Now That You are Older, Has Your Perspective on End of Life Changed?

Ruthanne

Ruthanne

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I was curious to know how others think of this. I find myself thinking of not being on this Earth all that long now and it gets me kind of sad but then I ask myself Who Really Knows When They Will Go? I try to make the best of it and find contentment in my life still appreciating all the small things and the big things too. How about you?
 

Well, the end of life seems a lot closer now. When you're younger, the end of life seems so far away that you feel you're never gonna get there, so you tend not to think of it much. Being older, I also think that youth-oriented western societies treat older folks as inconsequential, unworthy, or annoying, as if there was something vaguely shameful about getting older...
 
Ruthanne said:
I was curious to know how others think of this. I find myself thinking of not being on this Earth all that long now and it gets me kind of sad but then I ask myself Who Really Knows When They Will Go? I try to make the best of it and find contentment in my life still appreciating all the small things and the big things too. How about you?
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As our lives slowly wind-down and reach the end, I do think it's normal to reflect on the next leg of our journey, but my adage is, "live each day to the fullest and forget about the small stuff". :)
 
I notice that I spend more time thinking about ways to make the transition as easy as possible for me and the people that I care about.

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I want to live long enough so that my grandson will remember me for the rest of his life and hopefully think about me daily and all the laughs we shared. I know my son will. When there are people who remember you and pass you down the generations, you will not die.

I had a terrible hospital experience in the beginning of June, so much so that I dread such treatment will be in my end of days. I hope I have warning (I did not for this experience) and thus warned, that I would have the courage to end my own life. It's the dying part that scares me, not the actual death, which we don't know when it happens, IMO. Hope the end is fast so that I and my family don't suffer it.

Of course I wish I could be around to see my grandson grow and become the superstar I know he will be. It would be interesting to see my baby, my son, be an old man. It's not possible. So, when I'm dead at least I won't be bored again and won't be in pain.
 
Life has been good, and every day when I wake up able to continue my routines is another good day. I sometimes think about what I will eventually have to face, and try to arrange things such that the wife and kids will have minimal issues with my/our passing.

I sometimes think about what happens after our time here ends, but try not to dwell on such thoughts....I just hope that trying to be a good person here will eventually be rewarded.
 
Now That You are Older, Has Your Perspective on End of Life Changed?

Oh, yeah
As of late, I consider the passing of one of us
We're such close mates
51 years can do that
Not too concerned about me, if I remained, but concerned for my lady if I kick first
It niggles at me, out here in the sticks
Living here is rough, primitive
It casues me to look to town
May do that

If she left first, well, I don't much care
Grab a shanty on the coast, and pester folks at the local watering holes
Mosey down the beech
Get maybe a wolf pup
Become that weird ol' guy
 
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What comes next has always intrigued me. I compare it to my birth. I was in a nice warm space, I was fed well, it was dark, and then...
I moved from that environment into a new one filled with color, smells, thoughts, interactions, etc.

I think what comes next will be even better than this life.
 
I attended the decline and death of both parents and one brother. Another brother and I are the last of our line....we don't have children and our one niece has been long since estranged from the clan....her own father disowned her.
My health is pretty good so far and I'm anticipating another twenty years in this world. My goals are to prepare for the logistics of disposing of the estate and in the meantime try to live contentedly puttering around my 12 acres and considering the life of some other family living here.....maybe their kids climbing the trees that I've planted....
My own death is a source of curiosity for me rather than fear.....at least it is now. I believe in a life after this one.....I plan to accept what my life was, without dwelling too much on regrets, and cooperating with whatever events await my consciousness when I cross to the other side.
 
Ruthanne said:
I was curious to know how others think of this. I find myself thinking of not being on this Earth all that long now and it gets me kind of sad but then I ask myself Who Really Knows When They Will Go? I try to make the best of it and find contentment in my life still appreciating all the small things and the big things too. How about you?
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Mostly I'm afraid of death. I don't care that I have to die I'm just afraid of how it's gonna go down. I'm praying I'll die in my sleep. Honestly the way things are going in the world today I'm not sure I care to live a terribly long time. But like you I want to make the best of it & laugh & live what's left of it.

This virus thing has made quite an impact on my mental health but I think I can adjust & get through it. There for a while I wasn't sure. Right now I'm at a place where I'm trying to get some health issues worked out so I can see where I'll be in the next phase of my life. So I can make more adjustments. Just focusing on the day to day survival. Whatever happens along the way...~Shrugs~

Just gonna keep doin what I do I guess.
 
The milestones I want to reach have changed, but I still want to go on living as long as possible, providing I continue having good health and mental acuity.

But looking at the big picture, I think my understanding of life has broadened. I'm able to look at the big picture of my life so far, and feel satisfied and fulfilled, much more than a young person would.
 
No. I think death sucks and am an immortalist. Life isn't fair or predictable. When I was in college, the 15 year old daughter of a friend of my parents died from injuries sustained in a sudden car accident. Her mother was a nurse and was at the hospital. She saw her daughter who was able to speak. Her last words were, "I don't want to die." I can't imagine anything more terrible for a parent.

I've had too much death in my life to come to terms with it. Just the way it goes, I guess.
 
I don't think death was part of my thinking. My perspective has always been dead is dead whenever it happens. Because of that, having information that will help my wife and sons ready to be read is written out & in our safe deposit box & updated as things change. Our sons are on the signature card since there are no guarantee I'll go 1st. They have copies of our wills but not account numbers for assets. Until then every day we get up is a chance to enjoy another day.
 
Death is a Part of Life, and I've seen first hand that there are things worse than death.

I want to have as much fun with the rest of my life as I possibly can, then pray I go quickly. That's why I'm keeping as fit as I can, to enjoy what life I have left to the fullest. Travel, golf, snow birding, boating, visiting friends and family, whatever I can think of.

When it's time to go, it's time to go. No putting me on life support, or having operation after operation trying to keep this body going.

I'm curious to see what happens after this life. I'm positive there is something else.
 
My response might seem strange to some but I believe I will see my mum for the first time and also I lost my half brother who was Austrian and mum's first born, at the end of last year. It was unexpected, but I believe he is with mum. So we will all be together, one day, when the time is right for me to pass on but hey, at the moment I shall 🥳 while I'm on the Forum.😃
 
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Death is a Part of Life, and I've seen first hand that there are things worse than death.

I want to have as much fun with the rest of my life as I possibly can, then pray I go quickly. That's why I'm keeping as fit as I can, to enjoy what life I have left to the fullest. Travel, golf, snow birding, boating, visiting friends and family, whatever I can think of.

When it's time to go, it's time to go. No putting me on life support, or having operation after operation trying to keep this body going.

I'm curious to see what happens after this life. I'm positive there is something else.
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I agree, I need to get this body in better shape so I last longer...:D:LOL:;) It would be nice if there is something else after death..but I'm not so sure there is anything else.
 
Sometimes I think about death....My husband had 2 scares already....He is alive....He'll be 75 this month....If you know him he doesn't look 75...
But he has a lot of issues....We take every day a Blessing....
I'm with Sassy....I wouldn't want to be alone.....If I die first, so be it!
 

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