all I can do. I'm so sorry for the loss of your baby sister. I suppose you are in charge of a funeral? So glad you have Michelle.
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Her son and 2 of her closest friends said they'll take care of that. It's something they pretty much planned already, like where it's going to be and how it'll be catered and all that. TBH, I'm glad I don't have to fuss with it....I'm glad he stepped up.
 
Murrmurr said:
I got a call from the hospice place about an hour ago. Bonnie died this morning. I sensed she was going. All the signs were there; dark urine, extreme restlessness, unexplained bruising, delirium. But it's still kind of a shock. It was so quick. But they probably had her on a lot of depressant drugs. She was not experiencing a peaceful passing. Quite the opposite.

I'm glad she didn't linger, though. And I feel like I did the right thing, sending her to that hospice place. Like I said, she was not experiencing a peaceful passing. It was awful for her. Seemed she was really scared.
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I'm sorry. 😔
You absolutely did the right thing through all of this. May she rest in peace and may you and Michelle find some peace going forward from here. 🕊
 
So glad her son took over Frank. He must be in his thirties, right? If he was raised in chaos perhaps now he will grow up. I doubt he had a white picket fence type life? Anyway.........I am mourning your sister. Bonnie's ordeal brought back many memories. It's sad that in the 43 years between her death and my dad's NOTHING has been altered in terms of treatment and longevity. The diagnosis is the decision. The decision of god, of fate. There were no miracles allowed once the doctor said "I'm sorry, you're such nice people."

Hate that Bonnie was scared. I won't be scared. I died so many deaths already, losing those I've loved; each one kills just a little bit; little bit here, there, etc.

(((Frank))) L'chaim
 
Pepper said:
So glad her son took over Frank. He must be in his thirties, right? If he was raised in chaos perhaps now he will grow up. I doubt he had a white picket fence type life? Anyway.........I am mourning your sister. Bonnie's ordeal brought back many memories. It's sad that in the 43 years between her death and my dad's NOTHING has been altered in terms of treatment and longevity. The diagnosis is the decision. The decision of god, of fate. There were no miracles allowed once the doctor said "I'm sorry, you're such nice people."

Hate that Bonnie was scared. I won't be scared. I died so many deaths already, losing those I've loved; each one kills just a little bit; little bit here, there, etc.

(((Frank))) L'chaim
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Yes. Well, he's in his late-20s.

Interestingly, she died on the same date our dad died around 20yrs ago. If I'd have remembered that, maybe I could have helped her calm down and go peacefully. You know, by saying "Dad's waiting for you" or something like that.

But it's impossible to know what was running through her brain at the time...what she was seeing or hearing. All I know is, she didn't like it at all, whatever it was.
 
I'm so sorry. I can say that over and over and over. This whole thing was so sad; how she came back into your life; how you helped her; this awful, hideous disease, and so fast it is over. Not fast enough though; wish the end was faster.
 
hearlady said:
My father and my sister were both born on the same day in September. They had a difficult relationship for years. She died of cancer in 2002.
My brother died of cancer in 2005 on their birthday. Dates are funny sometimes.
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Bonnie was born on my baby brother's 9th birthday. He died in a car wreck when he was 32....drug-related.
 
hearlady said:
My father and my sister were both born on the same day in September. They had a difficult relationship for years. She died of cancer in 2002.
My brother died of cancer in 2005 on their birthday. Dates are funny sometimes.
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My father and I were born on the same date too. I was born on his 29th birthday... the first child of his second marriage... I hated him.. and given the violence he meted out to me he must have hated me too..
 
Trish said:
Such a distressing time for all of you. I hope you are all coping as well as you can. x
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Thank you, Trish.

We're finding out it doesn't end for a while; calls from Bonnie's friends, calls from her coworkers and from various hospice departments, and the funeral home. The med-equipment guy came and got the hospital bed about an hour ago. That was the last of that stuff.

I think Meesh was secretly anxious to have that room back the way it was, so I just finished doing all that, plus vacuumed and mopped and dusted. I'm hoping it helps her feel like our life is back to normal (except a little cleaner :p). She's is a strong lady and everything but this has been a lot for her. Michelle barely knew Bonnie, but she totally stepped up ...for my sake.

And my youngest son is taking us out for dinner when she gets home. That'll be sweet.
 
Murrmurr said:
Thank you, Trish.

We're finding out it doesn't end for a while; calls from Bonnie's friends, calls from her coworkers and from various hospice departments, and the funeral home. The med-equipment guy came and got the hospital bed about an hour ago. That was the last of that stuff.

I think Meesh was secretly anxious to have that room back the way it was, so I just finished doing all that, plus vacuumed and mopped and dusted. I'm hoping it helps her feel like our life is back to normal (except a little cleaner :p). She's is a strong lady and everything but this has been a lot for her. Michelle barely knew Bonnie, but she totally stepped up ...for my sake.

And my youngest son is taking us out for dinner when she gets home. That'll be sweet.
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I think it's good that you sorted out the room, it brings a sense of normality back into what became chaos. You and Meesh make a good team and Bonnie was very lucky to have you both around when she needed you. x
 
I hope that, in time, you are only left with the more pleasant memories of Bonnie. One couldn't have a better brother, that's for sure .. and Meesh is an angel.
 

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