What is your definition of 'love'?

Ralphy1 said:
A mother's love knows no boundaries in some case. An infamous murderer killed a mother and her two children here when he was only sixteen. His mother continued to visit him while he was in prison here before he was sent to Florida to spend his time. Don't know if she still visits him down there...
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If that was a child of mine I would wish them dead, that is for sure!:mad:
 

Ken N Tx said:
Not as rare as you state..There are 2 couples on our road that are close to 50 years..Another enjoying 38..
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Glad to hear it. I don't know how that's going to work in the future. People seem to be starting their lives about ten years later. Of course we are living about ten years longer. I prefer our way. Not going to roll on the floor with your grandkids at 90.

Something that always puzzled me. When we were married the general view of society was disapproving."Oh, your way too young", but when we celebrated our fiftieth, everyone thought it was wonderful. How do they think that happens?
 
Glad to hear it. I don't know how that's going to work in the future. People seem to be starting their lives about ten years later. Of course we are living about ten years longer. I prefer our way. Not going to roll on the floor with your grandkids at 90.
Underrock1, our 2nd oldest son was married over 20 years before they decided to have a baby. They were both 40 when she was born. My son said they are raising her to be very independent since they are so old and she has no siblings. The parents are both in good health so maybe it'll work out ok but I keep thinking how old they'll be when she graduates from high school and college.
 
Linda said:
Glad to hear it. I don't know how that's going to work in the future. People seem to be starting their lives about ten years later. Of course we are living about ten years longer. I prefer our way. Not going to roll on the floor with your grandkids at 90.
Underrock1, our 2nd oldest son was married over 20 years before they decided to have a baby. They were both 40 when she was born. My son said they are raising her to be very independent since they are so old and she has no siblings. The parents are both in good health so maybe it'll work out ok but I keep thinking how old they'll be when she graduates from high school and college.
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I hear you, Linda. I guess we shouldn't decide what's the best way to be happy for others. Every life style has its pros and cons. I just think that many young people are being robbed of some of life's best joys by being sold on the idea of late marriage and child birth. Mother Nature doesn't give a crap about our preferences.
 
I don't think having parents old enough to be your grandparents is a good idea. My husband's parents had him as an afterthought 14 years after his brother. They were disappointed he wasn't a girl so he could look after them in their old age!:mad: His brother played with him and did the things parents are supposed to do until he left home!

I had my first girl at 20, the second at 24 and the third at 26. I was sterilised after that not wishing to have anymore birth children. We adopted two boys with learning difficulties when I was in my mid 30s, that was part of our game plan when we were teenagers. We also fostered a lad of 16 who had Down's Syndrome, he lived with us for nine years. Of course we would not have taken on the boys if we hadn't had the full agreement of our daughters, who were very supportive.
 
meteorite83188 said:
To love is better than to not have loved at all. It's what makes us tick in society. I love almost everything....it's humans who are the challenge.
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As I have said before it depends on one's definition of love. Mine seems to be different to that of most others.
 
Bluecheese50 said:
I wouldn't agree with that statement. I am quite content being me even though my idea of love is not that of others, apparently.
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Love doesn't necessarily mean being in a romantic relationship. If one has no friends or family that they love, what's the point of anything?
 
Ameriscot said:
Love doesn't necessarily mean being in a romantic relationship. If one has no friends or family that they love, what's the point of anything?
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I don't see it that way, I think you can have a fulfilled life without having love in it.

However, I am pleased I have children of whom I am fond, and they appear to be fond of this daft old bat too. We have a good relationship, albeit a jokey one, the birthday cards I got from the kids my siblings and my husband the other day were hilarious, they ensured I realised how old and senile I am!:D I wouldn't have it any other way, that is for sure.
 
Bluecheese50 said:
I don't see it that way, I think you can have a fulfilled life without having love in it.

However, I am pleased I have children of whom I am fond, and they appear to be fond of this daft old bat too. We have a good relationship, albeit a jokey one, the birthday cards I got from the kids my siblings and my husband the other day were hilarious, they ensured I realised how old and senile I am!:D I wouldn't have it any other way, that is for sure.
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You are 'fond' of your children but you don't 'love' them. You sound like a very sad and empty person.
 
