The divorce rate for those over fifty has doubled since 1990!

Linda, you really have to wonder what possesses some people to marry the people they do. I guess misery can be habit-forming.
 

Cookie said:
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"If you love someone, set them free.
If they don't come back, it was never meant to be.
If, however, after being set free they just lie there on the couch watching football on TV and drinking beer, it's too late.....you've probably already married them."

I've always liked the quote: "I married you for better or worse....but not for retirement!" I saw what my grandmother's life turned into when my grandfather retired and needed someone to "supervise". All of a sudden, she apparently no longer knew how to sweep in the right direction, or stack dishes in the cabinet efficiently, or, heaven forbid, do the laundry correctly. He spent 16 hours a day "supervising" her and made her life a living hell. Divorce, of course, was not an option. He died suddenly in his sleep one night and we're all firmly convinced she smothered him. No jury of her peers (women with retired husbands) would have ever convicted her of anything.....in fact, they would have probably given her a ticker-tape parade.
 

The old couple toddle into a lawyer's office and say, "Sonny, we want you to get us one of them deevorces. Kin you do that for us? And as soon as possible, too!"

"Why, certainly," replies the lawyer, "I do divorce work, but don't you want to talk about this first? Is this something sudden? How long have you been considering divorcing?"

"Waal, we've been wanting one nigh onto 75 years now," says the old husband.

The lawyer questions, "Why have you just now taken action on it?"

"Just waitin' for the kids to die."
 
QuickSilver said:
If a woman is being abused and denigrated in a marriage.. YES... I support her leaving.. and good for her.. Women shouldn't stay in an unhappy marriage just because. Why be miserable for the last part of your life with some mean old man?
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During the past month, my wife's younger sister revealed to us she is seeking divorce from her husband. They were married a year or two after we were, so, about 35 years married. Betsy is 58 now. She reported her husband has taken up with a 28 year old woman having a bald and tattooed head........go figure. imp
 
jujube said:
The old couple toddle into a lawyer's office and say, "Sonny, we want you to get us one of them deevorces. Kin you do that for us? And as soon as possible, too!"

"Why, certainly," replies the lawyer, "I do divorce work, but don't you want to talk about this first? Is this something sudden? How long have you been considering divorcing?"

"Waal, we've been wanting one nigh onto 75 years now," says the old husband.

The lawyer questions, "Why have you just now taken action on it?"

"Just waitin' for the kids to die."
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Reading what jujube said about a retired man "supervising" his wife, made me think of when my husband first retired. He was used to running large crews of carpenters. Sometimes we go to the laundry mat because we don't want to run our well dry in the drought. He would have to carry in all the cloths because he was the man and that was fine with me but then he'd run ahead and put money in all these washers and then I was suppose to put in the cloths sort of like an assembly line. He'd wind up putting money in maybe 4 washers when I only had 3 loads to wash. Then there was a deal about how much detergent to put in and when to put it in etc. Well, I didn't put up with that long and I finally told him that I was the queen of the laundry mat and if he didn't like it he had to sit in the pick up while I washed. After 3 or 4 "interesting" trips to the laundry I am now queen of the laundry mat and he is in charge of getting change out of the change machine and of course, carrying the cloths in and helping me fold when they come out of the dryer. He used to think the dryers had to be on high to get the most for the $ and I knew that could ruin some of the delicate things. So we've worked it all out now and everything is fine. But I just won't let someone think I am on their "crew" and they are going to tell me how to wash cloths. We went through this on a lot of things around the house. Thank God he has a big shop to go out and mess around in and I don't go out there and tell him how to sharpen tools or whatever it is men do in their shops. We also had a big go round about mopping the floor but I think I'll start a thread about that as I would like to know what others think about Swiffers.
 
I've always liked the quote: "I married you for better or worse....but not for retirement!" I saw what my grandmother's life turned into when my grandfather retired and needed someone to "supervise". All of a sudden, she apparently no longer knew how to sweep in the right direction, or stack dishes in the cabinet efficiently, or, heaven forbid, do the laundry correctly. He spent 16 hours a day "supervising" her and made her life a living hell. Divorce, of course, was not an option. He died suddenly in his sleep one night and we're all firmly convinced she smothered him. No jury of her peers (women with retired husbands) would have ever convicted her of anything.....in fact, they would have probably given her a ticker-tape parade.
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Some women can be just as bad the grandfather and if he smothered her the women would give him life in jail, which could be an in improvement.
 
The Inspector said:
Some women can be just as bad the grandfather and if he smothered her the women would give him life in jail, which could be an in improvement.
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I think the secret is to recognize that each has their own interests and routines...and to keep the "interference" to a minimum. I worked, but the wife was a homemaker, and she was used to days by herself. When I retired, and we moved to the country, I had, and have, gobs of outdoor work to keep me occupied, and stay out of her way. She loves to sew, so she converted a spare bedroom to her "hobby" room, and I stay out of there. I have a small room, to the side of the master bedroom for my computer room, and on lousy weather days, she is at one end of the house, and I'm at the other.

I get up early, and she lounges in bed a bit longer...so I make my own breakfast, and while she is having her morning cereal, I check my e-mail, etc., then I do the breakfast dishes. If she is wrapped up in some big sewing project, about once a week, I get out the recipe book, and make supper. That gives me some "kitchen" experience, should she pass before I do...so I don't feel helpless trying to feed myself. I create a pile of dirty "work " clothes with my outdoor work, so once a week, I do all that laundry...again, so I know how to do those chores.

It's all about Sharing the household duties, and Not getting in each others way...and so far, it's allowing for a acceptable co-existence. If I cross the line, she closes her sewing room door, and that is my signal to "back off". If she gets under my skin, I go out to my workshop and pound on something out there...and by Suppertime, things have cooled down.
 
People have to be able to "give" a bit during any marriage. The wife has a borderline blood pressure issue, so I don't want to get her too upset and have to run to the doctor. As for me, I have reached the age where I just let the baloney go in one ear, and out the other. We've got 50 years under our belt....looking forward to 75.
 
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