To chat about my surgery

I would like some input from you. Julie came over and we went to get my new TV (more on that in another thread)
We were talking about my after care. I am going to have my house cleaner come more often for the immediate weeks following. Twice a month rather than once. Just to make sure I can keep the place clean

Julie's issue is with the fact they are sending me home the next day if surgery goes well. No in patient rehab. Rehab will come here to my house. She feels I need to go to rehab, as She thinks I need more rehab. She also feels that what if I fall down, cant get off toilet or out of bed..etc. Plus being able to maintain house..even with housekeeper.
Thing is..the DOCTOR does not feel a rehab center is needed as patients tend to heal better at home. I WANT TO GO HOME. And if my medical team is OK then wha the heck
Plus, I am giving a friend in the building a key. Plus several will take turns coming up to check on me. Also, I have my medic alert button.
I got upset (not hard for me_) and I feel it is up to me and my care team/

I would like some honest, not sugar coated feed back. If you are not comfortable posting public, send a DM
 

Marie5656 said:
I would like some input from you. Julie came over and we went to get my new TV (more on that in another thread)
We were talking about my after care. I am going to have my house cleaner come more often for the immediate weeks following. Twice a month rather than once. Just to make sure I can keep the place clean

Julie's issue is with the fact they are sending me home the next day if surgery goes well. No in patient rehab. Rehab will come here to my house. She feels I need to go to rehab, as She thinks I need more rehab. She also feels that what if I fall down, cant get off toilet or out of bed..etc. Plus being able to maintain house..even with housekeeper.
Thing is..the DOCTOR does not feel a rehab center is needed as patients tend to heal better at home. I WANT TO GO HOME. And if my medical team is OK then wha the heck
Plus, I am giving a friend in the building a key. Plus several will take turns coming up to check on me. Also, I have my medic alert button.
I got upset (not hard for me_) and I feel it is up to me and my care team/

I would like some honest, not sugar coated feed back. If you are not comfortable posting public, send a DM
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I would trust your intuition. And give yourself plenty of time to heal. Don't rush things...

Take care...
 

Marie5656 said:
I would like some input from you. Julie came over and we went to get my new TV (more on that in another thread)
We were talking about my after care. I am going to have my house cleaner come more often for the immediate weeks following. Twice a month rather than once. Just to make sure I can keep the place clean

Julie's issue is with the fact they are sending me home the next day if surgery goes well. No in patient rehab. Rehab will come here to my house. She feels I need to go to rehab, as She thinks I need more rehab. She also feels that what if I fall down, cant get off toilet or out of bed..etc. Plus being able to maintain house..even with housekeeper.
Thing is..the DOCTOR does not feel a rehab center is needed as patients tend to heal better at home. I WANT TO GO HOME. And if my medical team is OK then wha the heck
Plus, I am giving a friend in the building a key. Plus several will take turns coming up to check on me. Also, I have my medic alert button.
I got upset (not hard for me_) and I feel it is up to me and my care team/

I would like some honest, not sugar coated feed back. If you are not comfortable posting public, send a DM
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Marie, you have been through this type of surgery before and I think your common sense along with the doctor's recommendations is good enough. He doesn't have a crystal ball as to the final recovery outcome, but I think he speaks with experience.

Having the housekeeper in more often is a good idea. Excellent that your friend has a key too and you have someone to check on you. The medic alert button is extra security for you too. I feel that all you're doing is very wise and like you, I would much rather be home for rehab than at a different location.

If I recall, I think this isn't the first time Julie reacted like this. I don't fault her because she loves and cares for you, but you also have to consider her personality and her reactions with these types of things. When you first moved there, didn't she want someone coming in daily to help you, and you didn't want or need that?

It is up to you and your care team, Julie needs to give you some credit and respect that. Don't be too upset with her though, she's a good egg and means well. Just try to explain if needed, and she needs to accept your decision without giving you grief over it.

We all care about you here and often think of you. Seems like you have a lot of friends where you live also who care. Nothing sounds bad or dangerous to me, I'm sure you will be very careful and take it easy. Sending comforting hugs and love your way my friend. 🧡
 
I'm coming up on the two year anniversary of my hip replacement. I too was sent home the morning after surgery. This was at the beginning of the severe Coronavirus lock down and it was clear they wanted me gone. I had two visits from a physical therapist while in the hospital and then they gave me a book of exercises and wished me well. I received no further PT following surgery.

As it turned out, I healed quickly and only used a walker for a couple of weeks. Used a cane for a month and then was able to get around with no assist devices. I took pain pills for the first two weeks and then only as needed for a few more weeks.

My very best wishes for your complete and speedy recovery.
 
