Recently Dumped after 40 years

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I'm Michael, a Boston native and serial entrepreneur, I have lots of experience consulting for new business ventures in the high tech space and medical devices
I was recently dumped after 40 years of marriage. I am now seeking new friends and associates to share my knowledge and to hear other stories about adjusting to life after being married.
 

Hi and welcome Michael. No advice from me, never got my feet wet to start with so my whole life has been kind of pre marriage.

There are a few recoverers here though to chat with, so again ... :welcome:
 

Welcome, Michael

Life's what you make it.
Take some time to lick your wounds, then make a fresh start.
You'll find lots of people on this forum who will be glad to share your journey.
 
Ouch!

Welcome to the forum, Michael. Sorry for your travails.

Myself, I lasted 15 years before the bubble burst. I just put myself into my work, and that seemed to help me get through the tough times.







... well, that and powerful medications, alcohol and strippers, but I wouldn't advocate those for anyone. :p
 
Hi Michael, I must say it takes a big man to make his introductory thread with such an honest and to the point proclamation.

Welcome to the forum!
 
rkunsaw said:
Welcome Michael
I'm still trying to adjust to being married. It may take some time but you might eventually begin to enjoy your new found freedom.

:welcome:
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Congrats to YOU rkunsaw!!! And to Michael, welcome!! I found sooo many fun people here to fill up the lonely times! I know you're gonna have a blast!
 
Thanks everyone for the encouragement... I am only 3.5 months out so there is still a lot of adjusting ..I have not had to cook or shop or clean..always done for me or with my mate
we also owned a business together so we were together a lot....I have some perspective and am gaining more each day. I see that I had a good log run and that in todays world ...if you are lucky a relationship that lasts over 10 years is considered long.... my being dumped so unceremoniously was what bothered me the most.....when I look back ..i had a comfortable companion relationship...but not a deep seated...communicative one.....That is what I have recognized.
I am also delaing witgh being alone and loneliness. Trying to figure out what I want, what will make me happy, who I am..all kinds of stuff...
I am having to start everything from scratch.. would love to hear views from other boomers who have been here, done that
 
Welcome to the forum and sorry for your situation, Virtual. Redefining one's self is hard after being part of a relationship for so long. It's almost like a death, only sometimes worse if there is self recriminations and bitterness. Stick around and join in, these folks are great at moral support, and providing laughs. We are a diverse group (putting it mildly), living in a myriad of different, interesting situations, and offering up a vast array life experiences and interests.
 
IMO, Being "dumped" is the same as being widowed; in both cases you're left alone, so it's

up to you as to how you handle it. Get over it the best way you can and get on with your life.

Some people do it sooner than others.

I'm sure that in your case you didn't deserve it but some folks deserve to be dumped.

There are two sides to every story.

Good luck in your recovery.
 
Are you still working Virtual?
You don't have to answer any question that you don't want to!
 
Hi Michael,
Look at it this way. You now have every right to look at and kiss all the pretty ladies you wish, but without any of the guilt. I've been married 47 years and I have to remind myself, there's nothing wrong with looking.
 
I was thrown out of the family company that I started 10 years ago..so that was my job..I have a short term consulting contract for now.. I am seeking to start another venture
 
right at the moment it is the last thing on my mind.. I have no guilt.. I am not able to think that far ahaed
 
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