What Is A Man? - Esquire's View

SifuPhil

R.I.P. With Us In Spirit Only
Esquire magazine's take on what a man truly is, circa 2009 ...

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A man carries cash. A man looks out for those around him — woman, friend, stranger. A man can cook eggs. A man can always find something good to watch on television. A man makes things — a rock wall, a table, the tuition money. Or he rebuilds — engines, watches, fortunes. He passes along expertise, one man to the next. Know-how survives him. This is immortality. A man can speak to dogs. A man fantasizes that kung fu lives deep inside him somewhere. A man knows how to sneak a look at cleavage and doesn't care if he gets busted once in a while. A man is good at his job. Not his work, not his avocation, not his hobby. Not his career. His job. It doesn't matter what his job is, because if a man doesn't like his job, he gets a new one.

A man can look you up and down and figure some things out. Before you say a word, he makes you. From your suitcase, from your watch, from your posture. A man infers.

A man owns up. That's why Mark McGwire is not a man. A man grasps his mistakes. He lays claim to who he is, and what he was, whether he likes them or not.

Some mistakes, though, he lets pass if no one notices. Like dropping the steak in the dirt.

Read How to Be a Man - Characteristics of the Ideal Man - Esquire
 

Well spotted Warri.

Now Phil, did they mention where this fantasy man is to be found because he's eluded me all my life. (A free one anyway, I was always too slow to catch one still in the wild. )
 

So they give us a photo of a man who makes his living in the world of make believe.
Ironic, that.

Sorry - that was MY doing. I just picked a random Esquire cover. :(

Well spotted Warri.

Now Phil, did they mention where this fantasy man is to be found because he's eluded me all my life. (A free one anyway, I was always too slow to catch one still in the wild. )

Well, the entire premise of Esquire is just a notch down from Playboy in that they're idealizations of the perfect man, just as Cosmo supposedly presents the perfect woman.

Or, as the late, great Bruce Lee once said ...

It is like a finger, pointing to the moon. Don't focus on the finger or you will miss all that heavenly glory.

Magazines like this are like a lure to fish - it's all glittery and shiny and moves real sexy, and you think you want to take a big bite out of it because you KNOW it's the real thing ... but let me tell you, just as an average Joe, I don't walk around in a $2,500 pair of leather pants while wearing my Rolex Oyster Perpetual, with my hair gelled to perfection while being surrounded by a bevy of anorexic little girls.

No, MY reality is that I'm wearing 5-year-old sweats that are expanding from too much pepperoni pizza, I wear an egg timer on a Velcro strap, I HAVE no hair and am surrounded by streetwalkers that look like they're training for the next All You Can Eat Buffet.
 
Sifu, the reality for MOST of us, is that we don't have that movie star/celebrity look, body, or bank account.
But, like you said so well, the shine is just glitter, not gold. Gold is all the way through if it is worth anything, and if you found it in the natural state, it might not even glitter.

Most of those qualities that were in the Esquire article, the worthwhile ones, come from attitude and integrity, not wealth, or even charm.
Being a gentleman, caring about those in need, being able to make things, just BEING there and giving that feeling of security to your lady, all of those things don't depend on looks.
My father was just such a man, and to me, the sun rose and set on my Daddy, yet he was probably as plain a man as anyone could look at. But he could, and did, fix anything. He was trustworthy, reliable, and devoted his life to Mom and I.

The strength of a person, man or woman, is found in their character.
 
Sifu, the reality for MOST of us, is that we don't have that movie star/celebrity look, body, or bank account.
But, like you said so well, the shine is just glitter, not gold. Gold is all the way through if it is worth anything, and if you found it in the natural state, it might not even glitter.

Most of those qualities that were in the Esquire article, the worthwhile ones, come from attitude and integrity, not wealth, or even charm.
Being a gentleman, caring about those in need, being able to make things, just BEING there and giving that feeling of security to your lady, all of those things don't depend on looks.
My father was just such a man, and to me, the sun rose and set on my Daddy, yet he was probably as plain a man as anyone could look at. But he could, and did, fix anything. He was trustworthy, reliable, and devoted his life to Mom and I.

