Question for the ladies

Diwundrin said:
... and that had nothing much to do with the subject but as I have no kids, and learnt as little about childbearing as it was possible to avoid, it was the best I could do.
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It's like we are carbon copies in so many areas!

My mom didn't want children and it was obvious to me growing up. I am sure that is why I never ever wanted any children of my own. And I have never once regretted it. But I am a good mom to my fur kid. He is well loved.
 

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Katybug said:
I just read that one of my favorite actresses had a baby. Her first, I think....and she's 49!!!! Congrats and all that, but I can't imagine risking it. I hope she had some help w/an egg transplant.

Whether or not you have kids, if the circumstances were such that you truly wanted a child, what would be the cut off age for you?

Worst case scenario for me would be 40 and that's really pushing it, tho I'm hearing more and more about early to mid-40's and no problems. But almost 50, whew!!!
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definitely no later than 40.
 
I had my children in my 20's.

No way would I consider having a baby in my mid to late 30's, never mind at age 40 (or beyond).
 

Aunt Marg said:
I had my children in my 20's.

No way would I consider having a baby in my mid to late 30's, never mind at age 40 (or beyond).
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Not all women go into menopause at the same age either so the closer you get to 40 you run the risk of not having enough hormone for the development of the baby I think.
 
I was in my late 20's and early 30's when I had my 2 children. Just about 2 yrs ago my husband's niece who had been trying to get pregnant for years when her Doctor told her she still had a few saved eggs left and would she want to try again. She agreed and had a beautiful baby girl.She was 50yrs old at the time. I was shocked and thought it might not have been a good choice to have a baby at that age. I had my 1st grandchild when I was that age.
 
My M-I-L was 40 when she had the last of her 10 children. They were twins and most likely only the last because my F-I-L died when the twins were 2. All 10 are were healthy, mentally and physically. The only worry I would have if having children after 40 would be possibly not living long enough to see my grandchildren! I used to work in an andrology lab in Denver. Women would freeze their eggs and men their sperm in hopes of having children. Quite a few would bring in their miracle babies for us to see. Some were in their late 40’s and older. I’ve often wondered how their lives turned out. Happily I hope, because they were all over the moon happy at the time 💕
 
I believe the average age women in the UK have their first child is over thirty, and continuing to rise, as they wait to fulfil their educational ambitions, or career goals, plus the perrenial problem of finding a faithful,(/suitable father).
I know I feared the prospects of my then wife becoming too old to successfully conceive, and she was only 26 years old when our daughter came along.
I had similar fears to those expressed by others about disabled child being born, and similarly doubted whether I could have coped in those circumstances.
(Oops, just realised this was a question for the ladies, well on behalf of my then wife, I think she had similar fears to my own, and took very little encouraging to start our family, especially as she'd expressed her desire to have my child very early in our courtship!).
 
Life can be difficult for the child of an older mother. The burden of caring for her might fall on the child just when they are starting out in life. This was the situation for one of my boyfriends. He was the only child of an elderly mother, his father had died and he was responsible for her. It also affected his marriage prospects as his mother would have to live with him and his wife.
It was a great relief to him when she died and he was free.
 

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