Trying again... I hate to think that I went down without a fight...

I find the morning even worse.

The morning...
The walks...
The movies...
The songs...
The books...
The paintings...
The pebbles...
The tastes...
The smells...
The sunsets...
The sunrises...
The flowers...
The fireworks...
The funny shapes of the clouds in the sky...
The laughter...
The tears...
.....
 

Chocolates and apologies sometimes work. :)

Treat yourself often with little pleasures. Also, find a group of sympathizers and participate. Joining here is a start. In person better if virus restrictions permit.

You have no clue how stubborn the other me is...

I gave up little pleasures... It may sound extreme but the immediate thought after every pleasure is ... "ooh she's going to like this...". Pleasures became punishment...

I'm not very good at being with others in person. For many reasons...
 
Carcy, The most wonderful life is ahead for you!
You are an INCREDIBLE writer! You need only to begin! You must write! There is a wonderful book inside you! Let it come into being!
Meanwhile,
Write down the attributes of the lady you would like to meet.
Ask your surrounding angels and absolute being to bring her to you.
Organize your surroundings and reinvent yourself to ready for her coming to you.
Make yourself, physically, mentally strong, emotionally secure; everything she will want in her man!
Write about your mental transformation.
Publish your poetry. Yes, Anyone who writes as you, has to write poetry!
Await the wonders to begin in your life! This WILL HAPPEN!
 
with all the good will in the world.. Cyprus is a holiday Island ..no need for me to tell you that, perhaps you can meet a lady for friendship whose there alone on holiday, many older women are... are you Cypriot or British ?
Unfortunately ;) Cypriot.

There are ... reasons that make an in-person relationship with someone very difficult (if not impossible) for me.
 
My wife and I both spend a fair amount of our time volunteering. To be honest, I think we get more than we give. We meet and interact with alot of people. Expand your circle, take classes, join a club, get involved. There are lots of people out there, and most would welcome getting to know and befriending other interesting people.

At the risk of sounding rude -- less time online, more time interacting in real life.
 
You have no clue how stubborn the other me is...

I gave up little pleasures... It may sound extreme but the immediate thought after every pleasure is ... "ooh she's going to like this...". Pleasures became punishment...

I'm not very good at being with others in person. For many reasons...
I know the feeling, CAKCy! Life online is a lot easier since you have more control and you can take a few minutes to post what you have to say. In real life, I tend to blurt out inappropriate comments that aren't what I mean to say, and it's all downhill after that.
 
Carcy, The most wonderful life is ahead for you!
You are an INCREDIBLE writer! You need only to begin! You must write! There is a wonderful book inside you! Let it come into being!
Meanwhile,
Write down the attributes of the lady you would like to meet.
Ask your surrounding angels and absolute being to bring her to you.
Organize your surroundings and reinvent yourself to ready for her coming to you.
Make yourself, physically, mentally strong, emotionally secure; everything she will want in her man!
Write about your mental transformation.
Publish your poetry. Yes, Anyone who writes as you, has to write poetry!
Await the wonders to begin in your life! This WILL HAPPEN!

That's a long post for my sake! Wow! Thank you so much!

Your words are a melody from heaven
A kind overestimate, but still.. a melody.
Writing is a passion.
But this writer needs his muse.
Otherwise...
Otherwise he isn't much better than a blank paper
or a paper with nonsense, crumpled with anger.
I'm nothing Gaer,
without a lighthouse in the storm
just a worthless boat bound to crash on the rocks
and break into a million pieces,
everyone of them a sad remnant of what used to be
but not any more...
 
My wife and I both spend a fair amount of our time volunteering. To be honest, I think we get more than we give. We meet and interact with alot of people. Expand your circle, take classes, join a club, get involved. There are lots of people out there, and most would welcome getting to know and befriending other interesting people.

At the risk of sounding rude -- less time online, more time interacting in real life.
Thank you for participating in my "welcome party"!

When I was younger my dream was to join Peace Corps Africa. Never made it....

You don't sound rude. But even if you did I wouldn't mind. Truth has to be said. Even if saying it is rude.

I'm afraid I cannot talk about the details of why I cannot do the things you suggest.
 
Hello CAKCy, from New Zealand. I truly understand how you are feeling. I lost my beloved puss a few years ago, she was my best friend, i won't get another, her memory will be with me for ever. Be your best friend, take good care of yourself, there is a silver lining if we look for it. All the best from Down Under.
 
Thank you for your words of encouragement. Unfortunately my biological age and my physical condition don't much. But in any case I'll do the exploring you suggest. If they are out there looking, as you say, I hope they won't pass me by. (If they are not... can I sue you?? :p)
I would just try to encourage you by saying there are multiple ways of "getting out there". You're doing one of them right now.
 
Hello CAKCy, from New Zealand. I truly understand how you are feeling. I lost my beloved puss a few years ago, she was my best friend, i won't get another, her memory will be with me for ever. Be your best friend, take good care of yourself, there is a silver lining if we look for it. All the best from Down Under.

Hey New Zealand! Thank you for your empathy!
I'm not very good, lately, at being my best friend or taking care of it.
The truth is that I am giving up.

(Please tell me that Jacinda is as good as she appears to be. :) )
 
I know the feeling, CAKCy! Life online is a lot easier since you have more control and you can take a few minutes to post what you have to say. In real life, I tend to blurt out inappropriate comments that aren't what I mean to say, and it's all downhill after that.

That! And.... some other things too...
 
That's so true. .. due to the fact we're all in different parts of the world and the time differences , there's always someone online 24/7....
Welcome aboard.

Speaking from Sydney, Australia, I second that. Look around this forum and you will be able to find something of interest and people with whom you can interact. As someone said earlier, write, write, write. May I suggest that if you wish to share your troubles you should start a new thread rather than side track an existing one. In that way you will find the right people to talk to.

One thing you haven't told us is what interests you and something of your background. This thread is exactly the right place for these details.
 
58 male, from the island of Cyprus in East Mediterranean... Within a period of 3 years I found myself surrounded by emptiness. Details are too boring for most, too painful for me. Physically I feel 110. Emotionally...20. I see no meaning in continuing a life without a person to share it with... even from a distance far, far away. What matters is not the physical contact but the dance of two psyches...

Yes... I'm starving for companionship. Not as a measure of my value. Not as a validation of who I am. I'm old enough to know how good or bad I am. But there's that huge vacuum of someone to share with. I read a good book, I listen to a moving song, I watch a good movie and there's nobody to share it with. To feel the joy of enjoying that good feeling together. Sunrises and sunsets are dull without another by one's side going through the same emotions of awe, as one does. Laughter and tears are hollow when one doesn't have another to share them with. The beauty of a flower is not enough when one doesn't have a love to give it to. Even as a picture...

I know this is not a dating site... Dating sites are worthless by definition... Especially for the old...

Not much of an introduction. I beg for your forgiveness. Depression is censoring my messages....
Hi @CAKCy, stay positive, things will get better. You've received some good advice here, perhaps to get another dog to keep you company and getting out and meeting people. You may be pleasantly surprised to find someone who wants companionship just as much as you do. As you said in your thread title, you need to keep trying. :)

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