What do you not like about yourself?

Josiah, I hear you. But having one's sexual aspects functioning perfectly can be problematic as well. Chewing the coffee table can lead to dentures, Cookie,stop laughing, it is not really funny.
 

oakapple said:
One thing about being older..... You don't agonise about how you look all the time.:D I would like to be patient as others have said, I am someone who can't wait even a minute!Also taller, so I could see over fences( have always envied tall people that ability.)
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See over fences? Are you a frustrated 'Peeping Tom' oakapple ;)?

And it's interesting how some threads accumulate posts slowly and others like this one are responded to so many times and so quickly. Is there lots of self-loathing in this group? Come on folks, you're all wonderful and unique just like you are. Love yourselves!
 
I wish I were not so shy and I thoroughly hate that my body has become such a traitor. That in the past year I have become unable to do the things I so enjoyed. I hate having to ask for or accept help with things I could always manage by myself. Of course many of the things were not what most women would enjoy doing LOL
 

I was thinking to myself about what it was I don't really like about myself , and one thing came to mind ,that in the past I was really empathic towards most people when I was working , ( I. Worked with disabled people for a number of years )
However I now find myself excusing myself to get away from people who just talk about their aches and pains or the number of operations they have had ... Have I lost my empathy for people or just getting old and can't be bothered listening ?.
 
Josiah said:
It is really astonishing to me how many threads I've read in which members have forthrightly described themselves as introverts. I haven't really kept track but I'm sure it must constitute a significant majority of the members. In an earlier thread in which we all revealed our disappointments, I listed being too much of an introvert.
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Would have kept quiet, had I realized that!
Being an introvert is quite common, then?
 
Josiah said:
It is really astonishing to me how many threads I've read in which members have forthrightly described themselves as introverts. I haven't really kept track but I'm sure it must constitute a significant majority of the members. In an earlier thread in which we all revealed our disappointments, I listed being too much of an introvert.
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Put me down as another one. I like being an introvert. You learn a lot about the world from the right books, TV programs, and Web sites. What I don't like about myself, is not volunteering enough. When I was younger, I did donate a lot of time to our church, but never picked it up again when we moved to the suburbs. If asked, I'm always willing to help, but at this age, I am too jealous of my private time to get involved on a regular basis.
 
One of the things I hate about myself is that I allow things to hurt me emotionally too much...it takes me ages to get over something hurtful or disloyal someone has said or done to me I play it over and over in my mind to the point of me actually losing sleep over it, it really upsets me..most people can shrug these things off, but not me..
 
Josiah said:
I'm very disappointed that my sexual workings no longer work very well. For so many years that aspect of me was such a consistent source of enjoyment. I really miss it.
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Interestingly I have the opposite, the machinery works fine, but I have no desire to operate it, we need to work out some sort of swap :confused:
I do feel though Josiah, that my position is easier to cope with than yours as I don't miss anything, and my enjoyment has moved to other areas of my life.
 
Late to the thread.... hmmmmm what do i NOT like about myself... that's easy... My temper.. I have a pretty rough one.. I also carry grudges for YEARS... Once crossed, there is little anyone can do to make amends.. So.. that's my honest assessment of what I DON'T like.
 
How long have we got?

I dislike my appearance, my bank balance, my procrastination over everyday things, my ability to burst into tears so easily, my untidiness, my lack of grandchildren, my health......................and as of 30 seconds ago my football team's inability to win two games in a row.
 
AZ Jim said:
"No human face is exactly the same in its lines on each side, no leaf perfect in its lobes, no branch in its symmetry. All admit irregularity as they imply change; and to banish imperfection is to destroy expression, to check exertion, to paralyze vitality. All things are literally better, lovelier, and more beloved for the imperfections which have been divinely appointed, that the law of human life may be Effort, and the law of human judgment, Mercy.”
― John Ruskin
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Have you ever seen when they've photo-shopped a picture, copying the left side and flipping it, so that the face is exactly the same on both sides? Very little personality in the face.
 
Those dainty little Cinderella toes come at a cost. Have you ever read the fairy tales in their original forms? When they called them Grimm's Fairy Tales, they meant *grim* (originally, fairy tales were not meant to be entertaining...they were meant to be "morality tales" for children to scare them into behaving.)

