Run-in with a jerk

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Another one looking for some kind of conflict perhaps. I would not have engaged myself. If this person was able bodied and could move around your cart, they had no reason to confront you IMO.
 
Remy said:
Another one looking for some kind of conflict perhaps. I would not have engaged myself. If this person was able bodied and could move around your cart, they had no reason to confront you IMO.
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Exactly ! He was trying and failing to intimidate me.
 
Murrmurr said:
Honestly, I don't tak my bad days out on others. I'm more inclined to use their positive energy to boost my own.
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Kudos to you then.
I strive to not do so, but I'm quite sure there must been times when i was stressed out and my voice may have had a harsher tone than i intended, (at least it was more likely to be with people i knew and so i could apologize later, rarely to strangers). Most humans do at some point. And sometimes i may have decided someone was 'a jerk' because i was too stressed myself to see they were as stressed i was and hadn't meant to be rude or problematic.
 
senior chef said:
You are forgetting something VERY important. If I allowed anyone to push me around, I'd have to live with the fact that I am a victim. I refuse to be a victim. The emotional impact of victimhood is a heavy burden to carry.
If I could use an analogy ? A woman who is raped, has become a victim of her attacker. She may, or may not have suffered physical trauma BUT the knowledge that she was victimized is a heavy emotional burden to carry. In other words the emotional trauma is often far, far worse than the actual physical trauma.
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You are not a woman and I suspect that you have never been raped. If I am wrong about the latter than what you have just written makes sense. Otherwise, to compare your spat with a man on a bus over the placement of a shopping trolley to a woman being violated is way over the top.

You are more than a foot taller than me and probably younger as well. I would have said "So sorry" and made an attempt to give the man (or woman if the person was female) as much room as I could. Soft words do not equate to weakness and they can de-escalate tense situations. Being an elder has some advantages. One of them is wisdom.
 
Warrigal said:
You are not a woman and I suspect that you have never been raped. If I am wrong about the latter than what you have just written makes sense. Otherwise, to compare your spat with a man on a bus over the placement of a shopping trolley to a woman being violated is way over the top.

You are more than a foot taller than me and probably younger as well. I would have said "So sorry" and made an attempt to give the man (or woman if the person was female) as much room as I could. Soft words do not equate to weakness and they can de-escalate tense situations. Being an elder has some advantages. One of them is wisdom.
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Absolument!! What I see here is an elderly man, showing no wisdom at all,but bullying a young man smaller than himself. I find this disturbing and ask myself, would the same discourtesy be shown to a white young man? Should the old not give a good example to the young?
 
Shero said:
Absolument!! What I see here is an elderly man, showing no wisdom at all,but bullying a young man smaller than himself. I find this disturbing and ask myself, would the same discourtesy be shown to a white young man? Should the old not give a good example to the young?
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Once again you haven't the faintest idea of what you are talking about.
1st, I was sitting peacefully by myself, minding my own business, when a young thug tried to intimidate ME.
2nd, I could couldn't care less about the color of his skin. Intimidation is intimidation, no mater what the skin color.
3rd, thugs have not the slightest interest in seeing a "good example". They get their jollies through intimidation. They understand one thing only … raw power.
 
mellowyellow said:
You are lucky to have lived this long and nobody has ever pushed you around.
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Perhaps I am lucky. Perhaps not. In my very long life, some guys have attempted to push me around. Sometimes it came to blows. Though often bloodied, I have never lost a street fight.
Though it has been nearly 40 years since my last street fight, I still know how to defend myself.
Size does help... 6'3'' and 195 lbs.
 
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senior chef said:
Once again you haven't the faintest idea of what you are talking about.
1st, I was sitting peacefully by myself, minding my own business, when a young thug tried to intimidate ME.
2nd, I could couldn't care less about the color of his skin. Intimidation is intimidation, no mater what the skin color.
3rd, thugs have not the slightest interest in seeing a "good example". They get their jollies through intimidation. They understand one thing only … raw power.
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That is your story and you are sticking to it. Now can we bring the young man to the witness stand to get his side of the story!!
 
I have travelled all over the US, have met so many young ones and cannot remember one being rude to me. Attitude is what gets you through life! You show respect, you get respect from young and old.
 
senior chef said:
You are forgetting something VERY important. If I allowed anyone to push me around, I'd have to live with the fact that I am a victim. I refuse to be a victim. The emotional impact of victimhood is a heavy burden to carry.
If I could use an analogy ? A woman who is raped, has become a victim of her attacker. She may, or may not have suffered physical trauma BUT the knowledge that she was victimized is a heavy emotional burden to carry. In other words the emotional trauma is often far, far worse than the actual physical trauma.
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Strange comparison - someone asking you to move your cart blocking an aisle vs rape.
Hmmmmmmm.
 
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