Reflections of My Life

I kept trying to call my son and he did not pick up his phone. I had to walk right by his apartment (so it means I can walk there also......just not up his stairs). I sat on my walker next to the police car that was parked in front of his building. Felt safe.

Then the policeman comes out of Jeff's building with a woman in handcuffs..........uh oh! He put her in his car and left. Too much excitement for me. Plus I was worried about Jeff. I kept calling after I got home and he FINALLY picked up. So he was just here and is okay.
 

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katlupe said:
I kept trying to call my son and he did not pick up his phone. I had to walk right by his apartment (so it means I can walk there also......just not up his stairs). I sat on my walker next to the police car that was parked in front of his building. Felt safe.

Then the policeman comes out of Jeff's building with a woman in handcuff..........uh oh! He put her in his car and left. Too much excitement for me. Plus I was worried about Jeff. I kept calling after I got home and he FINALLY picked up. So he was just here and is okay.
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Wow! I'm so proud of you walking!! It is wonderful to see you going to the Dollar Store and your son's building. I can understand how it feels being worried about your son, especially going to the building and seeing the action there. Glad he finally picked up the phone.
 
This morning I was awaken by someone knocking on my door. At first I thought I was dreaming then heard it again. My friend/neighbor was here at my door. Her husband had fallen and she needed me to call 911 for her. She has a problem using the phone. They came and got him up. He refused to go to the hospital so is at home in his recliner.

The whole time she was here and I was calling, all I could hear was her husband coughing loudly. I hope he will be okay. After the emergency squad left I could still hear him coughing but not as much. He has stopped now and she has not come back.

I presently have six houseplants. I am thinking of getting rid of three of them and maybe four. When winter comes I move them from the windows to my table or dresser because it is too cold near the windows for them. All of them have sentimental reasons for me keeping them all these years. Now I am tired of caring for them. Right now they need transplanting and I just don't want to do it anymore. Maybe today, I will get rid of two of the aloes. My father started them for me and I do use it for burns. One is enough though.
 

"Maybe today, I will get rid of two of the aloes. My father started them for me and I do use it for burns. One is enough though."

Your father started these plants for you? How lovely to still have & use them!

As for your neighbors coming to you for help----well, you give off a vibe of competence, willingness & compassion. I think know I'd come to you too. That's what you get for being wonderful, people bother you!!!!!!!!!! 🤗
 
Pepper said:
"Maybe today, I will get rid of two of the aloes. My father started them for me and I do use it for burns. One is enough though."

Your father started these plants for you? How lovely to still have & use them!

As for your neighbors coming to you for help----well, you give off a vibe of competence, willingness & compassion. I think know I'd come to you too. That's what you get for being wonderful, people bother you!!!!!!!!!! 🤗
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Thank you, Pepper for the vote of confidence!

Yes, my father could grow anything. I never had an African Violet blossom until I got the one that he had in his house when he died (in 2012). I started another from one of the leaves so I have two now.
 
katlupe said:
This morning I was awaken by someone knocking on my door. At first I thought I was dreaming then heard it again. My friend/neighbor was here at my door. Her husband had fallen and she needed me to call 911 for her. She has a problem using the phone. They came and got him up. He refused to go to the hospital so is at home in his recliner.

The whole time she was here and I was calling, all I could hear was her husband coughing loudly. I hope he will be okay. After the emergency squad left I could still hear him coughing but not as much. He has stopped now and she has not come back.

I presently have six houseplants. I am thinking of getting rid of three of them and maybe four. When winter comes I move them from the windows to my table or dresser because it is too cold near the windows for them. All of them have sentimental reasons for me keeping them all these years. Now I am tired of caring for them. Right now they need transplanting and I just don't want to do it anymore. Maybe today, I will get rid of two of the aloes. My father started them for me and I do use it for burns. One is enough though.
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Isn't it wonderful that your neighbor trusted you and came to you for help? I agree with @Pepper !

Regarding the houseplants, I have about 20 of them, and the most I do is water them. I haven't transplanted anything in years, lol. I usually take a clipping and grow in another pot. Today, I moved several of them into the den. Yes, the cold from winter will seep through the window, and I probably will move them to a warmer spot at a later date. Plants clean the air. They convert it into oxygen, so I want them around.
 
The businesses along the main downtown street, Broad Street, have been hurting due to the work being done of the gas lines. They had not been touched for over 100 years and had to be replaced. So digging down underneath the road, curbs and sidewalks is a loud, dusty undertaking. The businesses though are losing so much money and some are having a hard time staying open.

I know the owner of the hair salon I go to is going away on a vacation (a cruise). Her salon is not hurting because hair and nail appointments are scheduled and nobody likes to miss them. But she owns the coffee shop across the street and decided to close it while she is gone for renovations. She is a smart business woman and I think she has done well for herself.

She worked for 10 years in the salon and when the owner was going to sell it she bought it. Including the whole building which has apartments upstairs. Then during COVID the coffee shop across the street had just opened and they just could not keep it going due to the restrictions. They put it up for sale and she bought that too. It has been very popular and now serves food also. The smell of the bagels in the morning is awesome! I am looking forward to seeing the coffee shop after she gets back.
 
I spent a good part of the afternoon on the phone with my friend. She is looking at houses in Norwich and I am helping her with that. She found 3 to look at that are not far from me. Two are walking distance. One is pink & purple (my favorite colors) and one of the bathrooms has a mosaic wall that is beautiful. It was fun looking at the houses.

It reminds me of why I am so happy to be living where I do. I don't have to worry about taxes, plumbing, heating or anything else connected to home ownership. Now I just have to walk out to the dumpster. Didn't get much done today but there is always tomorrow.
 
