What is your #1 downside of getting older Other than pain/ill health?

hollydolly said:
yes and garlic butter... also truffled Mayonaise... that's really nice.. but of course, its the sauce that has the majority of the flavour
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I love garlic butter. Don't think I've eve had truffled mayo
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hollydolly said:
My daughter gets frustrated with me, I suppose because she desn't know this person who isn't getting up and going off and doing things as I would have in the past...

She doesn;t take into consideration that not only is my heart not ready but my body is older.. and things are different now on my own...

yesterday she rang on her way out to dinner.. and she said tell me something good or exciting that's happened to you this week... there is nothing I said..and not in a maudlin' way, but I'm here on my own, what exciting things can happen ?... ... .. and she sighs .. as tho' I'm doing it on purpose.. :(
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Oh my gosh, I have a DD and she doesn't get it. I am trying to rebuild after a great loss and it takes time. I rarely have anything of significance to report when she calls. Meanwhile, she is traveling all over the world. The most I can come up with is I took grandma to the doctor, lol. When I go to a concert I try to send her a photo each time. At least I am out of the house, lol.
 

VaughanJB said:
Regret.

It's having time to look at years past, and know when you made mistakes, hurt people, and could and should have done better. It's the wasted opportunities, the knowing things could have been different (better).
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Regret, all the wouda-shouda-coudas, will rob a person's happiness of the present. The only thing we 'own' is right now, we can't do anything about the past, and the future is not yet ours. BTW, I'm not being that know-it-all guy lecturing...dealing with the ghosts of the past and chasing the butterflies of the future is still a daily challenge for me.
 
i have started to notice that there are things gradually changing for me. things i used to be able to do that have to either be done differently or with more care now. i am constantly looking at ways to make things easier to fix it so i can have more stamina like at work and stuff. do things in sections as opposed to trying to do the entire task in 8 hrs.
 
birdy said:
Oh my gosh, I have a DD and she doesn't get it. I am trying to rebuild after a great loss and it takes time. I rarely have anything of significance to report when she calls. Meanwhile, she is traveling all over the world. The most I can come up with is I took grandma to the doctor, lol. When I go to a concert I try to send her a photo each time. At least I am out of the house, lol.
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precisely this... ^^^
 
MarciKS said:
i have started to notice that there are things gradually changing for me. things i used to be able to do that have to either be done differently or with more care now. i am constantly looking at ways to make things easier to fix it so i can have more stamina like at work and stuff. do things in sections as opposed to trying to do the entire task in 8 hrs.
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This reminds me of climbing my ladder. I'm not going to the top step. Luckily, I'm tall enough that I can reach most things without getting to the top step. Definitely have to be careful.
 
PurplePansies said:
For me it seems as those things are constantly in my mind, memories all the way back to grade school! The worst of it is the people I no longer have in my life because of my behavior.
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Yes, I get it a LOT. Perhaps it's because my life hasn't turned out the way I wanted it to, so now my mind keeps going back to look at how I ended up in this situation. You can never get into the head of others, but I well remember what I did wrong, and it does indeed circle and circle. I try to distract myself, because honestly it's not a particularly healthy mindset. Time would be far better spent making tomorrow better than today, you know?
C50 said:
It makes me sad knowing that the excitement of youthful love will never happen to me again. The joy of that first attraction, that first laugh, the first touch and first kiss, simply the newness of it and all the visions of what the future may hold.
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This is interesting too. Everyone knows my situation, so I'm going along with that. But it occurs to me that my marketability for a new relationship is, essentially, nowhere. I mean, I don't have much to offer, not now. My brain still (mostly) works, but you know - all the youthful excitement is pretty much gone. There are things I find pleasurable in my life, but they're solo things like listening to music. I guess the thought that this relationship is, effectively, my last, is extremely sobering.

Not that I mind being alone. I actually like it. But there's some magic in a true love, isn't there?
Nathan said:
Regret, all the wouda-shouda-coudas, will rob a person's happiness of the present. The only thing we 'own' is right now, we can't do anything about the past, and the future is not yet ours. BTW, I'm not being that know-it-all guy lecturing...dealing with the ghosts of the past and chasing the butterflies of the future is still a daily challenge for me.
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There's the intellectual exercise, which means you know you're doing it, you know it won't change anything, and you correct yourself. You're right, it's pointless. But deep down in my psyche something must be going on, because it floats to the top. Perhaps it's a head and heart thing? Perhaps it's the start of a mental decline? Perhaps it's just a great sorrow spreading its tendrils to the consciousness of the day? I really don't know - but your words are entirely correct, yet knowing it doesn't seem to help. Silly.
 
@VaughanJB , Here's a wouda-shouda-couda that's not far from the forefront of my consciousness: I get periodic CT scans as I was a smoker for 45+ years. A while back they found pulmonary nodules in my lungs, they are benign....so far. I am thankful for the peace that I can wrestle out of the jaws of regret.
 
Nathan said:
@VaughanJB , Here's a wouda-shouda-couda that's not far from the forefront of my consciousness: I get periodic CT scans as I was a smoker for 45+ years. A while back they found pulmonary nodules in my lungs, they are benign....so far. I am thankful for the peace that I can wrestle out of the jaws of regret.
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My regrets are more around relationships, and my interaction with people, and things in business I could have done differently. Few of us get through life without breaking their hearts a couple times!
 
A couple of days ago I discovered that an old acquaintance had died three years ago. She was not close but a good woman, great gardener and active in the community. I thought I must tell the others. Are all the others gone? The only one I could think of who would care has severe dementia,.so I didn't call. I often think of something I would like to tell my sister, my son, my friend but they are no longer here. Not the greatest problem but sad nonetheless.
 
Alizerine said:
A couple of days ago I discovered that an old acquaintance had died three years ago. She was not close but a good woman, great gardener and active in the community. I thought I must tell the others. Are all the others gone? The only one I could think of who would care has severe dementia,.so I didn't call. I often think of something I would like to tell my sister, my son, my friend but they are no longer here. Not the greatest problem but sad nonetheless.
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It stinks.

I keep catching myself thinking that my mother might enjoy this TV show or that event or my grandson or...
 

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