What is Love?

Ruthanne

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I thought it would be nice to talk about LOVE since spring time is almost here. The kind of love I am talking about is unconditional love which so many of us don't get or give; it just doesn't seem possible. It would be so great to have that!

The Meaning of Love:

What is the meaning love? Love is what we experience in any moment that we are with someone without having or believing any judgments about that person (“good” or “bad”).

What Is The Meaning of Love – The 3 Inherent Qualities of Love

Love is complete acceptance: When we allow someone to be exactly as they are, without any belief that they aren’t good enough, without any belief that they would be “better” if they were different, this is love.Love is completely unconditional: Love has no conditions. When we truly love someone, we can’t stop loving them, regardless of what they do or say. If our love is dependent upon the other person acting and speaking how we want, then this love is completely conditional. We often confuse this to be love, but this is just positive thoughts about someone. This is just loving what a person says or does, not loving them. Positive thoughts or the thought “I love you” isn’t necessary to love. Sometimes it even gets in the way.Love is selfless: True love doesn’t want anything in return, because there is nothing it needs. We just love for the sake of love. When we love someone, we don’t look for them to fill our needs, love us back, and all those types of things. If that is what we are looking for, then we are just using the other person. What is the meaning of love? Love is completely selfless.

What can we do to make more feelings of love in this world? Or what is your definition of Love?



http://www.liveinthemoment.org/what-is-the-meaning-of-love/
 

Just off the top of my head... Try to look for the good things in people. Don't dwell on the things upon which you disagree. Try to walk in another person's shoes for a while.
Yes, those are good things. :love_heart:
 

From the group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4-to-8-year-olds: "What does love mean?"
The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined. See what you think:

"Love is that first feeling you feel before all the bad stuff gets in the way." -Charlie, age 5

"When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love." -Rebecca, age 8

"When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You know that your name is safe in their mouth." -Billy, age 4

"Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other." -Karl, age 5

"Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs." -Chrissy, age 6

"Love is when someone hurts you. And you get so mad but you don't yell at them because you know it would hurt their feelings." -Samantha, age 7

"Love is what makes you smile when you're tired." -Terri, age 4

"Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK." -Danny, age 7

"Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss." -Emily, age 8

"Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen." -Bobby, age 5

"If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate." -Nikka, age 6

"Love is hugging. Love is kissing. Love is saying no" -Patty, age 8

When you tell someone something bad about yourself and you're scared they won't love you anymore. But then you get surprised because not only do they still love you, they love you even more." -Matthew, age 7

"There are two kinds of love. Our love. God's love. But God makes both kinds of them." -Jenny, age 8

"Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday." -Noelle, age 7

"Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well." -Tommy, age 6

"During my piano recital, I was on a stage and scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore." -Cindy, age 8

"My mommy loves me more than anybody. You don't see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night." -Clare, age 5

"Love is when mommy gives daddy the best piece of chicken." -Elaine, age 5

"Love is when mommy sees daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford." -Chris, age 8

"Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day." -Mary Ann, age 4

"I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones." -Lauren, age 5

I let my big sister pick on me because my Mom says she only picks on me because she loves me. So I pick on my baby sister because I love her." -Bethany, age 4

"Love cards like Valentine's cards say stuff on them that we'd like to say ourselves, but we wouldn't be caught dead saying." -Mike, age 8

"When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you." -Karen, age 7

"Love is when mommy sees daddy on the toilet and she doesn't think it's gross." -Mark, age 8

"You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget." -Jessica, age 8

"God could have said magic words to make the nails fall off the cross, but He didn't. That's love." -Max, age 5
mouths of babes:
 
I'm sure I told you I loved you but.........

I thought it would be nice to talk about LOVE since spring time is almost here. The kind of love I am talking about is unconditional love which so many of us don't get or give; it just doesn't seem possible. It would be so great to have that!


What can we do to make more feelings of love in this world? Or what is your definition of Love?


http://www.liveinthemoment.org/what-is-the-meaning-of-love/


I was sure I'd been telling you how much I loved you but obviously not otherwise you'd know :love_heart:
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I liked the reference to forthcoming spring so lets hope it doesn't disappoint us when it arrives.
 