Marie5656 said:
I would like some input from you. Julie came over and we went to get my new TV (more on that in another thread)
We were talking about my after care. I am going to have my house cleaner come more often for the immediate weeks following. Twice a month rather than once. Just to make sure I can keep the place clean

Julie's issue is with the fact they are sending me home the next day if surgery goes well. No in patient rehab. Rehab will come here to my house. She feels I need to go to rehab, as She thinks I need more rehab. She also feels that what if I fall down, cant get off toilet or out of bed..etc. Plus being able to maintain house..even with housekeeper.
Thing is..the DOCTOR does not feel a rehab center is needed as patients tend to heal better at home. I WANT TO GO HOME. And if my medical team is OK then wha the heck
Plus, I am giving a friend in the building a key. Plus several will take turns coming up to check on me. Also, I have my medic alert button.
I got upset (not hard for me_) and I feel it is up to me and my care team/

I would like some honest, not sugar coated feed back. If you are not comfortable posting public, send a DM
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I had the same concerns when I drove a friend home after knee replacement surgery. Her doctor came in the room on her release day & I asked him why they were sending her home when she couldn't stand & was barely conscious. He said, "We don't want her to get an infection."
That's pure B.S. Patients most often get infections in hospitals when doctors don't wash their hands from patient to patient.
The real reason is they want to get the bed available for another paying customer as soon as possible.
 
Thanks all. Thing is, this all has me second guessing things here. I weas looking forward to this surgery so I can feel better. Now I am just a raging ball of worry. Does not help that my anxiety med is one that I have to stop pre surgery.
 
I’d trust your doctor, he’s speaking from experience. He does know you live alone? You have a good plan in place, stick with it. If you want to appease Julie, go to rehab for a couple of days.
 
Well, I was going to tell you not to be afraid but you have already went thru one and know what to expect. I went thru a hip replacement last year and I was very scared, The surgery and recovery was like being on a tropical vacation compared to the pain I was in before the surgery. I had been to doctor so many times for pain before they even looked for the problem. I have a very high pain tolerance. It can be a blessing to know what is going to happen and to plan for care you might need. Sounds like you have it covered and I know you will do very well. I was home the next day. Son stayed with me a couple of days. I had stocked the house with food and frozen home cooked meals. He took my big dog home with him for a few weeks. I had a shower chair. I had groceries delivered the first few weeks. It all went a lot smoother than I thought. At the least I learned not to be afraid until I have to be.
 
I too wish you a successful surgery and a speedy recovery.

How does this current rehab procedure compare to the one you experienced 14 years ago? At that time, did you have inpatient, outpatient, or in-home PT? How often and for how long? Have you found out anything more yet about the current schedule for your in-home PT?
 
Tommy said:
I too wish you a successful surgery and a speedy recovery.

How does this current rehab procedure compare to the one you experienced 14 years ago? At that time, did you have inpatient, outpatient, or in-home PT? How often and for how long? Have you found out anything more yet about the current schedule for your in-home PT?
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Then I was in the hospital 2 days and rehab 7 0r 8, I got PT and OT in rehab Just PT at home forget how often.. I do not know much about my PT schedule. I can drive in 2 weeks
 
Marie5656 said:
Then I was in the hospital 2 days and rehab 7 0r 8, I got PT and OT in rehab Just PT at home forget how often.. I do not know much about my PT schedule. I can drive in 2 weeks
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I am surprised that they say you can drive in 2 weeks. I did not drive for about 8 weeks and then only a short distance, less than half a mile. I had to pass a few walking/stepping things after surgery. This was done the afternoon of my surgery. I did not have to go to a rehab center. They released me to go home the next morning. I had PT come to my home for 3 days a week for 2 weeks. I was given instruction on doing therapy at home alone. I did those therapies they gave me twice a day until I was released from the surgeon. I am still shocked that everything was as smooth as it was.
 
My o/h had hip surgery 2 winters ago .. came home the day after the op. Walked with cane, up and down the halls at first, then through the parking garage downstairs. You know the routine already .. so, you
are going to be fine - especially with all your neighbours looking in on you.

o/h was driving in 2 weeks, and was fine.

All the best, Marie :)
 
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Marie5656 said:
Thanks all. Thing is, this all has me second guessing things here. I weas looking forward to this surgery so I can feel better. Now I am just a raging ball of worry. Does not help that my anxiety med is one that I have to stop pre surgery.
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Hang in there Marie. As Jon said, don't overthink it....you got this. You're a strong woman, stay positive, you have a lot of friends behind you wishing for the best. 💙
 
A Prayer for Complete Healing

May the One who was a source of blessing for our ancestors, bring blessings of healing upon Marie, a healing of body and a healing of spirit. May those in whose care they are entrusted, be gifted with wisdom and skill, and those who surround them, be gifted with love and trust, openness and support in their care. And may they be healed along with all those who are in need. Blessed are You, Source of healing. Amen.
 
I got a call earlier today to update some pre surgery info she needed to give. She said that due to Covid restrictions, they are doing a lot of these just informational things over the phone rather than in person

One thing I asked about was going to rehab for a brief time post hospital release. I will say that when I was told that I could be released the next day it made me kind of nervous about going so soon. I want to be more comfortable about my ability to stand and walk comfortably.
She said that I should talk with my case manager at the hospital when he/she comes to plan my discharge. I should tell her I will be a bit more comfortable with a brief rehab stay before coming home. That should not be an issue, the lady said, because of their "Patient First" attitude. We are the best judge of what we feel we needed..within reason.
At first I was very much against going to rehab as I will be getting therapies here at home. There is just so much going on, I am starting to keep a note pad by me to take notes...when on the phone and when I think of things I want to ask.

Do not worry if you do not hear from me for a few days. If I remember, I will log into SF on my phone, so I can send a brief message when I feel better.
 
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