People Who Won't Listen To You

ClassicRockr

ClassicRockr

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Have you ever met someone or know someone who is what some call a "know it all"? IOW, you ask them a question, they answer, but when you start telling them your feelings about the question, they don't want to listen.

Had a Director/Supervisor at my last job who was just that way. I really liked the guy for the experience he had, but most of the time he didn't want to listen to my side of the topic. Bottom Line........he demanded to be right about everything, work related or not. He threatened to fire me a couple of times, because I started telling him my side/feelings of what we were discussing. He really acted like he simply wanted me to sit there, say nothing except "ok" indicating he was totally right about the discussion.

We have a friend who is the same way when I call him about a problem we may have with our boat or something else. The guy, who is a little older than me, definitely acts like a "know it all" and really gets upset when I don't like or take his advice 100%. He told me this AM that he is better with boat mechanics than our boat mechanic, who is considered, and has the certificates to prove it, a Master Boat Mechanic. Been going to this mechanic since 2009 and he definitely knows our boat.

So, do you know someone who loves a one-way discussion and doesn't want to hear someone disagree with them?​
 

`I know a lot about rodeo, but don't know everything and I will admit that. I won't argue with someone who knows more than I do about the event they specialize in. I was a Team Roper and knew what I was suppose to know about the event.
 
I do. I just let him talk. No skin off my nose.

I'm more irritated by someone who calls for advice about how to make life better, doesn't use it, then calls back to tell me life still sucks. That's my sister. I stopped giving advice she won't use, and eventually she stopped calling to ask for it.
 
Cap'nSacto said:
I do. I just let him talk. No skin off my nose.

I'm more irritated by someone who calls for advice about how to make life better, doesn't use it, then calls back to tell me life still sucks. That's my sister. I stopped giving advice she won't use, and eventually she stopped calling to ask for it.
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"Wise men don't need advice. Fools won't take it." - Benjamin Franklin

My gripe is about people that call and ask how I'm doing but before I can formulate a response they are talking about themselves. All I really need to do is ooh and ahh at the appropriate times until they finally hang up.
 
ClassicRockr said:
Have you ever met someone or know someone who is what some call a "know it all"? IOW, you ask them a question, they answer, but when you start telling them your feelings about the question, they don't want to listen.

Had a Director/Supervisor at my last job who was just that way. I really liked the guy for the experience he had, but most of the time he didn't want to listen to my side of the topic. Bottom Line........he demanded to be right about everything, work related or not. He threatened to fire me a couple of times, because I started telling him my side/feelings of what we were discussing. He really acted like he simply wanted me to sit there, say nothing except "ok" indicating he was totally right about the discussion.

We have a friend who is the same way when I call him about a problem we may have with our boat or something else. The guy, who is a little older than me, definitely acts like a "know it all" and really gets upset when I don't like or take his advice 100%. He told me this AM that he is better with boat mechanics than our boat mechanic, who is considered, and has the certificates to prove it, a Master Boat Mechanic. Been going to this mechanic since 2009 and he definitely knows our boat.

So, do you know someone who loves a one-way discussion and doesn't want to hear someone disagree with them?
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I worked for lawyers most of my working life, and they are pretty much all like that. My last boss was the absolute worst -- HAD to be right at all costs and anyone who disagreed was stupid and worthless.
 
The reason I called him was because he is the only one we know who owns a few boats, one of them like ours.

Called our mechanic and he told me how to check what I needed to know, but, after speaking to him, it came to me how I could check what I needed to know without asking anyone. Just wish I would have thought of this (how to check) before calling the friend.

I simply don't think about how he is,
when I think about calling him​
, until he starts on me about "listening" to him. I have told him before, "I do listen to you, but you don't listen to me". Same thing I told him this AM.