I will be helping my friend the best I can for the next few days. Her husband is in the hospital now. It is his kidneys. Fortunately this happened while her brother and his wife were visiting from NC. Her brother is doing everything he can to help her right now.

Our two other friends (one lives upstairs and the other one across the hall) and I have coffee together in each others' apartments. We will all try to help her. Her husband does everything for her, even the cooking so she will need some help and our company. I hope he gets through this and can come back home. He is the one who fell the other day.
 
so do i..although i don't talk much...i always keep up with your posts.....
my husband is very ill now...aggressive 4th stage cancer...all organs....
2 weeks ago..cutting..splitting wood..projects too...
now...
he can hardly raise his arms or head...no walking..no more ...
Hospice is here...daughter..son in law..son...i am so sad...afraid
i thank everyone for prayers... in your thread..i felt okay to say these things...you're a lovely person
 
bingo said:
so do i..although i don't talk much...i always keep up with your posts.....
my husband is very ill now...aggressive 4th stage cancer...all organs....
2 weeks ago..cutting..splitting wood..projects too...
now...
he can hardly raise his arms or head...no walking..no more ...
Hospice is here...daughter..son in law..son...i am so sad...afraid
i thank everyone for prayers... in your thread..i felt okay to say these things...you're a lovely person
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I am so sorry to hear this about your husband. I am praying for you, him and your whole family. So hard to go through this. You can share whatever you need to here. We are your friends and are here for you the best we can be. Sending you love and prayers.
 
bingo said:
so do i..although i don't talk much...i always keep up with your posts.....
my husband is very ill now...aggressive 4th stage cancer...all organs....
2 weeks ago..cutting..splitting wood..projects too...
now...
he can hardly raise his arms or head...no walking..no more ...
Hospice is here...daughter..son in law..son...i am so sad...afraid
i thank everyone for prayers... in your thread..i felt okay to say these things...you're a lovely person
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@bingo... oooooh this is horribly tragic and sad for you and your husband... for him to be so poorly, and you to have to watch him in such pain :(:(...please use this forum to reach out for anything you need, or anytime you need to talk. There is someone here 24/7 who wil listen ... 🤗
 
bingo said:
so do i..although i don't talk much...i always keep up with your posts.....
my husband is very ill now...aggressive 4th stage cancer...all organs....
2 weeks ago..cutting..splitting wood..projects too...
now...
he can hardly raise his arms or head...no walking..no more ...
Hospice is here...daughter..son in law..son...i am so sad...afraid
i thank everyone for prayers... in your thread..i felt okay to say these things...you're a lovely person
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Sorry to hear that, bingo. 😔🙏
 
I have not been walking because my friend was not able to walk with me. The hall, where we walk has been hot and humid. So my excuses seemed reasonable. My Lymphedema has since become bad again. The only thing different was stopping my morning walk. Today I am walking to the dumpster and then to the park.

Later I have to go to the Grand Union to get a few things. I will take Jazzy, of course. I have not really been out of my apartment since either Friday or Saturday. I got into a rut since I had to keep my legs up more. No time to get lazy, I told myself. I know with Lymphedema everything works together to keep the swelling down. And one thing neglected such as the walking stops my progress.
 
As I started my walk around the park this morning, I took notice of the people I passed. Seems to me the people who we call homeless may not be homeless at all. I think it is a look they have, especially the men. The homeless carry backpacks or bags, men or women. The others I believe are the ones doing drugs and these are not the drugs of my youth. They are the drugs that can and do kill.

The individuals are very thin, scraggely looking, usually smoking a cigarette as they walk. The ones I followed this morning had two dogs on leashes so it crossed my mind that I was mistaken about them. No, they turned in on the sidewalk going to the patio on the back of the library. There were others there already. They sit there for hours doing their thing.

I do not look their way, just keep walking. I do not carry any money or anything else on me unless I am taking pictures. Then I would try to guard my camera but they have never approached me. Not even to ask for money. I am not afraid of them, just cautious. To tell the truth these people look weak and fragile. I am probably stronger than them.

I told my son to be careful around them since his apartment is right in the middle of where they all hang out. He said, "Mom, no one is going to mess with me." I asked why he says that. He said because he is 6'5" and they are afraid of him. He is not really a fighter but if he gets angry about something he could be.
 
My friend's husband is coming home from the hospital today. I think I need to teach him how to use Instacart so he can get their groceries online. He has been the person who people go to when they need a ride to an appointment or the store. He shops for him and his wife and MIL. Has always done a lot for their church as well as a volunteer for the school. Now he has to take it easy at least at first.

I am getting back into my morning walk now. I did yesterday at the park and plan on today too. It is always hard when you have not done it for a bit. But always have to start again. Which I am doing. Always need to push myself to the next level of something.

One of my goals, maybe this week, is to walk with my walker to a thrift store that isn't too far. It was one of my favorite places to go. My husband took me there a few times when I first moved in here. Later on Sonny took me there. I have not been there for at least a couple of years now. So going to go there to see if I can walk that far. It is a couple of blocks farther than my hairdressers. I figure if I made it to Dollar Tree, I can make it there.
 
hollydolly said:
@bingo... oooooh this is horribly tragic and sad for you and your husband... for him to be so poorly, and you to have to watch him in such pain :(:(...please use this forum to reach out for anything you need, or anytime you need to talk. There is someone here 24/7 who wil listen ... 🤗
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..thank you dear holly...he was in no pain...our daughter got hospice care for him...she and her husband stayed with us..nite and day.....
he died this early morning...she rocked him in her arms to sleep
 
Oooh ((((Bingo)))).... I won't make any unwanted platitudes... just please remember we're here if you ever need to talk.. 🤗 may he R.I.P

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I am so sorry to hear about your loss, Bingo. I can't make your pain go away, but know that we are here for you as you go through this difficult time.
 

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