The Truth About Life

Me too. I thought at 65 I would be old and decrepit, but I'm more fit than I was at 45 because I now have the time to take care of myself and focus on my health. My other assumption was that you always had to look your best out in public. (That was my mother's philosophy.) Now I realize no on else cares. They are all focused on themselves.
 
Even with Covid, I think at times, I'm healthier at 73, than I was at 25. I was more sicklier at times, catching almost every cold and flu that was making the rounds. I wasn't taking any vitamins back then. Now I have been taking vitamins (one a day), for well over 40 years now. With the exception of arthritis, and an occasional muscle strain, I think that I feel much healthier at times. Never being a smoker or an alcoholic, has helped my cause also.
 
After listening to the video in the post of the OP, by far most of my 180 degree experiences have been with people. They, all of us, aren't what we think they are. Regardless of how well we think we know them.

The same might apply to the world around us. We start with perceptions and perhaps assumptions that might have no basis in facts. We might even have the wrong perceptions of ourselves? There are biases, limited perspectives, and incomplete information everywhere, yet we think we know what's going on around us, when in reality we might know very little.

Every day is a learning day.
 
Perhaps we are living in a world of illusions from the beginning of humanity whenever that was - is there a God or not - did the big flood happen or not - did we originate from apes or not ?? etc etc etc - does heaven exist with angels abounding or not - are we the only anoids ever existing or not??
 
I enjoyed watching the video and learning about the "180 degrees" rule. Some "cliches" that come to mind are
"Time heals all wounds." Nope. It heals some but not all wounds.
"Distance makes the heart grow fonder." Yes and no. Sometimes it makes the heart harden.

I have a lot more. Life is full of experiences that we learn from.
 
seadoug said:
Me too. I thought at 65 I would be old and decrepit, but I'm more fit than I was at 45 because I now have the time to take care of myself and focus on my health. My other assumption was that you always had to look your best out in public. (That was my mother's philosophy.) Now I realize no on else cares. They are all focused on themselves.
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I guy said once, "Don't worry what people are saying about you, because they are probably not."
 
AND THEN IT IS WINTER
You know. . . time has a way of moving quickly and catching you unaware of the passing years. It seems like just yesterday that I was young, just married and embarking on my new life with my soul mate. Yet in a way, it seems like eons ago, and I wonder where all the years went.
I know that I lived them all. I have glimpses of how it was back then and of all my hopes and dreams. But, here it is... the winter of my life and it catches me by surprise...How did I get here so fast? Where did the years go and where did my youth go? :unsure:

I remember well seeing older people through the years and thinking that those older people were years away from me and that winter was so far off that I could not fathom it or imagine fully what it would be like. But, here it is...my friends are retired and getting grey...they move slower and I see an older person in the mirror now. Some are in better and some worse shape than me...but, I see the great change....Not like the ones that I remember who were young and vibrant...but, like me, their age is beginning to show and we are now those older folks that we used to see and never thought we'd be.

Each day now, I find that just getting a shower is a real target for the day! And taking a nap is not a treat anymore... it's mandatory! Cause if I don't on my own free will... I just fall asleep where I sit! And so...now I enter into this new season of my life unprepared for all the aches and pains and the loss of strength and ability to go and do things that I wish I had done but never did! But, at least I know, that though the winter has come, and I'm not sure how long it will last...this I know, that when it's over on this earth...it's NOT over. A new adventure will begin!

Yes, I have regrets. There are things I wish I hadn't done...things I should have done, but indeed, there are many things I'm happy to have done. It's all part of a lifetime.So, if you're not in your winter yet...let me remind you, that it will be here faster than you think. So, whatever you would like to accomplish in your life please do it quickly! Don't put things off too long!

Life goes by quickly. So, do what you can today, as you can never be sure whether this is your winter or not! You have no promise that you will see all the seasons of your life...so, live for today and say all the things that you want your loved ones to remember...and hope
that they appreciate and love you for all the things that you have done for them in all the years past!

REMEMBER:....
"It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver.
 
squatting dog said:
AND THEN IT IS WINTER
You know. . . time has a way of moving quickly and catching you unaware of the passing years. It seems like just yesterday that I was young, just married and embarking on my new life with my soul mate. Yet in a way, it seems like eons ago, and I wonder where all the years went.
I know that I lived them all. I have glimpses of how it was back then and of all my hopes and dreams. But, here it is... the winter of my life and it catches me by surprise...How did I get here so fast? Where did the years go and where did my youth go? :unsure:

I remember well seeing older people through the years and thinking that those older people were years away from me and that winter was so far off that I could not fathom it or imagine fully what it would be like. But, here it is...my friends are retired and getting grey...they move slower and I see an older person in the mirror now. Some are in better and some worse shape than me...but, I see the great change....Not like the ones that I remember who were young and vibrant...but, like me, their age is beginning to show and we are now those older folks that we used to see and never thought we'd be.

Each day now, I find that just getting a shower is a real target for the day! And taking a nap is not a treat anymore... it's mandatory! Cause if I don't on my own free will... I just fall asleep where I sit! And so...now I enter into this new season of my life unprepared for all the aches and pains and the loss of strength and ability to go and do things that I wish I had done but never did! But, at least I know, that though the winter has come, and I'm not sure how long it will last...this I know, that when it's over on this earth...it's NOT over. A new adventure will begin!

Yes, I have regrets. There are things I wish I hadn't done...things I should have done, but indeed, there are many things I'm happy to have done. It's all part of a lifetime.So, if you're not in your winter yet...let me remind you, that it will be here faster than you think. So, whatever you would like to accomplish in your life please do it quickly! Don't put things off too long!

