Opinions Needed please!

RadishRose said:
You already know them and are friendly with them. It's so sad that simple kindness could be seen as intrusive.

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Well you know I have issues. Even when I give them treats I leave them in the mailbox with the flag up cause I’m too chicken to go up to the door. :lofl:

Even though my last sentence sounds silly , I think that’s what I’ll do.
Make some goodies and put a card in it just stating that we care.
When he/they are ready to share , I’d like them to do it at their own discretion.
I considered what my husband did was somewhat intrusive which is why I needed help . :grin:

Thanks so much. I can complicate the simplest of things at times just by overthinking so your responses were certainly helpful.
 

Keesha said:
Well you know I have issues. Even when I give them treats I leave them in the mailbox with the flag up cause I’m too chicken to go up to the door. :lofl:

Even though my last sentence sounds silly , I think that’s what I’ll do.
Make some goodies and put a card in it just stating that we care.
When he/they are ready to share , I’d like them to do it at their own discretion.
I considered what my husband did was somewhat intrusive which is why I needed help . :grin:

Thanks so much. I can complicate the simplest of things at times just by overthinking so your responses were certainly helpful.
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Don't put the flag up!!!!!! The mailman will get the treats!!
 
Keesha, you do as you see fit. Only you know the situation perfectly, but I know things become clearer after talking together. We're all glad to help in any way, of course. I'm sure your neighbors will appreciate your treat! :love_heart:
 
I think it would be a kind thing to ask about the mom. It would show caring and compassion. I think it would be quite cold to act as if nothing had happened after the ambulance, etc. A good neighbor, I think, would ask about the mother and offer any help they needed. Just my opinion.
 
Thanks again for the help.

I baked the banana bread but nobody has been home next door so I chucked it in the freezer.
The card I got isn’t a ‘Sorry for your loss’ card since I don’t know the outcome yet so I picked up this card which has an Emerson saying on it which I like and inside it reads ....

Just to keep in touch ...
Caring about how you’re doing &
Thinking of you often.


I then wrote a brief message stating that we are both concerned about his well being and if there’s anything either of us can do then please do not hesitate to ask. I’ve put it in their door.

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Keesha said:
Thanks again for the help.

I baked the banana bread but nobody has been home next door so I chucked it in the freezer.
The card I got isn’t a ‘Sorry for your loss’ card since I don’t know the outcome yet so I picked up this card which has an Emerson saying on it which I like and inside it reads ....

Just to keep in touch ...
Caring about how you’re doing &
Thinking of you often.


I then wrote a brief message stating that we are both concerned about his well being and if there’s anything either of us can do then please do not hesitate to ask. I’ve put it in their door.

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That sounds good to me. That's what I would do.
 
Thanks April.
Its haunting when people suddenly die.
Its hard knowing just what to do but I know we all go through it
I think I’ll cut their grass at the front this weekend
 
Keesha said:
Thanks April.
Its haunting when people suddenly die.
Its hard knowing just what to do but I know we all go through it
I think I’ll cut their grass at the front this weekend
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You're welcome and I think they will appreciate you cutting their grass so much. I know when my husband was sick, my brother-in-law cut our grass and it meant so much to me and it still does! You cutting their grass may be something they won't forget either and will continue to appreciate it.
 
RadishRose said:
You already know them and are friendly with them. It's so sad that simple kindness could be seen as intrusive.

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I didn't even know there WAS a rating.

Re Keesha asking how the neighbor's mom is doing, geez have we become THAT sensitive? I might be hesitant to ask if it was a SWAT situation, but not about a medical emergency. Asking would show concern and empathy. Anyway, that's my humble opinion.
 
Thanks guys
I made the banana bread but didn’t take it over cause they were gone all week.
I left the card at their front door . Last night while we were watching a movie , they came home so I expect we will find out today. The poor guy.

Our postal guy wouldn’t scoop the bread. He knows better than that.
 
Keesha said:
...I actually knew the mom best. She used to come over to let their dogs out and sometimes their dogs would wander over to our property so she’d come over and get them. We’ve talked about gardening and she lost her mom less than 2 weeks before her son purchased the house and we talked about that....
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Your card was perfect Keesha. If you don't hear from him then, after awhile, this might be an idea for a follow-up note..."I've been thinking of your mom and have fond memories of her coming over occasionally to take care of your dogs. I miss her sweet nature and want you to know what a pleasure it's been having you as neighbors. We hope your mother is okay now and that this note finds you well and happy. Please know that we are here if you need anything."

I'm sorry I'm a little late to this thread...just now saw it.
 
We just found out today that the neighbours mother did indeed pass away the day she passed out on the law. We hadn’t seen them around since that day but apparently they’d been staying with the dad to make sure he was ok.
Its so sad. She was far younger than me and will be missed.
 
You were absolutely right and appropriate to try to ask them. There's nothing intrusive about being a good neighbor. Sorry the ending of the story was so sad.
 
Thanks again for the advice regarding our neighbour.
Unfortunately we just discovered last weekend that the mother did in fact die on the front lawn that day. She could not be revived. They stayed with the father for 2 weeks which is why we didn’t see them.
 

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