I wouldn't put one more red cent into repairs to a house that needs major work to bring it up to code. The more you post about things that need to be repaired/renovated, the more it sounds like a tear-down that's only worth the land it sits on. It's time to turn loose, Deb...of the stuff and of the house. Chuck it all as-is and move on. Be like Nike and "Just Do It!" Seems like you've analyzed and over-analyzed until you're suffering from analysis paralysis. If it means that you have to move to a location away from what you're used to, then embrace it. Heck, there very well might be a whole new life, a whole new adventure, out there with your name on it.
Worried about running out of money? You're bound to run out of money if you keep pouring money into your house. I understand the attachment, really I do, but it's way past time to detach and start living the rest of your life. You can't turn back the clock.