In the original Cinderella tale, the stepmother, in order to make her daughter's feet fit the glass slippers, whittled away at her heel until the shoe fit. The prince was fooled (duh, dude....the slippers were glass, you didn't see all the gore?) but as he carried his wife-to-be off on the back of his horse, she left a trail of blood and a little bird flew down and chirped in the prince's ear to look at her feet. He then turned back and was convinced to try the second daughter's foot. Of course, hers was too big also, so loving ol' Mom chopped off her toes. Again the prince was fooled (and at this point, he's beginning to look less and less like a good catch and more like the village idiot....there was a lot of inbreeding in those royal lines, ya know?) and trotted off once again with another prospective bride on the back of his horse. Same trail of blood, same helpful little birdie chirping a warning. So, it's back to the manor where he FINALLY tries the shoe on Cinderella (hopefully, washing all the blood out first) and as we know, they live happily ever after. We can only assume the step-sisters found a good podiatrist and had their feet fixed.
 
Josiah said:
It is really astonishing to me how many threads I've read in which members have forthrightly described themselves as introverts. I haven't really kept track but I'm sure it must constitute a significant majority of the members. In an earlier thread in which we all revealed our disappointments, I listed being too much of an introvert.
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I consider myself an extroverted introvert. While I appear on the outside as the "class clown", I'm really a shy person. I have to work very hard at it.
 
merlin said:
Interestingly I have the opposite, the machinery works fine, but I have no desire to operate it, we need to work out some sort of swap :confused:
I do feel though Josiah, that my position is easier to cope with than yours as I don't miss anything, and my enjoyment has moved to other areas of my life.
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Merlin, you have my total admiration. I too should be seeking new vistas to enjoy and explore. What do you think of a trip across Siberia on the train to Vladivostok?
 
Josiah said:
Merlin, you have my total admiration. I too should be seeking new vistas to enjoy and explore. What do you think of a trip across Siberia on the train to Vladivostok?
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Thanks for your admiration Josiah, but its just down to my low testosterone level, which was borderline treatable 5 years ago, not that I would go for the treatment with all the usual side effects associated with pharmaceutical drugs.
The only other symptoms I have apart from loss of libido are passivity which is fine, and muscle weakness, which I can live with.

A trip on the Trans-Siberian would certainly take your mind off carnal matters I think, I would love to go but its not cheap at about $650.00 one way


http://www.seat61.com/Trans-Siberian.htm#.VTuiitJViko

[video]http://www.nbcnews.com/video/nightly-news/54327695#54327695[/video]
 
QuickSilver said:
Late to the thread.... hmmmmm what do i NOT like about myself... that's easy... My temper.. I have a pretty rough one.. I also carry grudges for YEARS... Once crossed, there is little anyone can do to make amends.. So.. that's my honest assessment of what I DON'T like.
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Another "Don't like" for myself. When I blow up I am a truly horrible person. Thankfully, its rare, and I get over it almost immediately.
Not being critical here, but holding on to anger is physically unhealthy. I am not a Buddhist, but he had some great thoughts.
Let go of the past. "You will not be punished for your anger, but by your anger". A better one that I heard on "Everybody Loves Raymond; "Hate is like drinking poison, and waiting for the other person to die". Don't know why I'm telling you this. You obviously already know it. That other guy I talk to all day long is trouble enough for me.
 
I wish I would not periodically obsess over old mind tapes. I cannot alter the past, only my perception of it. Rehashing is futile, and a potential black hole of grief and regret. Most of the time I don't live from there, but when I do, it's like ripping my heart out by the roots, and serving it up to myself on toast.
 
i would like to have been more extrovert , i am pretty quiet around strangers.
and i have always hated my legs from a very young age.
 
Shalimar said:
I wish I would not periodically obsess over old mind tapes. I cannot alter the past, only my perception of it. Rehashing is futile, and a potential black hole of grief and regret. Most of the time I don't live from there, but when I do, it's like ripping my heart out by the roots, and serving it up to myself on toast.
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Wow, Shalimar, we might be sisters. (I'm also the one who likes to sleep late :))

I do the same. Totally unproductive and destructive exercise, isn't it?
 
Nancy, hello sister! Totally unproductive is right! The curse of sensitivity. Still, the benefits of an an empathetic nature outweigh the icky bits. Sleeping in rocks. Most of the people on SF seem to be (shudder) morning people.
 

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