Aunt Bea
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Could it be something as simple as a bathroom thing? 
Ok Guys, Need some suggestions if you would
- Thread starter IrishEyes
- Start date
Well, thank you. I can't just say ok I know what I am seeing but I am going to ignore it or not going to let it bother me or not give an effort.
I know many things HAVE to be his idea not mine, like dr visits, car maintenance, being on time and such or he will dismiss them.
He will know I am trying and in his way he will outright tell me when to quit. That I know. Until he tells me,
I will care enough to keep trying. I know he needs to see a Dr. but I mention it, suggest it...not going to happen.
Yes he's always been an avid fisherman, our vacations from Chicago were always to Wisconsin to the lakes there.
Me-- I have a fear of water, slight one but not enough that being on a boat scares me.
No worry, it's hard to hear a persons voice in type to know the tone they are using. Emotions tend to make us read leaning toward what we ourselves are feelingMy mistake
Maybe I should ask him if he turns the date idea down after I pour out how much I miss that quiet peaceful time on the water with him. If he turns me down something must be up right?Could it be something as simple as a bathroom thing?
He just got in from work and says "I think tomorrow morning we can go put the battery in the boat and let it charge since this good weather won't be here long". I set my poker face and replied "Great idea I was thinking today it would be nice to be out enjoying the water with you and maybe tease some bass" He says "See we thinking the alike again!" Hey I'll take it, the door is a crack open .
CallMeKate
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- Mid-Atlantic US
You sure he doesn't read here?!
You sure he doesn't read here?!
If he could find a thread on the Chicago Cubs he probably would
He came in from work, we talked he went to TV and put on the podcast of those guys who gambled $$$$$$$ on slot machines, and on the PC has his slot game rolling, he ain't talking or reading talkingHe spends all his time on PC, he probably read this thread
Good job to you all.
officerripley
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- Porlock, Calif
So maybe he's depressed about that? I'm in the opposite situation, we're living where & how my Huzz wants and I don't; I've tried talking to him about and have given up and it's taken the wind right out of my sails, I don't feel like doing much of anything.. (He keeps trying to get me out of the house to go to the darn golf course--I hate stupid golf.)
He could be a bit homesick at times off and on that is very possible. But he says he loves being out of the city and traffic, He has no family left there. Parents gone son in Boston, daughter estranged in Colorado. We both do not miss the cost of living in Illinois, we'd be lucky to eat.
PeppermintPatty
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Well this is promising and the days on the 3rd of the month. A day you didn’t even think of.
At least he knows you’re serious about wanting to go out in the boat. Good stuff. A picnic is still a good idea.
on the 3rd the cubbies play at 1:20 he said we do it in the morning. The battery has to sit in the sun for a few hours to charge, so no boat ride tomorrow yet. He has it figured to fit around that game
papa tiger
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Hope that works for you, Eyes! I sort of avoid the Lake and the Pontoon boat myself now.We live in a private over 55+ community with a private lake. No gas engine boats allowed.
I bought my hubby for his birthday when we moved here a sweet lil used boat in top shape complete with solar battery charger and battery.
This summer has either been raining or too hot to go out before the skeeters bite so now it sits. Battery has not been
in yet to charge it up. It is now gorgeous out and I can not get this man off his PC.
Lead me in what to try, besides starving him, to get him on that lake once in awhile.
He got a bedsore once already for sitting in that chair day after day. No lie! I refuse to buy him a laptop to use on the lake
Used to spend the week / weekends on it for 30 years. The young here take theirs too the
Weekend Concerts at the beach, I take my UTV over.
I think it's working Papa Tiger. Once that battery is in and charged the boat and bass will be on his mind
papa tiger
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We neighbors used to spend evenings grilling and having fun on our docks to.
Constant air coming from fans kept the gnats off us. 20 Volt portables work well.
I catch so many fish off the dock I am good.
The youth are gradually replacing the old guard and changing stuff up some.
Now its worry about young teens racing around in golf carts on the roads.
Constant air coming from fans kept the gnats off us. 20 Volt portables work well.
I catch so many fish off the dock I am good.
The youth are gradually replacing the old guard and changing stuff up some.
Now its worry about young teens racing around in golf carts on the roads.
Murrmurr
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- Sacramento, California
I suffer in silence. My pain is severe and constant....well, except when I'm asleep. I do not talk to my wife about my pain. She knows it's an issue, knows the history of it, the surgeries I've had, and the medication I take for it, and I think she can tell when it's worse than usual because, when it's super bad, I get irritable.
I spend a lot of time on my PC. It distracts me from my pain, and from not being able to walk so well for the past several months. In fact, it was not too long after my legs stopped working right that I started sitting in front of this computer screen for most of the day.
I shuffle when I walk, but there are times when I strut - when my kids or grandkids come to visit, when my wife and I go out for a meal, when we have someone over for a barbecue. These are distractions, too, and they're way better distractions than the PC.
I don't know if this is relevant, I just thought I'd mention it. My wife has no idea how bad my pain can get, and she doesn't know how depressed it makes me, and how often I worry about it. I just don't tell her these things. I don't burden her with it, and I see no reason to. It wouldn't be right.
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Nathan
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- High Desert- Calif.
Sadly, it's really not your responsibility to make his life better, he has to want to. My DW is very much a heel digger when it comes to healthy activities and healthy eating. Trying to be a 'good influence' has limited rewards, you get what you get, but at some point you just have to do what you want/what is best, for you.Believe me you don't push that man, his heels just dig in further
hearlady
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- N Carolina
Well, you bought the boat. Nonchalantly tell him you've decided to sell it since it doesn't get used. If that doesn't get him out there then sell the boat and buy yourself something.We live in a private over 55+ community with a private lake. No gas engine boats allowed.
I bought my hubby for his birthday when we moved here a sweet lil used boat in top shape complete with solar battery charger and battery.
This summer has either been raining or too hot to go out before the skeeters bite so now it sits. Battery has not been
in yet to charge it up. It is now gorgeous out and I can not get this man off his PC.
Lead me in what to try, besides starving him, to get him on that lake once in awhile.
He got a bedsore once already for sitting in that chair day after day. No lie! I refuse to buy him a laptop to use on the lake
hearlady
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- N Carolina
Sounds very familiar.Believe me you don't push that man, his heels just dig in further
Babs2u
Senior Member
I like others to be somewhat aware of my pain, not the severity, or to dwell on it but to understand that I can't do everything I would like. One guy here often says Oh its probably the weather. If that makes him feel better OK. If he really believes it he must think I'm a lazy slob just sitting around when there is work to be done.