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Judi.D

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I want to thank all of you for this forum, and I mean all of you. I found this forum at very low point in my life. All of you have really helped me through this very difficult time. Those of you so open about your lives and problems have helped me put things in perspective in my own. I love the humor that has made me laugh out loud, even when it hijacked a serious thread that I was enjoying.

I don't agree with all of you all of the time, but have appreciated the intellectual stimulation, and sometimes the silliness. Please do not let recent events change this forum. I know change is inevitable, but I think most of you know what I mean. The variety of people and opinions on this site is what makes it so special. Thank you again. :)
 

I feel the same; and having found Speakers Corner; can debate and think aloud on there quite happily.

I am a bit busy at the moment; looking after my two small grandsons... But I will be back!
 
Judi, happy you're here with us, and the forum has been good for you. I know that I also benefit from visiting, and can learn, share and chuckle at the member's good sense of humor. Folks like you are what makes this board so special.
 

Judi.D said:
I want to thank all of you for this forum, and I mean all of you. I found this forum at very low point in my life. All of you have really helped me through this very difficult time. Those of you so open about your lives and problems have helped me put things in perspective in my own. I love the humor that has made me laugh out loud, even when it hijacked a serious thread that I was enjoying. I don't agree with all of you all of the time, but have appreciated the intellectual stimulation, and sometimes the silliness. Please do not let recent events change this forum. I know change is inevitable, but I think most of you know what I mean. The variety of people and opinions on this site is what makes it so special. Thank you again. :)
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I've been enjoying my time here as well and hope to continue to. I enjoy interacting with a variety of people and this whole age thing is nice to be able to talk about with kindred souls.
This site is mild compared to some of the extreme ones online so I've no major issues along those lines anyway. Others have had different experiences and then it's a different story.

Those I think are out of line do not exist for me; I blank them. Works for me!
 
I enjoy the forum as well and glad you do also Judi, I learn something new every time I come on here.
 
I have enjoyed this forum too but I have to confess I am now feeling rather unsure whether I am a good fit or not. I have tried to be a good forum citizen but I have blotted my copybook on at least one occasion and am thinking it is possibly time to upstakes and move on.

Since I went on holiday recently things have changed in subtle ways and I'm wondering whether I have been an unconscious catalyst provoking that change. I'm usually very confident but am now very unsure of my place here. There is a war going on within me between contrition and a desire to be true to myself.

This verse is ringing in my ears right now

The Moving Finger writes; and, having writ,
Moves on: nor all your Piety nor Wit
Shall lure it back to cancel half a Line,
Nor all your Tears wash out a Word of it

-- Omar Khayyam
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I must admit they are my thoughts too Warrigal, i am feeling very uneasy here since all this happened, i will see how things go over the next few days and will then make a decision, i have enjoyed this forum until recently, now i am feeling like i am losing my best friend
 
Judi.D said:
I want to thank all of you for this forum, and I mean all of you. I found this forum at very low point in my life. All of you have really helped me through this very difficult time. Those of you so open about your lives and problems have helped me put things in perspective in my own. I love the humor that has made me laugh out loud, even when it hijacked a serious thread that I was enjoying.

I don't agree with all of you all of the time, but have appreciated the intellectual stimulation, and sometimes the silliness. Please do not let recent events change this forum. I know change is inevitable, but I think most of you know what I mean. The variety of people and opinions on this site is what makes it so special. Thank you again. :)
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Hi Judi, I was glad to read your post, missed until just now. I feel pretty much the same as you do:) It is nice to get to know you a little better, Denise:)
 
SeaBreeze said:
Judi, happy you're here with us, and the forum has been good for you. I know that I also benefit from visiting, and can learn, share and chuckle at the member's good sense of humor. Folks like you are what makes this board so special.
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Ditto Seabreeze;)
 
Warrigal & Jill, I have benefited from both of you and your opinions. I can't articulate as well of either of you, but I have learned from you. Maybe you just need time to regroup. I hope we don't loose either of you.:love_heart:
 
Nah, Ina, I've decided to stick around for a while.
At least for as long as I can find interesting topics to get my teeth into.

I may haunt Speakers Corner more than I appear on the main forum for a few weeks.
 
Warrigal and Jill, I'm not sure what you are indicating. I must be thick as I've enjoyed both of your posts and input.

What exactly has put you off? I sure hope it wasn't anything I said. If so, I apologize sincerely.:lost:
 
Gael said:
Warrigal and Jill, I'm not sure what you are indicating. I must be thick as I've enjoyed both of your posts and input.

What exactly has put you off? I sure hope it wasn't anything I said. If so, I apologize sincerely.
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Gael, Jillaroo can speak for herself, but as far as I am concerned, it has nothing to do with any individual, and certainly not anything you have done or said. You have nothing whatever to apologise for.

Now I will have to apologise to Judi.D because to answer your question I will have to take this thread further off course. With your indulgence ....

Once in a Blue Moon I have a lapse in my manners and attack a poster, rather than what they have written. In other words, I get a bit too personal and afterwards I regret my actions and apologise. However, once the damage is done, it is hard to undo it.

For this reason, in the past on other forums, I have sent myself to the Coventry and refrained from posting anything for a fortnight and only return to posting when I have calmed down enough to avoid further provocation.

Why do I lose patience with people? Different reasons, but the latest one was caused by my frustration in finding it hard to have a serious discussion, even when the OP had raised a serious issue.

