School Must Approve Prom Dresses

fmdog44

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What is your opinion of this? By "excessive cleavage" they mean like some of the dresses we see at the Academy Awards I might have to agree since some of those dresses are one thread short of nudity.

Southwood High School Principal Dr. Kim Pendleton issued a text message to students informing all girls that they’d have to send in a photo of their dress to her in order to have it OK’d, according to NBC affiliate KTAL.
Pendleton warned that any dresses showing “excess cleavage or skin” would not be allowed, and that the rules also applied for male students bringing dates from a different school.
“As you begin shopping for your attire, please make sure you do not purchase any clothes that are sheer or revealing in any manner,” the text reportedly read. “Prior to purchasing your outfit, I will need you to send me a picture of you in the outfit… with your name and grade. Once I approve the outfit, you may purchase it.”
Pendleton added that students would only be allowed into prom wearing a pre-approved dress.
 

I can see their concern ... back in the day we didn't wear prom dresses like we were walking the red carpet in Hollywood.

This prom dress would probably get a NO ..:ROFLMAO:

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fmdog44 said:
What is your opinion of this? By "excessive cleavage" they mean like some of the dresses we see at the Academy Awards I might have to agree since some of those dresses are one thread short of nudity.

Southwood High School Principal Dr. Kim Pendleton issued a text message to students informing all girls that they’d have to send in a photo of their dress to her in order to have it OK’d, according to NBC affiliate KTAL.
Pendleton warned that any dresses showing “excess cleavage or skin” would not be allowed, and that the rules also applied for male students bringing dates from a different school.
“As you begin shopping for your attire, please make sure you do not purchase any clothes that are sheer or revealing in any manner,” the text reportedly read. “Prior to purchasing your outfit, I will need you to send me a picture of you in the outfit… with your name and grade. Once I approve the outfit, you may purchase it.”
Pendleton added that students would only be allowed into prom wearing a pre-approved dress.
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I agree that some of the styles are in bad taste. But this is just another example of how everybody but parents call the shots- which I don't agree with.
 

Yes, but remember "in loco parentis" still applies. So they can set the standards there, but what happens after the prom nobody knows.
 
When my granddaughter was in high school, there were some pretty revealing dresses worn (not by her.....she had very little to reveal). I had very "modest" prom dresses; my mom made them and they would have been suitable for a papal audience, believe me.

I do think the "send me a picture and I'll tell you if you can buy it" is going too far. Publish the guidelines and if someone shows up who's flouting them, send them off to have their own prom.

I do believe there needs to be guidelines as kids will push the limits as far as they can get. If it's a school-sponsored prom, the school gets to set the rules. But let's not go too far.
 
I went to an all girls Catholic High School. They even made us kneel on the floor and our uniform had to touch the floor if not you got in trouble because they said your uniform as too short. I can't even imagine what would happen if they thought your Prom dress wasn't appropriate .
 
Some of the dresses today do go overboard. I also agree that the parents should be the first to step in and say "NO WAY" to a dress that would be inappropriate before it even has to go to a school administrator. That being said though some parents don't even care so I don't think this is a bad idea at all.
 
JaniceM said:
I agree that some of the styles are in bad taste. But this is just another example of how everybody but parents call the shots- which I don't agree with.
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Many parents don't bother to call the shots - or place reasonable constraints on their children, which is why school administrators have to step in.

When I was a teenager there were times when I'd go to the breakfast table in an outfit my mother didn't think was appropriate. She'd just point to my bedroom. Message received.
 
StarSong said:
Many parents don't bother to call the shots - or place reasonable constraints on their children, which is why school administrators have to step in.

