Sometime before i pass on

I never understood that "tall, dark, and handsome" thing. (Why dark?) Sounds like a line from a corny old movie.
 

My son claims that this pickup line is always successful: "Does all this cash in my wallet make my butt look big?"

I dunno.

Hoot
 

Just an interested question ... in all honesty... ... Is the person you're married to ( or significant other), truly the love of your life? ( apart from sassycakes because she's already stated that)
 
The sexiest thing a man can do is give me his complete and undivided attention. He's not looking over my shoulder to see who else is around and he's not fidgeting because he's in a hurry and I'm in his way.

However, that only works if he's not a politician who has learned that technique and uses it to his advantage.
 
So, all of the things mentioned so far, do they really take your breath away ? Or is it rather just "an attraction"?

I hate to use an analogy, because someone usually misunderstands, and an analogy is never quite right but...

Let's say you are clothes shopping. You look and look, passing up most items, then you see something you like a lot, and you hang on to it but you keep shopping.

Finally, you see something so fantastic that you can't live without it. Perhaps you even say, "This is the most beautiful thing I've ever seen."
Perhaps there is a sharp intake of breath ?

That feeling is what I'm asking about. Is there anything else that moves a woman in that manner ?
 
Traveler said:
So, all of the things mentioned so far, do they really take your breath away ? Or is it rather just "an attraction"?

I hate to use an analogy, because someone usually misunderstands, and an analogy is never quite right but...

Let's say you are clothes shopping. You look and look, passing up most items, then you see something you like a lot, and you hang on to it but you keep shopping.

Finally, you see something so fantastic that you can't live without it. Perhaps you even say, "This is the most beautiful thing I've ever seen."
Perhaps there is a sharp intake of breath ?

That feeling is what I'm asking about. Is there anything else that moves a woman in that manner ?
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Probably not. The trick is piquing a woman's interest. You still have to court her.
 
Traveler said:
So, all of the things mentioned so far, do they really take your breath away ? Or is it rather just "an attraction"?

I hate to use an analogy, because someone usually misunderstands, and an analogy is never quite right but...

Let's say you are clothes shopping. You look and look, passing up most items, then you see something you like a lot, and you hang on to it but you keep shopping.

Finally, you see something so fantastic that you can't live without it. Perhaps you even say, "This is the most beautiful thing I've ever seen."
Perhaps there is a sharp intake of breath ?

That feeling is what I'm asking about. Is there anything else that moves a woman in that manner ?
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Oh, if you're looking for something that knocks the breath out of me it's this.

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Sorry this is so superficial, but seeing a man this handsome might just knock me for a loop.
 
Warrigal said:
Probably not. The trick is piquing a woman's interest. You still have to court her.
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I am well beyond the point of courting anyone. My interest is purely academic.

That being said, I discovered , quite by accident, that not courting her, or even paying much attention to her, in the very beginning, is the surest way to pique her interest. This is especially true if she knows quite well that she is drop-dead gorgeous.
 
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Not being drop dead gorgeous, I have never expected every man to be interested in me.
Not being needy, I have always taken my time to sum up a man's character before giving any hint of interest on my part.

It seems to me that you want a simple answer to a complex question.
We can all give you one but each alone will be inadequate most of the time.
 
Warrigal said:
Not being drop dead gorgeous, I have never expected every man to be interested in me.
Not being needy, I have always taken my time to sum up a man's character before giving any hint of interest on my part.

It seems to me that you want a simple answer to a complex question.
We can all give you one but each alone will be inadequate most of the time.
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Gee, I don't know about that. The question is quite simple and the answer should also be simple. Either a person has an overwhelming desire or they don't. The reasons for the desire, however, may be very complex but I did not ask about that.
 
Traveler said:
I am well beyond the point of courting anyone. My interest is purely academic.

That being said, I discovered , quite by accident, that not courting her, or even paying much attention to her, in the very beginning, is the surest way to pique her interest. This is especially true if she knows quite well that she is drop-dead gorgeous.
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I seriously doubt that tactic would pique anyone's interest, unless you're drop-dead gorgeous yourself. Even then, it's not likely to be effective. A drop-dead gorgeous woman doesn't need to waste time on a loser who plays games.

No idea why men think negging is a useful tactic. It might possibly work on a woman with low self-esteem, and I imagine those men enjoy complaining later that the woman they got through negging has low self-esteem. A woman with a healthy ego walks away from men who insult her. Why anyone sticks around to spend time with a jerk is beyond me, and only a jerk would insult a woman for attention.

