hollydolly
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You don't have to watch all of this... the first 3 minutes will tell you all you want to know about me and many other women who choose to live alone...
The truth about women who Live Alone without a man
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OldFeller
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Anybody in their right mind would rather have somebody to be close with in their lives.
That doesn't mean they can't be content accepting the life that they have. We do what we have to do in life. And we accept what we find sustainable.
This video makes too many stereotypical generalities to be taken seriously.
That doesn't mean they can't be content accepting the life that they have. We do what we have to do in life. And we accept what we find sustainable.
This video makes too many stereotypical generalities to be taken seriously.
CallMeKate
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Yeah, everyone's an expert... and no one's an expert. I don't know about the claims in this one because I don't watch social media videos unless it's someone I know or covering my interests.
I agree. I think most (emphasis on most, not all) people who are alone, long for someone they can share life's ups and downs with. It's nice to have a sounding board. I'm not talking about marriage or someone to live with, but someone you can connect with on an emotional and intellectual level. This forum is great for that, but it lacks the personal touch.
hollydolly
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you don't have to have a husband for that or a live in lover...or even a lover... you can have a best friend.... absolutely no need for many women to want to live with any other person..
hollydolly
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good Lord... men just cannot accept that many women don't want them living with them... and you will make any excuse for this...tut! tut!
I agree, that's why I said that I wasn't talking about marriage or living together. A lover isn't necessary either, but in my case (everyone is different) it's nice to have the company of someone besides females also. I like to hear what the opposite sex thinks too and compare notes.
CallMeKate
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^^^ This is not true for me. I think strong friendships can be formed at places like online forums and... well frankly I'd trust close friends here more than I would most "in person." I think SF does offer all the "personal touch" that many need.
SF doe and touch on many subjects that we as seniors are interested in and we can share thoughts with. By personal touch, I mean it's nice to have someone you personally know where you can pick up the phone, or text and discuss what's on your mind. The forum doesn't do that, but it does help knowing there are other seniors out there that you can communicate with via the internet.
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JustDave
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I've pondered this in various forums. There are connections that develop, even in an electronic atmosphere. OK, it's not the same as in face to face where other things also enter in. But it's very similar and not to be discarded as unimportant.
CallMeKate
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Exactly... close friendships form, emails and phone numbers can be exchanged, texts can be sent, gifts mailed. I have local friends I went to school with that were always "close" but I don't even do those things with them.
JustDave
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I assumed she was just joining in the fun, but you never really know, which is part of the fun. So I didn't react just in case my assumption was wrong. One has to be cagey that way.Uh oh! You've been tut-tutted, @JustDave ... may want to considering hiding for a while. View attachment 502754
Brookswood
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I think the premise of this video is a faulty assumption about living alone versus being alone.
Most women whom I know who live alone are not alone.
They have plenty of friends, mostly female, but some male. And they have plenty of relationships, just not one tied down to one man. So what? Not my circus, not my monkey.
Most women whom I know who live alone are not alone.
They have plenty of friends, mostly female, but some male. And they have plenty of relationships, just not one tied down to one man. So what? Not my circus, not my monkey.
Brookswood
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The supposed crisis is that we men die earlier. So if senior women all wanted another man to live with, there just arenāt enough. But, I really doubt that is a crisis.
At the senior center, I see the lounge area full of people. Itās a rare day (like Feb 29th) when I see more men in the lounge area than women. Usually, there are groups of 3-6 women sitting and chatting with each other. Some groups might have one or two men also. Most donāt. Everybody is talking and having a nice time with friends. None are truly alone.
hollydolly
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there will always be someone trying to stir the pot Dave.... it never fails....
Coconut
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You have stirred up a hornet's nest @hollydolly.
I know some people think I am laughing at them, when honestly...I am not...I just have a different sense of humor than most people.
I know some people think I am laughing at them, when honestly...I am not...I just have a different sense of humor than most people.
Nathan
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I stopped at 0.0.25 seconds. A gender specific generality that you can simply substitute a "she" for a "he", and "her" for a "him" in the narrative.
