'tis a question for all you Mommas, when can you stop worrying about your children?

Ruby Rose said:
I am not sure where to put this so will put it here. A while back I penned 'Matren Emeritus...a Mother retired...from worrying about her children'... seeing that they are all grown up and doing their thing...one a Policewoman, another Military and a third a Philosopher.
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Would love to attend one of your family dinners!!! The conversations must be fun and interesting!!!! 💕💕
 

Ruby Rose said:
I admire your words and I deem you 'Matren Emeritus...a Mother retired'...from worrying about her children. As for me, I am really trying and most of the time put up a good front but alas, I know and my children know that I will always worry in my heart.
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Ruby, if one of my kids was a policeman...oh hell YES I would worry!!!! I’d had a wall of novena candles lit and a rosary in each hand!!!!!
 
Gardenlover said:
Playing the devils advocate here, but isn't rather sexist to limit it to mothers? I worry about my children more than my wife does.
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I don't think so.

Traditionally, mothers were the ones who have always stayed at home to take care of the home and children, not the fathers, and while worry isn't limited motherhood, I see the thread topic title as being perfectly appropriate.
 
To be perfectly honest I worry about my husband, children, and grandchildren every minute of everyday. I blame it on my Dad. He was always worried about the family. I remember so clearly when I was 20yrs old and he stopped over my house. He saw me laying on the couch and he asked if I was OK. I said I just had a headache and he said "I can't believe you have a headache and I was singing at work today."
 
Sassycakes said:
To be perfectly honest I worry about my husband, children, and grandchildren every minute of everyday. I blame it on my Dad. He was always worried about the family. I remember so clearly when I was 20yrs old and he stopped over my house. He saw me laying on the couch and he asked if I was OK. I said I just had a headache and he said "I can't believe you have a headache and I was singing at work today."
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Aw! I LOVE that💕💕💕💕💕
 
Warrigal said:
So does my husband but if he doesn't have anything to worry about he goes looking for something new to worry about. He is the chief worry wort of the family. I am the placid lake of tranquility.
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I used to be a worry wort...when I was younger. I could take a grain of sand and worry it into Mt Everest in a matter of hours. Husband was my “Don’t Worry, Be Happy” pillar and bring me back to earth person. Now we are both pretty much “Don’t Worry, cuz every little thing is gonna to be all right” type people.
 
It helps to realise that I am not responsible for the spinning of the earth about its axis nor its orbit of the sun. For every bad day, a new day, with new possibilities, will dawn and things always look less dire after a good sleep.

Have I mentioned that I am the optimist in our household? Hubby is the perennial pessimist. We don't need two of either one.
 
Aunt Marg said:
I don't think so.
Traditionally, mothers were the ones who have always stayed at home to take care of the home and children, not the fathers, and while worry isn't limited motherhood, I see the thread topic title as being perfectly appropriate.
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You answered whether it was sexist to pose a question as to whether mothers ever stop worrying, (rather than both parents say).

I'll agree with you that the thread topic is appropriate, and could leave my comments right there as a father, but am just tempted to mention the real fears for their children some fathers feel following divorce or separation, when the mother introduces her new love into the lives of our children.
 
grahamg said:
You answered whether it was sexist to pose a question as to whether mothers ever stop worrying, (rather than both parents say).

I'll agree with you that the thread topic is appropriate, and could leave my comments right there as a father, but am just tempted to mention the real fears for their children some fathers feel following divorce or separation, when the mother introduces her new love into the lives of our children.
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I can't imagine the anxiety and upset a father would feel (and suffer).
 
Aunt Marg said:
I can't imagine the anxiety and upset a father would feel (and suffer).
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It varies I'd say, and fairly obviously some situations are worse than others, for example my ex., who accurately described herself as "a warrior", was a dominant enough person that my fears about her new man were tempered by knowing she'd stop our child being physically abused or molested by her new love.
Other excluded fathers are less fortunate, especially when their children are introduced to multiple or repeated introductions of new partners.
 
grahamg said:
It varies I'd say, and fairly obviously some situations are worse than others, for example my ex., who accurately described herself as "a warrior", was a dominant enough person that my fears about her new man were tempered by knowing she'd stop our child being physically abused or molested by her new love.
Other excluded fathers are less fortunate, especially when their children are introduced to multiple or repeated introductions of new partners.
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Definitely not a healthy and happy position to be in.
 
Aunt Marg said:
Definitely not a healthy and happy position to be in.
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Its one case where the best interests of the child truly runs up against whatever makes the mother happy at any particular time, and again some haphazard assessment as to whether keeping mom happy equals best interests of the child regardless!
I'm aware I'm highjacking the thread here, so apologies, and I'll leave it be now. :)
 
grahamg said:
You answered whether it was sexist to pose a question as to whether mothers ever stop worrying, (rather than both parents say).

I'll agree with you that the thread topic is appropriate, and could leave my comments right there as a father, but am just tempted to mention the real fears for their children some fathers feel following divorce or separation, when the mother introduces her new love into the lives of our children.
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Understandable.
 
Warrigal said:
So does my husband but if he doesn't have anything to worry about he goes looking for something new to worry about. He is the chief worry wort of the family. I am the placid lake of tranquility.
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Your husband sounds a lot like me in this regard.
 
Was just giving more thought to this thread, and I can't say I remember anyone (parents) from back in my childhood days that never worried about their children, and while I by no means am suggesting that today's generation of parents aren't as caring, or of the same worrying type, I do tend to think because of the more strict atmosphere that was present when I was growing up, I do believe a higher sense of responsibility was at play, more so than today, where parents typically don't know their own children's friends parents, and vice-versa, and half the time don't even know what their children are up to or where they are.

For those who disagree with me, feel free to burn me at the stake.

Just an observation from an old-fashioned mom.
 
Aunt Marg said:
Was just giving more thought to this thread, and I can't say I remember anyone (parents) from back in my childhood days that never worried about their children, and while I by no means am suggesting that today's generation of parents aren't as caring, or of the same worrying type, I do tend to think because of the more strict atmosphere that was present when I was growing up, I do believe a higher sense of responsibility was at play, more so than today, where parents typically don't know their own children's friends parents, and vice-versa, and half the time don't even know what their children are up to or where they are.

For those who disagree with me, feel free to burn me at the stake.

Just an observation from an old-fashioned mom.
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Hmm, got my stake just about ready 😂😍
 
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