Nothing To Look Forward To

Really, all you need is a big soft boy snoring softly and clearing the air with his intestinal fortitude...you can do whatever need be to keep him in kibble...really. My boy is the meaning of my life.
 

Okay, what I'm getting out of all of this (thank you, my teachers!) ...


  1. Keep On Truckin' ... I understand this and even had the bumper-sticker. But it doesn't always work as a motivational phrase for me - I watched my brother take his own life because he couldn't keep going. That changed me.
  2. Never Made It Big ... as QS said, not many do - I realize that. But as Ina brought up, it was my parents and teachers' fault! Yes! They all told me I could be and do whatever I wanted in life, that I was a boy genius, that I was going places. Well, after you hit the wall a few times you start to wonder. Those big ideas get further and further away until they vanish, leaving you wondering if they were ever really there.
  3. You Have To Want It ... truer words were never spoken. There's just not much I want anymore.
  4. 50 Is A Good Time In Your Life ... Fern mentioned this and until recently I would have agreed wholeheartedly. Unfortunately we all age differently, and in my case being whacked with some genetic faults pretty much removed the "Good Times" banner.
  5. Fur, you're actually YOUNGER than me! Huzzah - I've been waiting to lose the "baby of the family" title here! Thank you!
  6. Tica, I'm enheartened that you remember my son's wedding pics, and that you enjoyed my book. Yes, I have A cat - a new one, actually, and he's a handful. I suppose that keeps me busy ... It's good to see you back on the Forum - I hope you can hang around for a while!
  7. Finally, reading all of your replies here several times and hearing of your own trials and tribulations has made me realize I actually don't have it so bad. Perhaps it was partly self-pity; certainly I learned I shouldn't be comparing my present self with my past one.


I thank you all for taking the time to lift me out of my Boo-Hoo Box - I'll never forget the help you've all given me here, and only hope that I can one day return the favor.

...

Besides, there's always pepperoni pizza to live for! :drool1:
 
I'm sorry Phil that you're serious and in so much pain of every kind. Would you feel better if you could get rid of the physical pain? You don't have to be a gimp. I'm younger than you, but have been gimpy and pain ridden with arthritis. Yoga balance has helped me regain balance, movement and freedom from pain.
It could do the same for you. Many people recover from quite serious injuries and disablities this way. Just a thought.
 
fureverywhere said:
Really, all you need is a big soft boy snoring softly and clearing the air with his intestinal fortitude...you can do whatever need be to keep him in kibble...really. My boy is the meaning of my life.
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I agree with Fur here about this, that a pet can help lift your spirits, but if you're in financial distress I wouldn't recommend it. These days pets can cost a fortune. It's not like when we were kids. Your call Philly.
 
chic said:
I'm sorry Phil that you're serious and in so much pain of every kind. Would you feel better if you could get rid of the physical pain? You don't have to be a gimp. I'm younger than you, but have been gimpy and pain ridden with arthritis. Yoga balance has helped me regain balance, movement and freedom from pain.

It could do the same for you. Many people recover from quite serious injuries and disablities this way. Just a thought.
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Well, my career was all about teaching T'ai-Chi after I had learned from one of the best. I also went on to get an OMD (Doctor of Oriental Medicine), which includes herbs, massage, energy work and certification as an acupuncturist.

All of that, for all those years, didn't stop the family inheritance of diabetes. It helps with the physical symptoms - a little - but it doesn't eliminate the root cause.

Sometimes you just have to go with Western medicine, and even that doesn't always do the trick.

chic said:
I agree with Fur here about this, that a pet can help lift your spirits, but if you're in financial distress I wouldn't recommend it. These days pets can cost a fortune. It's not like when we were kids. Your call Philly.
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Oh, I know! Buying cat food and litter is more expensive than caviar and 5-ply toilet paper! :rolleyes:

I'm not a dog person, usually - I like them well enough and they seem to like me. I've always been a cat person, and there's just not that same kind of bonding, I think - at least for me, at least now. Too much work, too much responsibility, too much sorrow when they pass.
 
Phil-----Later next year, I will be giving up my certification for flying passengers (Gov't says so.). Every time I think about this, I have to change thoughts. I really feel bad about this. Flying has always been a passion for me, not just a job or a paycheck. I have nothing planned after flying. Right now, I am also in your same shoes, what to look forward to? I am not a volunteer person, I don't care for reading on a daily basis and TV bores me to tears, except maybe to sit and watch NCAA athletics or pro football. I just cannot imagine what I'm going to do when flying is taken away from me. No more telephone conversations with other pilots, no more hanging out with the airline guys and exchanging war stories, no more going to social functions with my old crew members, no more sucking in the smell of jet fuel & exhaust, no more climbing into the seat in the cockpit and no more feeling the adrenaline rush of a takeoff.

Oh, Brother. This is not something that I ever wanted to look forward to.
 
What a great bunch of folks we have on the forum. Reading them all has given me a little different outlook on a few things. Oldman, I can't imagine the feeling you have for giving up flying when the day comes. The rest of you have helped me as well as Phil, I'm sure.

Yesterday, I saw where the average age for men to pass on is 78.5. I said to myself, self, you've got 5 months to go. This depressed me a little, but reading your replies to Phil have helped me, too.