The strength of a person, man or woman, is found in their character.

Yes. I noticed once that the really cool guys I admired were just plain nice. They seem to have no need for cowardly obnoxious macho ego and are confident and comfortable in their skin. So, I coined my own phrase, "A real man's strength lies in his kindness."
 
The strength of a person, man or woman, is found in their character.

Yes. I noticed once that the really cool guys I admired were just plain nice. They seem to have no need for cowardly obnoxious macho ego and are confident and comfortable in their skin. So, I coined my own phrase, "A real man's strength lies in his kindness."

Well said! :iagree: Those characters in magazines like that never did impress me. I can appreciate a good looking, strong, handy, and kind man....but jeans and a tee shirt are fine, doesn't need any Gucci man purses, gelled hair, or Rolex watches to impress me, that would likely deter. :rolleyes: It's not difficult, they are people, and it's what's inside that counts.
 
Reminds me of a song..
What is a man sung by the Four Tops..
does it really portray a man? what is a real man?.
my interpretation of a real man not a glitzy glamour $moneyman who
has all he ever needs.. and wears the top designer labels, has meals in
expensive restaurants and drives a classy car oh and wears a Rolex. thats
all false , to me a real man is .. maybe I am off topic here but oh well ! I`ll give it
a go..
A real man is one who shows respect to his Mother and Father, treats his family and friend,
and strangers on the street with the same respect as well. he loves his children and wife and
stays through the thick and thin. a man who will never lift his hand to a woman`s
face in anger. who will also treat her like a lady with dignity and respect always..
Who shows her how much he truly cares and loves her by telling her and surprising
her with flowers ohh my !I have yet to have that LOL... and so on.honest,
caring, gentle, kind, be a good provider, and many other things.and be at peace with himself.


A man can walk proudly down in the street

A man's not ashamed of what he believes
He knows how to laugh, he knows when to cry
He knows how to live, he's not afraid to die

What is a man? What is a man?
What is a man? What is a man?

A man searches for the key to success
He'd rather be sure than make a wild guess
He knows how to love, he knows how to hate
He knows when to move and he knows just when to wait

What is a man? What is a man?
What is a man? What is a man?

A man can be angry and still hold his tongue
A man don't give up till the battle is won
He knows how to win, he's not ashamed to lose
He knows his destiny, he doesn't take long to choose

What is a man? What is a man?
What is a man? What is a man?

What is a man? Just what is a man?
What is a man?
 
Why is it Charlie Hunnam ?
I have barely even heard of him, and had to look him up to see why he is the Esquire Perfect Man, and even after looking, I am still clueless on what the reason might be ...

Are we talking Girl Eye-candy , maybe ?

If we are, then Pierce Brosnan wins my vote for that. I could watch "The Thomas Crowne Affair" over and over......just sayin' .
 
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Charlie Hunnam just got the lead role in Fifty Shades of Grey (movie) ... so he must be perfect..:p

William Levy was talked about for the role. I prefer him myself ... it's that super sexy smile.

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Okay, I'll reserve the punching and take your word for it. But, wanting to slap that obnoxious grin off his face is sooooooo tempting... (It's a Man thing...)

I'm glad I'm not the only guy that experiences that. There are just some faces that cry out for our tender loving mercies ...

Which is somewhat confusing to me on a certain level: Steven Seagal has always been one of my idols in the martial arts world and I respect the man totally for what he accomplished IN that world, yet he has the kind of face I just want to cave in.

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(with apologies to The Chairman of the Board)

For what is a man, if he's got the hots?
If not for a gal, then he has got gotz
To say the things he truly feels, she'll make him crawl after he kneels
The record shows his opinion blows and he did it her way!
 

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