Life goes by quickly. So, do what you can today, as you can never be sure whether this is your winter or not! You have no promise that you will see all the seasons of your life...so, live for today and say all the things that you want your loved ones to remember...and hope
that they appreciate and love you for all the things that you have done for them in all the years past!

REMEMBER:....
"It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver.
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Thank so much for sharing. So true…. Being able to share on this forum is a gift.
 
palides2021 said:
I enjoyed watching the video and learning about the "180 degrees" rule. Some "cliches" that come to mind are
"Time heals all wounds." Nope. It heals some but not all wounds.
"Distance makes the heart grow fonder." Yes and no. Sometimes it makes the heart harden.

I have a lot more. Life is full of experiences that we learn from.
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I totally agree with the “cliches” you shared. Thanks!
 
Don't sweat it because it's mostly fake and designed to drive you out of your mind. Only you can determine your reality.
 
I totally disagree with Squatting Dog. I have a French Bulldog, by the way. At 88 I'm doing just fine. Remember, how we "feel" is our own fault. One could be 99, paralyzed and blind and STILL BE HAPPY. We could even be in a coma and lust live with our own minds in one way or another. When all is lost, we DIE and Christ receives us Home.

For those with very bad illnesses and no cures, there is always Doctor Assisted Suicide in 10 American states and in Switzerland. for the vast majority that is NOT necessary.

I fully expect to be in bad shape with pain and disabling illnesses before I die. I intend to just "tough" it out. I play chess at Chess.com and engage in severe wars over centuries playing the Steam.com game of Civilization VI. Thus, I worry more about losing games than my own health. Feeling bad about losing in those games totally distract my mind from my physical pain.

Ten years ago two doctors lost their temper with my calmness and beat my feet. I never reported it to the police since Christ teaches us to accept all problems and remain calm. He hung on a Cross in terrible pain before he died and was tortured for a long time by Romans and Jews.

I have lots of pain but have learned to IGNORE it. So what? If our mind can block pain, there there is no problem. I do use Tylenol and Gabapentin to reduce pain levels.

My wife is my care giver and I am her care giver.

This song was exactly made for me:

https://music.youtube.com/playlist?list=OLAK5uy_lqSqX618Gka6xb5jjRQMAfwu2wuiiVHws&feature=share
 
squatting dog said:
AND THEN IT IS WINTER
You know. . . time has a way of moving quickly and catching you unaware of the passing years. It seems like just yesterday that I was young, just married and embarking on my new life with my soul mate. Yet in a way, it seems like eons ago, and I wonder where all the years went.
I know that I lived them all. I have glimpses of how it was back then and of all my hopes and dreams. But, here it is... the winter of my life and it catches me by surprise...How did I get here so fast? Where did the years go and where did my youth go? :unsure:

I remember well seeing older people through the years and thinking that those older people were years away from me and that winter was so far off that I could not fathom it or imagine fully what it would be like. But, here it is...my friends are retired and getting grey...they move slower and I see an older person in the mirror now. Some are in better and some worse shape than me...but, I see the great change....Not like the ones that I remember who were young and vibrant...but, like me, their age is beginning to show and we are now those older folks that we used to see and never thought we'd be.

Each day now, I find that just getting a shower is a real target for the day! And taking a nap is not a treat anymore... it's mandatory! Cause if I don't on my own free will... I just fall asleep where I sit! And so...now I enter into this new season of my life unprepared for all the aches and pains and the loss of strength and ability to go and do things that I wish I had done but never did! But, at least I know, that though the winter has come, and I'm not sure how long it will last...this I know, that when it's over on this earth...it's NOT over. A new adventure will begin!

Yes, I have regrets. There are things I wish I hadn't done...things I should have done, but indeed, there are many things I'm happy to have done. It's all part of a lifetime.So, if you're not in your winter yet...let me remind you, that it will be here faster than you think. So, whatever you would like to accomplish in your life please do it quickly! Don't put things off too long!

Life goes by quickly. So, do what you can today, as you can never be sure whether this is your winter or not! You have no promise that you will see all the seasons of your life...so, live for today and say all the things that you want your loved ones to remember...and hope
that they appreciate and love you for all the things that you have done for them in all the years past!

REMEMBER:....
"It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver.
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Deeply thought out and very well written.
When we were young we had tomorrow and now tomorrow has come. Now we need to watch every step we take because the next could change our lives. Naps were never an option and now they are a necessity. Our friends pass around us and we wonder why we are still breathing.
God knows, I don't. I'm grateful and yet sad because the life I loved is changing in so many ways and I have no control.
I regret much but I believe I have done good. Just not enough that would suite me now.

The ironic thing is that many would advise us to find peace and yet they are not where we are. What 20 - 30 year old psych majors.

It's like having a baby. Mom tells you what to expect but it is nothing like your own personal experience.
For men, going to war. Don't tell me what it's like. I know, been there.

Getting old..........no one can tell you what it is like.
good post
rbtvgo
 
Although what the person in the video related is true for most people, such has not been so in my own life that on a scale of how differently one thinks about various things in our lives, would be somewhere in the fractions of the last percentile of that Bell Curve. As an adult, I didn't chase life and its expected activities like most others but rather set out along my own paths. That was from my earliest, often admittedly confused, adult years as a Counterculture Era person living within a counterculture Mecca with unusual medical issues that prevented my living in usual ways. And could prove that convincingly to others though won't herein publicly at least at this late stage of my life.

That noted, there are indeed many things, especially about science and nature, I didn't understand as a young adult without adequate knowledge or experience, but because I've been very much not a black and white thinker, but rather one that places ideas on relative scales with considerable unknowns, expected many things would become clearer, more in focus, as I became older, more educated and experienced.

What we come to understand can be a great structure we don't necessarily need to tear down beyond minor elements but instead are always building up into something greater as we become what we experience and do through neural plasticity.
 
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