Phil, you and I have been friends for quite some time, although we've never met, and I am so glad that things are looking better for you. Pity party all you want, my friend. We'll be there somehow.
 
oldman said:
Phil-----Later next year, I will be giving up my certification for flying passengers (Gov't says so.). Every time I think about this, I have to change thoughts. I really feel bad about this. Flying has always been a passion for me, not just a job or a paycheck. I have nothing planned after flying. Right now, I am also in your same shoes, what to look forward to? I am not a volunteer person, I don't care for reading on a daily basis and TV bores me to tears, except maybe to sit and watch NCAA athletics or pro football. I just cannot imagine what I'm going to do when flying is taken away from me. No more telephone conversations with other pilots, no more hanging out with the airline guys and exchanging war stories, no more going to social functions with my old crew members, no more sucking in the smell of jet fuel & exhaust, no more climbing into the seat in the cockpit and no more feeling the adrenaline rush of a takeoff.

Oh, Brother. This is not something that I ever wanted to look forward to.
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Oldman, maybe you could find a simulator to play in? I keep a heavy bag around, just to remind me of my glory days. :D

I know it'll be rough, my friend, but you'll pull through it.

Pappy said:
What a great bunch of folks we have on the forum. Reading them all has given me a little different outlook on a few things. Oldman, I can't imagine the feeling you have for giving up flying when the day comes. The rest of you have helped me as well as Phil, I'm sure.

Yesterday, I saw where the average age for men to pass on is 78.5. I said to myself, self, you've got 5 months to go. This depressed me a little, but reading your replies to Phil have helped me, too.

Phil, you and I have been friends for quite some time, although we've never met, and I am so glad that things are looking better for you. Pity party all you want, my friend. We'll be there somehow.
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Thank you, Pappy! I wish I were living down in your neighborhood - I could get a cool bike like yours and we could ride around, terrorizing the neighbors! :eek:nthego:
 
oldman said:
Phil-----Later next year, I will be giving up my certification for flying passengers (Gov't says so.). Every time I think about this, I have to change thoughts. I really feel bad about this. Flying has always been a passion for me, not just a job or a paycheck. I have nothing planned after flying. Right now, I am also in your same shoes, what to look forward to? I am not a volunteer person, I don't care for reading on a daily basis and TV bores me to tears, except maybe to sit and watch NCAA athletics or pro football. I just cannot imagine what I'm going to do when flying is taken away from me. No more telephone conversations with other pilots, no more hanging out with the airline guys and exchanging war stories, no more going to social functions with my old crew members, no more sucking in the smell of jet fuel & exhaust, no more climbing into the seat in the cockpit and no more feeling the adrenaline rush of a takeoff.

Oh, Brother. This is not something that I ever wanted to look forward to.
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Oldman, just a thought when you retire from passenger air flights, can you perhaps take up a position as an instructor at a private airfield...even desk based? it would mean you'd still be heavily involved with planes, albeit little private ones.. :)
 
Sorry your feeling down Phil, I know, .... part of life, that. But a good night's sleep, some tasty snacks and maybe some fun entertainment helps me get past it --- or not. I always tell myself its temporary, as I have seen in the past, things change, including my mood. Maybe year's end, holidays don't help, especially when we start thinking about how things panned out in life, regrets, disappointments, losses, etc. etc. Sometimes even a few tears offer some respite. Then usually duty of some sort calls and I have to get off the couch and deal. Happiness is usually just around the corner.
 
Debby said:
Or 24 years and 4 months? I know the feeling too Phil.
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My condolences.

:(Which may explain my penchant for 'the sky is falling' news.
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My usual way of dealing with that kind of news is with black humor, but even that has its limits.

Cookie said:
Sorry your feeling down Phil, I know, .... part of life, that. But a good night's sleep, some tasty snacks and maybe some fun entertainment helps me get past it --- or not. I always tell myself its temporary, as I have seen in the past, things change, including my mood. Maybe year's end, holidays don't help, especially when we start thinking about how things panned out in life, regrets, disappointments, losses, etc. etc. Sometimes even a few tears offer some respite. Then usually duty of some sort calls and I have to get off the couch and deal. Happiness is usually just around the corner.
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I like the "tasty snacks" part! :beguiled:

I'm a guy - I'm not allowed to cry.

Happiness may be just around the corner, but sometimes it seems I've been chained to the lamp-post ...
 
SifuPhil said:
Happiness may be just around the corner, but sometimes it seems I've been chained to the lamp-post ...
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Well, hell, looks like you need some heavy duty metal cutters or a hack saw. "When the going gets tough, the tough go shopping" always works for me --- do you have a Lee Valley over your way?
 
Shalimar said:
Hugs, and masses of fruitcake Philly.
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Thank you, dear - they're both helping!

fureverywhere said:
Such a day Philly, and you can make me laugh for real, thank you so much!
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You're very welcome, and thank YOU.

Cookie said:
Well, hell, looks like you need some heavy duty metal cutters or a hack saw. "When the going gets tough, the tough go shopping" always works for me --- do you have a Lee Valley over your way?
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Lee Valley? Is that anything like Harper Valley or Rudy Valley?

No, sorry. The only shopping around these parts is the convenience store and Rhonda Bullwacker down the street - and SHE'S on vacation right now ...
 
http://www.leevalley.com/us/home.aspx?c=2

Lee Valley is a hardware store extraordinaire ---- I love it and I'm not a handyman. When my son was going thru a dark depressing time, his one joy was buying tool toys online at this place. Their catalogue is fun to browse too. Take a gander.
 

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