grahamg
Old codger
- Location
- South of Manchester, UK
Professor Akira Morita's exact words I'm sure I've only roughly recalled, but his sentiment I'm fairly sure I've accurately conveyed, and its gratifying to read you are so strongly in agreement with the thinking.GOT IT! I get it. >whew<
"what children need is the relationship with their parents and not some notion of children's rights"
I agree with that 100% !! Absolutely.
Kind of related - If you laid graphs of the increase in gang related crime, drug-related crime, and violent and domestic crime in America from say, 1950 to the present, they would all line up remarkably with a graph of the increase in single-parent homes over the same period. I've checked it out, and they line up almost perfectly. It's obvious (to me, anyway) that children need both parents; their father's presence, for sure, because I'd wager that over 90% of those single-parent homes are single-mother homes.
Maybe those problems are peculiar to America, but the whole "west" went nuts in the 60s - 70s, when young adults were having babies with their "unlicensed, nothing-on-paper" partners and then went merrily on their way, the girls generally taking the kids with them; a time when young adults proclaimed themselves free from conventional responsibilities and lifestyles. That took us in a direction where we now find large swaths of our society living extremely selfishly, denying basic responsibilities, and perhaps failing to recognize that a toddler's brain is malleable, undecided, extremely impressionable, shaped by their environment and theclownspeople in it who are as likely to be selfish, irresponsible people as not.
(That was a bit of a tirade based on my own experience.)
I hope I don't end up confusing you again when I add that in my belief Professor Morita was hinting at a dynamic those promoting children's rights over parental rights choose to ignore, "What it is that leads the parents, (particularly the fathers), to give of themselves to their children".
I don't believe that's necessarily an automatic process, for at least some of us dads.
(You'll forgive me I hope for withholding my views on all your other arguments right now, because "I might become overly verbose", and/or be more likely to lose focus on my central arguments on the thread so far)