Ameriscot said:
You are 'fond' of your children but you don't 'love' them. You sound like a very sad and empty person.
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Thanks very much!:mad: I am very content with me being me and wouldn't wish to change. I 'love' my children in my way and they have never found me wanting. They all say they had a good childhood, which they enjoyed, so I can't be that bad. I am always there for them, if needed, and I ensure they have any financial assistance if necessary, which is appreciated.
 
Bluecheese50 said:
Thanks very much!:mad: I am very content with me being me and wouldn't wish to change. I 'love' my children in my way and they have never found me wanting. They all say they had a good childhood, which they enjoyed, so I can't be that bad. I am always there for them, if needed, and I ensure they have any financial assistance if necessary, which is appreciated.
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So if you 'love' them in your own way then you do have love in your life. So you can't say that you can live without love.
 
Ameriscot said:
So if you 'love' them in your own way then you do have love in your life. So you can't say that you can live without love.
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I said I don't define 'love' in the way others do. Anyway it really doesn't matter, I do things my way, and you do things your way.
 
Bluecheese50 said:
I said I don't define 'love' in the way others do. Anyway it really doesn't matter, I do things my way, and you do things your way.
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One of the hallmarks of society is communication. Without words, we humans are toast.

That being the case, we need to define and agree upon our terms. If you and I were to look at a piece of fruit and you called it "apple" and I called it "orange", we would have a tough time coming to agreement.

One cannot blithely say that their definition of a word is different from the accepted definition without going into laborious detail to explain their interpretation every time that word comes up in conversation.

That slows down the act of communication. If that is your goal - to frustrate people during the act of communicating - then you have succeeded. Otherwise, it might be well to define your terms more precisely.
 
SifuPhil said:
One of the hallmarks of society is communication. Without words, we humans are toast.

That being the case, we need to define and agree upon our terms. If you and I were to look at a piece of fruit and you called it "apple" and I called it "orange", we would have a tough time coming to agreement.

One cannot blithely say that their definition of a word is different from the accepted definition without going into laborious detail to explain their interpretation every time that word comes up in conversation.

That slows down the act of communication. If that is your goal - to frustrate people during the act of communicating - then you have succeeded. Otherwise, it might be well to define your terms more precisely.
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I am not sure what you mean? I have stated my definition of 'love' which is liking someone a lot, I could not conceive of loving anyone I didn't like. To others the term 'love' means something different, which is fair enough. I can't see it their way, anymore than they can see it mine. I am content with my way, and presumably they are content with theirs, so what is the problem?
 
Bluecheese50 said:
I am not sure what you mean? I have stated my definition of 'love' which is liking someone a lot, I could not conceive of loving anyone I didn't like. To others the term 'love' means something different, which is fair enough. I can't see it their way, anymore than they can see it mine. I am content with my way, and presumably they are content with theirs, so what is the problem?
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The problem is, once again, agreeing upon standard interpretations of a word - usually achieved by examining the dictionary's entry.

The Oxford Dictionary of American English defines "love" thus:

1. An intense feeling of deep affection

2. A deep romantic or sexual attachment to someone

3. A great interest and pleasure in something (Note: Not someone)


Unfortunately, your usage does not jibe with any of these definitions.

I can define "love" as the act of putting on my galoshes and doing the Macarena, but that still doesn't mean that my definition is correct. Because it does not fit the standard, accepted interpretation of the word, I am the one who is wrong, not everybody else.
 
SifuPhil said:
The problem is, once again, agreeing upon standard interpretations of a word - usually achieved by examining the dictionary's entry.

The Oxford Dictionary of American English defines "love" thus:

1. An intense feeling of deep affection

2. A deep romantic or sexual attachment to someone

3. A great interest and pleasure in something (Note: Not someone)


Unfortunately, your usage does not jibe with any of these definitions.

I can define "love" as the act of putting on my galoshes and doing the Macarena, but that still doesn't mean that my definition is correct. Because it does not fit the standard, accepted interpretation of the word, I am the one who is wrong, not everybody else.
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If you want

Well as I said I am happy with the way I perceive 'love', even if no one else is!
 
Bluecheese50 said:
If you want

Well as I said I am happy with the way I perceive 'love', even if no one else is!
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Hmmm ...

Then I can only assume that you are happy to cut yourself off, in some small way, from communicating with society.

That's fine, as long as you know you are doing it.
 

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