For years I lived quite happily by myself, having no woman in my life, not dating- notta problem.
hollydolly
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exactly, Nathan....
hollydolly
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yep so many people can't live without another person in their lives 24/7 and for some reason get very upset at the fact that some of us are perfectly fine without...You have stirred up a hornet's nest @hollydolly.
I know some people think I am laughing at them, when honestly...I am not...I just have a different sense of humor than most people.
StarSong
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I stopped at a minute and a half, also thinking this applies to men as well as women.
I half-wonder why this guy has stayed stuck in 1950s attitudes, when a woman (or man) living alone was perceived as being a free radical that had better pair up to achieve stability.
No longer do (most) people have these thoughts or judgments about those who happen to live alone. At least not among the people I know.
David777
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Just watched first few minutes. Generally agree what he relates for SOME women. There is an enormous range and type of situations with people of both sexes. It is true that SOME men and SOME traditional, conservative, mainstream segments of our USA culture may have the standard view he presents, however it would be overgeneralizing to state such more broadly or even being the dominant situation. Both women and men as they age beyond their prime of life, become less physically attractive to opposite genders though that varies greatly between individuals and at different ages. The blogger's world is likely from some conservative Christian denomination.
Some especially attractive men and women peak in their 20s but then by 40 rapidly decline while others age more gradually throughout their adult lives. I'm one of the latter. Most adults of any age have reasonable understanding of their relative attractiveness versus the vast range of others and to whom. And such attractiveness is usually versus those of their own ethnic or cultural world. Thus, a highly physically attractive ethnic person in one ethnic world region may find they are not so, in many other parts of the Western world. People tend to be more attracted to others that look like those they have lived a life around and not different others from other cultures.
So those that have lost much of their prime of life attractiveness may indeed retire from the many forms of gender games people involve themselves with. And fair numbers, especially those beyond struggling, at Maslov's Level 5 Pyramid of Needs, will be successful finding meaningful ways to live without those gender games though women are likely to do so more easily than many men as many men even beyond their attractive years tend to be locked into behaviors that revolve around seks.
There are large numbers of adults that have always been plain or unattractive and many of those likewise find other ways to enjoy meaningful lives. Some even in their prime, may totally abandon any opposite gender activities, and again that is something generally more difficult for men than women and a reason men in that situation are more likely to resort to perversions like prostitution and porn while others may absorb themselves in career and hobbies living relatively ascetically.
Some especially attractive men and women peak in their 20s but then by 40 rapidly decline while others age more gradually throughout their adult lives. I'm one of the latter. Most adults of any age have reasonable understanding of their relative attractiveness versus the vast range of others and to whom. And such attractiveness is usually versus those of their own ethnic or cultural world. Thus, a highly physically attractive ethnic person in one ethnic world region may find they are not so, in many other parts of the Western world. People tend to be more attracted to others that look like those they have lived a life around and not different others from other cultures.
So those that have lost much of their prime of life attractiveness may indeed retire from the many forms of gender games people involve themselves with. And fair numbers, especially those beyond struggling, at Maslov's Level 5 Pyramid of Needs, will be successful finding meaningful ways to live without those gender games though women are likely to do so more easily than many men as many men even beyond their attractive years tend to be locked into behaviors that revolve around seks.
There are large numbers of adults that have always been plain or unattractive and many of those likewise find other ways to enjoy meaningful lives. Some even in their prime, may totally abandon any opposite gender activities, and again that is something generally more difficult for men than women and a reason men in that situation are more likely to resort to perversions like prostitution and porn while others may absorb themselves in career and hobbies living relatively ascetically.
JustDave
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This guy could be a famous psychologist. He has a close trimmed 5 o'clock shadow, is neatly dressed, he wears classes, but doesn't look particularly nerdy. He's the epitome of the guy that looks like he knows what he's talking about. He is brimming with self confidence. I can even see him as "doable" to many women. Visually, he plays well in a video. He could use a little work on his reasoning. But Hell, we can't all be perfect.