I gather that while I was away on a holiday this issue became rather heated but exactly what went on, I have no idea. I gather that some posters have been banned and others have moved away. Again, I do not really know why.

I don't really want to leave this forum but I'm walking on eggshells at the moment, hesitant to keep posting in case I inflame feelings that seem to be just below the surface.

This is what I was referring to - a feeling that the forum is being divided and I don't want to be made to choose sides. Judi.D has said that she is appreciative of "intellectual stimulation, and sometimes the silliness" and so am I but I joined primarily for the intellectual stimulation and it is frustrating to have it snatched away by silliness after a handful of posts just about every time.

Rather than moan about it, it makes more sense to just move on, but I don't want to do that. Hence, the inner conflict.

In the end, it's my problem. No-one else is responsible for my feelings. No-one is guilty of misconduct.
 
Warrigal, Jill and Di; I feel the same to a limited extent, as if I too am walking on eggshells, and being a relative newbie; naturally assume it is me!

However; having found Speakers Corner, I am beginning to relax a little more, and begin to return to my old cynical, pessimistic miserable and sarcastic self.

I sincerely hope though; that I have not offended any person...I did not mean to....defending my position is different; whether seious or silly.

So , pull me up if I am out of line, and I will try not to relax too much..
 
Are you all kidding me, this is exactly what I am talking about. I started this thread to say thank you and I mean that. Now a lot of people are apologizing and feel they are walking on eggshells. What I enjoyed about this forum when I found it was the balance. Serious discussions were done in depth with a variety of interesting opinions, but there was also humor. I agree that lately some interesting threads have been hijacked with humor and sometimes silliness. But we are all to blame that we did not draw it back to what we wanted to talk about, me included.

IMHO what I saw happen was someone expressing their opinion and frustration and they were basically misunderstood, and the whole thing deteriorated into personal attacks. I think at the point that happens the point that the person was trying to make is lost. I chose not to get involved. I basically take what I like and leave the rest.

Those of you who are frustrated by what has happened can choose to leave and go somewhere else or you can stay and help restore the balance. It is up to you.
 
Judi D.: Bless your heart for saying the magic words 'Thank you'. I'm sure SeaBreeze and Matrix appreciate it. They've worked very hard to get this forum up and running, and to keep it running, and to make it what it is.

I missed the kerfuffle. Alas, these things happen on forums. Much like road rage! When a person gets behind the wheel of a car, they change... So it is with internet forums. People, spurred on by the cloak of anonymity, can say things in the heat of the moment and act in ways that they wouldn't normally do.

Then of course, as there is no face to face contact, tone can be misconstrued. Happens to us all.

Internet forums can be a minefield! So I don't think it is a bad idea to 'walk on eggshells' as the saying goes and think about what you're saying and how it is likely to appear to others....

But other than that, there is freedom of expression and the chance to help others, learn and grow, and make friends.
It's a great thing and something we should all be thankful for.
 
Warrigal said:
Gael, Jillaroo can speak for herself, but as far as I am concerned, it has nothing to do with any individual, and certainly not anything you have done or said. You have nothing whatever to apologise for.

Now I will have to apologise to Judi.D because to answer your question I will have to take this thread further off course. With your indulgence ....

Once in a Blue Moon I have a lapse in my manners and attack a poster, rather than what they have written. In other words, I get a bit too personal and afterwards I regret my actions and apologise. However, once the damage is done, it is hard to undo it.

For this reason, in the past on other forums, I have sent myself to the Coventry and refrained from posting anything for a fortnight and only return to posting when I have calmed down enough to avoid further provocation.

Why do I lose patience with people? Different reasons, but the latest one was caused by my frustration in finding it hard to have a serious discussion, even when the OP had raised a serious issue.

I gather that while I was away on a holiday this issue became rather heated but exactly what went on, I have no idea. I gather that some posters have been banned and others have moved away. Again, I do not really know why.

I don't really want to leave this forum but I'm walking on eggshells at the moment, hesitant to keep posting in case I inflame feelings that seem to be just below the surface.

This is what I was referring to - a feeling that the forum is being divided and I don't want to be made to choose sides. Judi.D has said that she is appreciative of "intellectual stimulation, and sometimes the silliness" and so am I but I joined primarily for the intellectual stimulation and it is frustrating to have it snatched away by silliness after a handful of posts just about every time.

Rather than moan about it, it makes more sense to just move on, but I don't want to do that. Hence, the inner conflict.

In the end, it's my problem. No-one else is responsible for my feelings. No-one is guilty of misconduct.
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Well, it's a darn shame that you feel that way. This whole thing is supposed to be enjoyable and a way to interact with others for beneficial communication.

I had a few near run ins but managed to sidestep. I find it easier to do in print then in person because you can read what you said and catch yourself as well as edit too. Harder to do that when you've spoken words that you can't take back.

My suggestion might be for you to reread and edit when necessary. That reply button can wait.

I also tend to ignore what I don't agree with or with remarks I don't like. That helps as I avoid a head on. And I could care less about whether or not what I post pleases everyone. That's impossible anyway so I don't even try. They can just side step it if it's a topic that is of no interest to them.

This site is large and diverse enough to do that easily enough.

I hope you can arrive at a satisfactory way of posting here. I like you and appreciate your intelligent and honest input.
 
Warrigal said:
The balance is tipping towards staying. Thanks for the encouragement.
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