Murrmurr
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Recent study shows people are born helpful...
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Ronni
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When my kids were little I ran my own childcare facility for some years, taking in kids through to kindergarten age. Lots of kids, lots of different personalities.
I learned that a child starts showing their various traits from a very early age, and because of that personal experience, I respectfully disagree.
While most of the kids would happily perform the helpful tasks shown in that video, there were a small percentage who would diverge from the helpfulness in some way. Using the video as an example, they might snatch an item from another child and hand it to the adult, not to be helpful but to deprive the other child of the experience or to gain attention.
Some kids just weren’t interested in sharing, doing group activities, or cooperating. They were just too self focused to bother with anyone else. And yes, young children tend be self-focused, learning to reach outside themselves as they grew. But it was obvious that the random few had no interest in helping anyone but themselves.
I learned that a child starts showing their various traits from a very early age, and because of that personal experience, I respectfully disagree.
While most of the kids would happily perform the helpful tasks shown in that video, there were a small percentage who would diverge from the helpfulness in some way. Using the video as an example, they might snatch an item from another child and hand it to the adult, not to be helpful but to deprive the other child of the experience or to gain attention.
Some kids just weren’t interested in sharing, doing group activities, or cooperating. They were just too self focused to bother with anyone else. And yes, young children tend be self-focused, learning to reach outside themselves as they grew. But it was obvious that the random few had no interest in helping anyone but themselves.
I agree with Ronni and I think this video will make parents very confused and seek advice
if their child hits that egocentric stage later than they are supposed to. All stages of life
have to be mastered before the next can be fully mastered.
I have seen children like this, rare but have, and those children begin school and WHAM..
suddenly problems in school for the late arrival of egocentric stage.
Egocentric stage of life is usually 2-7 years, lessoning off as each year passes.
Some persons hang on to it through life also having not mastered it allowing empathy to fully develop.
if their child hits that egocentric stage later than they are supposed to. All stages of life
have to be mastered before the next can be fully mastered.
I have seen children like this, rare but have, and those children begin school and WHAM..
suddenly problems in school for the late arrival of egocentric stage.
Egocentric stage of life is usually 2-7 years, lessoning off as each year passes.
Some persons hang on to it through life also having not mastered it allowing empathy to fully develop.
OldFeller
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- Pennsylvania, USA
My father-in-law used to say that there are no bad kids, just bad parents.
George1959
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My wife says, kids are guests who ask for the way. The parents have to show them the right direction.
Personally I think all head teachers and owners of Licensed Home Day care should be required
to at least have an Associates Degree in Early Childhood Development and Education so they can stop saying...
"That is just what kids do" and learn "Why" they do it instead so they can understand how to aid a child to master the stages.
to at least have an Associates Degree in Early Childhood Development and Education so they can stop saying...
"That is just what kids do" and learn "Why" they do it instead so they can understand how to aid a child to master the stages.