Love is a verb, it is something you do. Sometimes, people need a good listening to, a hug "just because," a coffee brought to them when they are too tired to make it for themselves. Giving a person room to fail, to be annoying etc without loving :love_heart: them any less. We are all fallible human beings under construction.
 
Love like hate is a word.

What each thinks fits their interpretation of what they feel towards anything at any given time

I could love watching the snow fall but hate to have to drive in the accumulation.
 
I liked your post

Love is a verb, it is something you do. Sometimes, people need a good listening to, a hug "just because," a coffee brought to them when they are too tired to make it for themselves. Giving a person room to fail, to be annoying etc without loving :love_heart: them any less. We are all fallible human beings under construction.

I liked your post and totally agree with you.

As far as giving someone the room to fail or be annoying and not love them any less I'd go even further and suggest it might be necessary to love them because they're annoying very often, or have tremendously high levels of tolerance :).
 
I liked your post and totally agree with you.

As far as giving someone the room to fail or be annoying and not love them any less I'd go even further and suggest it might be necessary to love them because they're annoying very often, or have tremendously high levels of tolerance :).
Marvelous Graham! Lovely post. You are so right in your assessment. My fiancé calls me "a Celtic Elemental," I can only imagine how annoying that must be for a disciplined Sifu to contend with! Loll.
 
I have many different kinds of love in my life. The love for my Husband, kids, family members, and even a special love for people who meant so much to me and have passed on and my pets. The emotion of love is different in each case. What I don't think is love are those who toss the word around so freely. I have met people once or twice and when leaving or saying goodby they say,love you. They don't even know me how can they love me? I don't mean to sound cold or indifferent but I think you have to earn love. For me it takes awhile.
 
I have many different kinds of love in my life. The love for my Husband, kids, family members, and even a special love for people who meant so much to me and have passed on and my pets. The emotion of love is different in each case. What I don't think is love are those who toss the word around so freely. I have met people once or twice and when leaving or saying goodby they say,love you. They don't even know me how can they love me? I don't mean to sound cold or indifferent but I think you have to earn love. For me it takes awhile.
I agree that using the word love excessively or as you described can be meaningless. Emotion, feelings or any number of synonyms can be used.

Earning love is an interesting concept. What would it take to earn your love?
 
I agree that using the word love excessively or as you described can be meaningless. Emotion, feelings or any number of synonyms can be used.

Earning love is an interesting concept. What would it take to earn your love?
I need to know the person is a kind and giving person, not only to me but others as well. Honest, sincere and trusting. I know all my family and friends have these traits and I love them for it. Hopefully, they feel my love and over the years I have shown them through my actions that I care about them very much. I'm sure not perfect but do try to be a good person and work at having the traits I admire in others.
 
I need to know the person is a kind and giving person, not only to me but others as well. Honest, sincere and trusting. I know all my family and friends have these traits and I love them for it. Hopefully, they feel my love and over the years I have shown them through my actions that I care about them very much. I'm sure not perfect but do try to be a good person and work at having the traits I admire in others.
The traits you outlined are reasonable but not always doable. Do you forgive if any of your family or friends has a rough patch and can't live up to any of those? For example honesty in a variety of instances were gone & replaced with deception over a period of a couple of years.
 
At a marriage encounter weekend I heard the statement "Love is not a feeling. Love is a decision."

The explanation? Feelings are something over which we have little control. They arise spontaneously in response to external stimuli and they can subside just as easily because they are largely produced by the level of hormones in our blood at any particular time. In short, feelings are ephemeral, neither good nor bad, and love is something more than this.

How we feel may be beyond our control but what we do about them is not. Anger may be triggered by something that we see written on this forum and we may respond angrily or we may decide to take a deep breath, remember that the poster who caused the anger is a real person with real feelings just as we have, and decide to respond calmly, without any snide remarks or not to answer at all. The last two decisions are actually examples of unconditional love in action.
 
At a marriage encounter weekend I heard the statement "Love is not a feeling. Love is a decision."

The explanation? Feelings are something over which we have little control. They arise spontaneously in response to external stimuli and they can subside just as easily because they are largely produced by the level of hormones in our blood at any particular time. In short, feelings are ephemeral, neither good nor bad, and love is something more than this.

