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JaniceM said:
This didn't occur to me til I received an email newsletter, it was about California but the problem is much more widespread.. I don't mean to butt in, but knowing you have Paxton's best interests in mind, PLEASE advise his foster parents to not allow that little boy and his twin siblings to become victims of psychatric drugging.. certainly they've all been through a lot, but this all-too-popular practice (especially among foster children) is NOT the way to address it...
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We actually talked about that when she was foster mom to the twins (infancy to 18mo/old). They were born underdeveloped and developmental milestones were delayed. The CPS social worker suspected Little Zoey was autistic, so they talked to Mel & Tony about therapies and medications.

Mel & Tony are both nurses. She's a hospital RN, he's in diagnostics (like, imaging and testing). So neither of them like the idea of putting kids on medication, but they have the knowledge to know when it's truly needed and that it's almost a always temporary treatment.

That said, she told me they won't even consider giving Paxton a sleep medication of any sort. She agrees with me that there's a 95% likelihood the nightmares will go away when he feels safe.
 

Murrmurr said:
We actually talked about that when she was foster mom to the twins (infancy to 18mo/old). They were born underdeveloped and developmental milestones were delayed. The CPS social worker suspected Little Zoey was autistic, so they talked to Mel & Tony about therapies and medications.

Mel & Tony are both nurses. She's a hospital RN, he's in diagnostics (like, imaging and testing). So neither of them like the idea of putting kids on medication, but they have the knowledge to know when it's truly needed and that it's almost a always temporary treatment.

That said, she told me they won't even consider giving Paxton a sleep medication of any sort. She agrees with me that there's a 95% likelihood the nightmares will go away when he feels safe.
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Again, I don't mean to interefere.. but when kids are put on psych meds it's NOT 'temporary.'
 
JaniceM said:
Again, I don't mean to interefere.. but when kids are put on psych meds it's NOT 'temporary.'
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For tots, it is. ...or, it's supposed to be. Very young children can only be prescribed "mild" psych drugs in extreme cases of abuse, and only while they are getting psych therapy/counseling. It's not common, but psych drugs are sometimes prescribed for very young victims of sekshual abuse, physical abuse, or environmental deprivation ("caged kids").

Mel & Tony know this. All prospective foster parents have to take that class. You can't get licensed without it. They also know CPS fails badly at monitoring the medications of kids in the system. Unfortunately, foster parents only learn that part through experience.

PS, You're not interfering. I appreciate your input!
 

Paxton's father is in jail. Arrested last Friday night on 4 charges of robbery and 1 charge of attempted robbery. This guy, man. I don't get why in hell he craps on every opportunity that comes his way. He was lucky enough to be accepted into a really promising job-training program, on track to become a well-paid state employee in California's transportation department. He was becoming liked by CPS - personally liked, because he's very likeable. He had fairly liberal visitation, and CPS was considering letting him have his kids on weekends.

None of that's gonna happen now. If he's found guilty, he'll immediately lose his parental rights. That will help Tara lose hers, because CPS is a believer in guilt by association. He'll be in prison for years...if guilty. That will effect his kids self-image, self-esteem. Paxton was already being torn down every single day by his evil mother.
 
Pepper said:
Can't face reality.
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That's it exactly. Just so mind-blowing because I've known this guy for years and he comes across as a really nice guy, a decent person who's made common mistakes and was climbing up from them. And he seemed so sincere about bettering himself, and like it was for his kids' sake. I'm just really disappointed.

But futch 'im. Freakin idiot.
 
Jules said:
Robbery? Did he use a weapon?
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Per website Find Law:

"Robbery is theft accomplished by violence or the threat of violence. Unlike theft or burglary, the crime of robbery almost always requires the presence of a victim who is threatened with bodily harm. If a weapon is used, or the victim suffers an injury, the robbery may be charged as 'armed' or 'aggravated' robbery. The element of force sits at the core of the crime of robbery..."

So, an idiot and a scumbag.
 
Pepper said:
If it helps free the children.........

Reminds me of my maternal grandfather, Willie the Bum. He wasn't a criminal though.
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Yes, the farther removed from their parents, the better off the kids are.

I've been waiting for *permission* to see Paxton since the 7th. His father's had regular visitation since the 8th.

The foster mom said Paxton asks for Unko Fwank e-v-e-r-y day. She feels sad for both me and him. If I don't get a call from the caseworker on Monday, I'm gonna call the director of CPS. She and I have spoken before, once when I complained that no one was listening to me about the abuse. That particular conversation was 2 years ago, but I'm sure she'll remember me.
 
dobielvr said:
I apologize.
That wasn't a very nice thing to say. 🌷
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I'd love to tell the court "Told you so!"

What I meant is, I've been telling CPS and Family Court that Paxton's mom is abusive for 2 years. I've sent them photos of his injuries, and they were bad. I wrote letters, made phone calls, filed complaints, and none of them did anything except ask his mother "Do you hit Paxton?" As if she'd say "Are you kidding? I beat the crap out of him." And prohibit me from seeing him; they did that, too.

I'd love to get in the face of the judge who's given her 3 chances....so far.
 
Murrmurr said:
I'd love to tell the court "Told you so!"

What I meant is, I've been telling CPS and Family Court Paxton's mom is abusive for 2 years. I've sent them photos of his injuries, and they were bad. I wrote letters, made phone calls, filed complaints, and none of them did anything except ask his mother "Do you hit Paxton?" As if she'd say "Are you kidding? I beat the crap out of him."

I'd love to get in the face of the judge who's given her 3 chances....so far.
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At this point it won't make a difference. What counts is you know where he is, the family that may become his forever family that will include you in his life. They know how much you mean to this precious child. I would still say you should put your name down for adoption if things go wrong with the other family!
 

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