Nursing home won’t let me go home

[PeppermintPatty]

I had this same problem with my mom when she was in hospital. They said that my mom wasn’t allowed to go home. I later found out that the medical team can highly suggest that she stay but it’s not set in stone. You can go against medical instructions and just walk out.

 

[TeePee]

I had this same problem with my mom when she was in hospital. They said that my mom wasn’t allowed to go home. I later found out that the medical team can highly suggest that she stay but it’s not set in stone. You can go against medical instructions and just walk out.

I just found that out. After working in the medical field most all of my working life, I was always told that and even witnessed administration telling patients that. It should be against the law, giving patients false information like that. It probably is, but no ones been called out for it.

 

[Medusa]

I just found that out. After working in the medical field most all of my working life, I was always told that and even witnessed administration telling patients that. It should be against the law, giving patients false information like that. It probably is, but no ones been called out for it.

You know, I actually did that once. I was in the ER and they were being awful and extremely unhelpful. After the practitioner "attending" me finished bragging about her capabilities (none of which had anything to do with why I was there), and then said something like, "what do you want us to do?" I looked at husband and we both said, "we're leaving."

She said, something like, "okay, just wait and I'll get the paperwork, etc." No. We're leaving. I started pulling things off myself and we left. No one tried to stop us and, interestingly, the next day a really sweet nurse called me and only wanted to know if I was all right.

Another time I was accompanying husband at a dental appointment and after the initial exam he told me that he didn't feel comfortable with the dentist. I took the dental bib off and helped him out of the chair. When we were walking out the assistant asked us if the doctor said we could leave. I just smiled at her and said, "We're leaving."

Edit: typo

 

[smiley]

my point exactly - it's called exercising your democratic rights

 

[Sunny]

I just came upon this thread. I hope you've found a good solution to your dilemma, Pepper. Not knowing anything about your situation, there isn't much help I can offer, but it does sound strange that a nursing home would not allow you to leave. It is not a prison.

What's going on? Have you moved to another facility, or back home?

 

[January]

I’m sleeping in my clothes tonight. I’m planning a getaway tomorrow no matter what. I have no money or credit cards with me to pay for a cab.

please don't do this - if staff are concerned you have dementia and you do an escape like this without having things set up at home etc first - it will corroborate their opinion.
if yo u are going to be able to cope at home with home services - get the home services set up first (with your DIL's help) and openly leave - don't 'escape'

 

[smiley]

maybe this is just a practice run?