When I was a teenager there were times when I'd go to the breakfast table in an outfit my mother didn't think was appropriate. She'd just point to my bedroom. Message received.
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I did that with my daughter too.
 
exwisehe said:
Yes, but remember "in loco parentis" still applies. So they can set the standards there, but what happens after the prom nobody knows.
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This is an early school case I've been familiar with for many years,1st mention of ILP is at paragraph 7. Followed in 1984 by the USSC case New Jersey v. TLO where it was ruled that Teachers etc. are agents of the govt. for 4th AM purposes, but acting in a less strict nature, also mentioning ILP.

https://openjurist.org/690/f2d/470/horton-v-goose-creek-independent-school-district
 
I don't know of too many parents, who would let their little girl out the door in that red dress in Bonnie's pic. But we have 'parents' dressing up their 8 year old girls like street vamps for those kiddie pageants. Having the principle ok dresses seems to infringe on parental controls, but what do you do when parental control is lacking. Not everybody is responsible adult.
 
I think that it’s fine for the school to set up a code of conduct and a dress code for school functions, but having the school approve each individual gown seems like an overreach of authority to me.

IMO the whole idea of school prom should be reevaluated. The expense associated with prom is amazing to me.

I would much rather see a themed event where kids can use their imagination and talent instead of buckets of money to have a good time.
 
Sassycakes said:
I went to an all girls Catholic High School. They even made us kneel on the floor and our uniform had to touch the floor if not you got in trouble because they said your uniform as too short. I can't even imagine what would happen if they thought your Prom dress wasn't appropriate .
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I taught for 25 years in a catholic girls junior high school and at the end of year 10 they had a formal dinner. It was held at the school assembly hall and the girls could only invite their parents, not boys from other schools. Before the dinner there was a mass at the nearby church.

I was staggered by some of the outfits that were worn to the church and to the dinner. They would not have been out of place worn sitting on a stool in a singles bar in Kings Cross and the girls were just 15 or 16 years of age. Call me a prude, and you would be correct, but really!! The girls didn't have the money to buy the dresses themselves. They also didn't have the poise to carry them off. The overall effect way of jailbait and their mothers ought to have guided them towards more age appropriate outfits.

The nuns didn't seem to be at all fazed but, as the then mother of a teen aged girl, I found it very disturbing.
 
What is the result of a teenage girl wearing a dress displaying too much cleavage to prom? Remember the big hair and the huge shoulder pads and excessive makeup of our youth. We ended up with embarrassing photos years later. If it’s like most proms, the girls change into ordinary clothes before leaving for the after prom activities. Forty or fifty years ago, cleavage wasn’t so prominent and that didn’t stop things from happening.

TBH I don’t think the displayed cleavage is appropriate. Leave it up to the parents who are footing the bill.
 
My sons went to a Christian HS. Girls and boys who dressed inappropriately for senior dinner/prom were told to change, cover up, or leave. If they opted to leave, their parents were called and advised to expect them at home because they were no longer at the school function.

This was 2004.
 
Jackie23 said:
Sounds like a reasonable request to me...
Schools have and need rules.
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Schools around here had to make these kinds of rules because the parent didn't. Some parents would let their girls go to prom with what we call bedroom dresses or see-through. Many girls "tried" to push the envelope & wear revealing clothing. They were not allowed into the prom.

Some even got suspended for 3 days because There was a letter sent home to the parents about proper dress for the prom for both girls & boys. Parents raised cain, Then they found out that letter never made it home. So the suspension stood.

Any more they also have a police officer at the door going in. To use breathalyzer & wand to check for weapons.
 
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“As you begin shopping for your attire, please make sure you do not purchase any clothes that are sheer or revealing in any manner,” the text reportedly read.

Advising parents & the girls that would be going to prom that this is the standard & any girl deviating from the standard will be barred from entering the prom.

Seems like a reasonable way to address the concern. The principal reviewing & approving or denying seems like way to much control.
 
This brought back a Naughty memory to me. My boyfriend asked me to go to his prom. My gown was strapless. After the prom, we went to an after-prom party. His friend and his girlfriend were in the front seat and we were in the back. My boyfriend found a place to put his hands.He must have liked it because we got married a few years later
 

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