Actually, I think all of us have some of that "know it all" in us and don't even realize it. I know I do at times, depending on the subject. Nobody, but him, has told me "you don't listen, you interrupt". Yes, I do "interrupt" in a conversation and a lot of folks do, so they don't forget what they were going to say. I do listen, but when something is said that I don't necessarily agree with or agree with at all, I will state my opinion. He doesn't like a person doing that to him. I think "do what I tell you" is his motto.
 
ClassicRockr said:
Have you ever met someone or know someone who is what some call a "know it all"? IOW, you ask them a question, they answer, but when you start telling them your feelings about the question, they don't want to listen.

Had a Director/Supervisor at my last job who was just that way. I really liked the guy for the experience he had, but most of the time he didn't want to listen to my side of the topic. Bottom Line........he demanded to be right about everything, work related or not. He threatened to fire me a couple of times, because I started telling him my side/feelings of what we were discussing. He really acted like he simply wanted me to sit there, say nothing except "ok" indicating he was totally right about the discussion.

We have a friend who is the same way when I call him about a problem we may have with our boat or something else. The guy, who is a little older than me, definitely acts like a "know it all" and really gets upset when I don't like or take his advice 100%. He told me this AM that he is better with boat mechanics than our boat mechanic, who is considered, and has the certificates to prove it, a Master Boat Mechanic. Been going to this mechanic since 2009 and he definitely knows our boat.

So, do you know someone who loves a one-way discussion and doesn't want to hear someone disagree with them?​
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Well in defense of bosses. You can't listen to everyone. You are going to have to say how this dishes will be washed and if they are broken you are the one responsible for them. I was a boss. A tough job.

If it's not work related, why bother. I get on discussions on another forum about politics and guns.

Im not going to change anyone's mind and they won't change mine.

I have a friend who you describe. I just don't challenge him and that's how we manage to stay friends.
 
Camper6 said:
Well in defense of bosses. You can't listen to everyone. You are going to have to say how this dishes will be washed and if they are broken you are the one responsible for them. I was a boss. A tough job.

If it's not work related, why bother. I get on discussions on another forum about politics and guns.

Im not going to change anyone's mind and they won't change mine.

I have a friend who you describe. I just don't challenge him and that's how we manage to stay friends.
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(In red above). That's the way my wife is, but not me. She has a very hard time saying "no" to her sister and that's a big/huge reason we won't ever move back to So California where she lives. Wife has a girlfriend that she doesn't challenge either, but I do. She really isn't the "confrontational" type, but I can be......depending on who I'm confronting.
 
My whole family are "know it alls". It can get real rowdy on our back porch. If you get my husband, son and daughter together, everyone is trying to get a word in edgewise. A talking stick works wonders..for a while. Whoever has it gets to talk,then pass it on. I on the other hand just set back and take it all in. If I get a chance to speak it's like E F Hutton, when Moma speaks everybody listens. Works well for me. :cool:
 
Being in a career that was pari-military you didn't ask questions, you did it and if something backfired they would answer for it.

However that has changed over the years that people do have the ability question things through the chain of command because if something goes wrong now, its your rear end that will answer for it.
 
Seeker said:
My whole family are "know it alls". It can get real rowdy on our back porch. If you get my husband, son and daughter together, everyone is trying to get a word in edgewise. A talking stick works wonders..for a while. Whoever has it gets to talk,then pass it on. I on the other hand just set back and take it all in. If I get a chance to speak it's like E F Hutton, when Moma speaks everybody listens. Works well for me. :cool:
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I like the idea of a talking stick!

If folks don't stop talking you can always use the stick to to poke 'em or wack 'em! :eek:nthego:
 
A female friend went to dinner with a man who spent over an hour talking about himself. When she tried to join the conversation, he said if he wanted to know anything about her, he would ask. Until then, she was there to listen.

He was surprised when she turned down another date.
 
My ex was a know it all control freak. That's why she is now an ex, well actually she is now an ex x 2. I guess her latest hubby grew tired of it as well.
 

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