Why not stop all of the stupid pickup games and let a woman know she interests you in positive ways, that make her feel better about herself and you?
 
OK, to get down to a very superficial level, I cannot understand why the makers of movies and TV series think that having a 3-day growth of stubble on a man's face makes him attractive to women. It would make me run as fast as I could in the other direction.

I do like a nice, well-kept beard on a man, or else clean-shaven. Am I missing something here?

(I recently had some surgery done by a doctor who has excellent medical skills, top in his field, etc. But he has that kind of scruffy stubble on his face. The first time I met him, it was almost enough to drive me away from his
office. So it's not only sexually unattractive (to me, anyway), it's also professionally inappropriate. Besides, it must be a lot of trouble to keep maintaining that hobo look.)
 
I have fewer problems with stubble (although it's been way overdone) than I do with Hollywood routinely casting unattractive men who always win the heart of the most beautiful woman in town.

I suppose it's a case of hope springs eternal, but I've always figured it's about unattractive producers making money off the lowest common denominator.

Imagine what's under that stubble. It's probably covering a weak jawline or acne scars.
 
Smiling Jane said:
I seriously doubt that tactic would pique anyone's interest, unless you're drop-dead gorgeous yourself. Even then, it's not likely to be effective. A drop-dead gorgeous woman doesn't need to waste time on a loser who plays games.

No idea why men think negging is a useful tactic. It might possibly work on a woman with low self-esteem, and I imagine those men enjoy complaining later that the woman they got through negging has low self-esteem. A woman with a healthy ego walks away from men who insult her. Why anyone sticks around to spend time with a jerk is beyond me, and only a jerk would insult a woman for attention.

Why not stop all of the stupid pickup games and let a woman know she interests you in positive ways, that make her feel better about herself and you?
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Wow ! What an attitude ! Let's see, you have called me "a loser" AND "a jerk" and "engaging in pickup games". What's your main problem ? Does it bother you that a man might be using the exact same tactics that women are famous for ? Hmm?

You also seem to feel that men are here to make women feel better about themselves. Curious concept. Does the reverse hold true ? Are women here to make men feel good about themselves. If she does not pay attention to him, is she insulting him ?

So, a man who does not go out of his way to fawn all over a woman is insulting her ? Since when ? Says who ? You ? Give me a freakin break.

To quote warrigal, (above, post # 40) "I have always taken my time to sum up a man's character before giving any hint of interest on my part"..

What Smiling Jane has clearly shown us, is that it is just fine for a woman to do something in the mating ritual, but if a man does the exact same thing he is a "loser, a jerk and playing pickup games". Gee, what happened to the concept of EQUALITY ?
 
To me, there is a difference between the kind of man that I might be physically attracted to, and the kind of man that I would fall in love with and want to spend my life together with. I can look at a man and think that he is extremely attractive, while knowing that he wuld not be someone that I wanted to have a relationship with.
Conversely, a man who was not movie-star handsome, but who was kind, gentle,intelligent, conversant, and had a good sense of humor might be someone that I could very easily fall in love with.
Sometimes, you might find both in the same person, but not always, and this seems to hold true for both men and women.

As far as what a woman finds attractive, I think that there is no one-answer for this, just like there is not for men to be attracted to a woman.
We all have different tastes in what we find attractive.
For me, being the country girl type that I am, it is the faded jeans, western shirt, and cowboy look that stirs my blood just about every time.
Just the sound of cowboy boots walking across the floor speeds my heart up a little bit.
I totally prefer clean-shaven to the scruffy-faced look that is popular now, but if the guy can carry off the cowboy look well enough, even that doesn’t matter much.
Here is one that would surely catch my eye in a fast heartbeat.....
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This may be the answer you were looking for:


The look of love
Is in your eyes
A look your smile can't
disguise

The look of love
Is saying so much more than
Just words could every say
And what my heart has heard
Well it takes my breath away

I can hardly wait to hold you
Feel my arms around you
How long I have waited
Waited just to love you

Now that I have found you
You've got the look of love
It's on your face
A look that time can't erase
Baby be mine, tonight

Let this be just the start of
So many nights like this
Let's take a lovers vow
And seal it with a kiss

Don't ever go
Don't ever go
I love you so
The look of love

Let this be just the start of
So many nights like this
Let's take a lover's vow
And baby we'll seal it with a kiss
 

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