How we feel may be beyond our control but what we do about them is not. Anger may be triggered by something that we see written on this forum and we may respond angrily or we may decide to take a deep breath, remember that the poster who caused the anger is a real person with real feelings just as we have, and decide to respond calmly, without any snide remarks or not to answer at all. The last two decisions are actually examples of unconditional love in action.


There is a contrary view though, as to whether, this statement is true, quote "Love is not a feeling. Love is a decision."

The contrary view is that as an individual is "not in control" or not fully in control of whomsoever they might love because love is connected intrinsically to our subconscious. Then to say it is fully a "decision" would seem to be undermined wouldn't it.

I remember being questioned by my daughter as to my feelings towards her mother, who had left me a few years before, and I was able to say "I'd decided I no longer loved her mother", though I think a more accurate crystallisation of my feelings might have been that I'd discovered I could love other people as much as I loved my ex.wife. So, if that was a decision then I'd decided but it may have been no more than a recognition I'd made of my own feelings.
 
The traits you outlined are reasonable but not always doable. Do you forgive if any of your family or friends has a rough patch and can't live up to any of those? For example honesty in a variety of instances were gone & replaced with deception over a period of a couple of years.
I don't know Knight. Not trying to get off the hook here but I guess it would depend on the person and circumstances. I do know I would give them the benefit of the doubt and hopefully their explanation would let me forgive, honestly, I wouldn't count on it. I am a sensitive person and I get hurt easily. Once I decide to let a person into my heart for whatever reason and I find out things aren't really what they seem to be I would be devastated. Just my nature, others may get angry.
 
A great thought-provoking question Ruthanne, and I have enjoyed reading the thoughtful responses. In my opinion, we humans are not capable of unconditional love. We're just too needy, even though we might not want to admit it. Dogs, on the other hand, are the perfect example of unconditional love :love_heart:
 
When I first read the question "What is love?", my first thought was some of the SNL sketches where they use the song by that name as the background for some silly sketch... LOL.
 
I don't know Knight. Not trying to get off the hook here but I guess it would depend on the person and circumstances. I do know I would give them the benefit of the doubt and hopefully their explanation would let me forgive, honestly, I wouldn't count on it. I am a sensitive person and I get hurt easily. Once I decide to let a person into my heart for whatever reason and I find out things aren't really what they seem to be I would be devastated. Just my nature, others may get angry.

The thread is thought provoking, it's not very often an exchange about a feeling can be discussed. Looking inward at what we think rather than post about what some other "expert" thinks has drawn some input. I think as you have described love comes down to what each of us considers our own definition of our feelings at any given time.
 
I know I have never known unconditional love. I also never had grandparents which I think some people get that feeling from.

My mother loved her children but there were a lot of conditions. Reason she stopped speaking to my oldest brother in high school. He wasn't doing what she insisted which was not have any contact with the bio dad.
 
Thank you all for your views and thoughtful posts on this subject. My dog gives unconditional love, too.:love_heart:
 
I don't know if love can truly be unconditional because you can love someone who repeatedly abuses you and soon that love will fade and you may cut that person out of your life completely. I do think that true love is selfless and whether it's a child or parent or partner if you love them you might risk your life in order to save theirs for example. Of course with our pets love can be unconditional they will love even after being abused like we see many times in the news
 
It's hard for me to find a perfect description of unconditional love. For me I think it means you love someone so much that you love them through all the good and bad times. I love my husband with all my heart and would not want to live a minute on this earth without him. I feel the same way about my children and grandchildren. No matter what choices my loved ones make ,I will stand beside them. To me they are the most important things in my life.
 
Love is a soulmate, someone who cares about you and understands you completely, even your failings and your deepest secrets, and who loves you anyway, helping you to become the best you can be. :love_heart:
 
I think love is when you are willing to do something for someone else even though it makes your life difficult or uncomfortable or inconvenient but you do it anyway because it is the right thing to do. I don't think love has to be a mushy, emotional and gushing feeling. Like someone else here said, it's a decision and it's a verb.
 


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