What do you do when feeling threatened?

Ruthanne

Ruthanne

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Just wondering what everyone does when they feel threatened in any way. Say someone is trying to intimidate you by the things he/she says constantly. I had a "friend" long ago who often said things I that had me feeling so scared. He also had several guns he waved around. I never said anything because I didn't want him to know that he scared me. He kept it up and I got away from him for about 35 years. Then I happened to come across him from one of his children. She wanted me to talk to him on the phone. I was really scared but thought I would confront my fear. He started with his intimidation very soon after I talked to him. Finally I told him that I wasn't the scared little girl I had been once. He then said I always thought you were strong and never scared. Little did he know that I had nightmares about him for years. He had beaten me badly, too. He wasn't a bf but related to one. He has since passed but I still wonder these things. The intimidation was partly verbal, then physical and psychological.
 

Are you feeling threatened by someone or something now? Or are you still suffering the feelings of fear from this guy even though he's dead?
What would I do if feeling threatened in any way? That's one thing I couldn't stand to feel. What I would do would depend on the situation.
If something like yours, where I might get killed, I'd do something really drastic, because I couldn't live that way.
 
I suppose my flight mechanism would kick in. I would certainly not continue to be around any person or situation that felt threatening to me. :eek:nthego:
 
Been awhile, maybe decades.
But

Whenever threatened
I’m so busy with assessing the situation, if ferget how I look to others
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Folks that are the source of a threat, if verbal, most always say sumpm like ‘you don’t need to get mad about it’

Or
Just throw down

A situational threat, like walking into a wrong bar, the hairs on my neck advise me to exit gracefully

A physical threat?
That’s when the fun begins
 
Olivia said:
Are you feeling threatened by someone or something now? Or are you still suffering the feelings of fear from this guy even though he's dead?
What would I do if feeling threatened in any way? That's one thing I couldn't stand to feel. What I would do would depend on the situation.
If something like yours, where I might get killed, I'd do something really drastic, because I couldn't live that way.
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Yes, I still suffer the fear even though he's gone.
 
C'est Moi said:
I suppose my flight mechanism would kick in. I would certainly not continue to be around any person or situation that felt threatening to me. :eek:nthego:
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I left the situation many, many years ago but stayed too long because he was my bf's brother.
 
Gary O' said:
Been awhile, maybe decades.
But

Whenever threatened
I’m so busy with assessing the situation, if ferget how I look to others
NQhqOta.jpg

Folks that are the source of a threat, if verbal, most always say sumpm like ‘you don’t need to get mad about it’

Or
Just throw down

A situational threat, like walking into a wrong bar, the hairs on my neck advise me to exit gracefully

A physical threat?
That’s when the fun begins
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I guess so!
 
Being a whimp, extremely sensitive and thin skinned normally I just sob and shake uncontrollably when being threatened physically or abused verbally but two things have always helped for me..........

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Hmmmm, that a tough one, I suppose if I felt really threatened, I'd eat lots of garlic and 'har' over the aggressor, and if that didn't work, I'd eat lots of beans and fart a lot.......pwoooh, that will work.....ha ha ha
 
I don't understand why you didn't call the cops ? What's what they are there for. 2nd you could have filed a restraining order. The court would have ordered him to stay at least 100 feet away from you. If he violated that order he would have been arrested and his gun would have been taken away from him.

What would I have done ? Many, many possible options. If I seriously thought my life was in danger, I'd have shot the S.O.B.
 
IKE said:
Being a whimp, extremely sensitive and thin skinned normally I just sob and shake uncontrollably when being threatened physically or abused verbally but two things have always helped for me..........


Come on Ike, I don't believe for one second that you are a coward. You would have taken him OUT.
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Traveler said:
I don't understand why you didn't call the cops ? What's what they are there for. 2nd you could have filed a restraining order. The court would have ordered him to stay at least 100 feet away from you. If he violated that order he would have been arrested and his gun would have been taken away from him.

What would I have done ? Many, many possible options. If I seriously thought my life was in danger, I'd have shot the S.O.B.
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Then it becomes a case of "he said/she said", so the cops can't do anything unless she presses charges.

Oh, she pressed charges? Then he comes after her.

She gets a PFA? Fat lot of good those do - they're only for record-keeping.
 
SifuPhil said:
Then it becomes a case of "he said/she said", so the cops can't do anything unless she presses charges.

Oh, she pressed charges? Then he comes after her.

She gets a PFA? Fat lot of good those do - they're only for record-keeping.
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Exactly. I know of many women killed under such circumstances, often their children with them.
 

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