JimBob1952
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Skip the first marriage and go straight to the second marriage. Of course then that would become the first marriage...
What marriage advise would you give your younger self?
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jimintoronto
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Who said anything about "partner " ? ANY woman who assaults me is only going to get in 2 blows before I strike back. JimB.
Jules
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This is a conversation on marriage/partners.
palides2021
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Not sure why you are so defensive. What woman would even want to strike you? There's also something called "walking away." That helps preserve the peace. Striking back is not a gentlemanly thing to do, IMHO.
Farrah Nuff
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Mitch86
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Plan to stay with your choice for the rest of your life whether the marriage is good or bad and whether you are poor or rich.
I've been married to the same woman for 62 years and we've had our bad times and good times but we each need the other to live as an effective TEAM!
I've been married to the same woman for 62 years and we've had our bad times and good times but we each need the other to live as an effective TEAM!
ElCastor
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Know each other well for at least two years before popping the question and sealing the deal. It works and continues to work very well after more than 45 years.
jimintoronto
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I spent 10 years working for Metro Toronto Ambulance. Dealing with drunks, you never know when one of them is going to get violent. Domestic violence situations. We always had to be ready to defend ourselves against physical attacks. That is where my attitude of "you get to throw 2 punches, then I fight back " comes from. JimB.
Einstein was a terrible husband.
"Now listen very carefully Young Me, it may be all lovely and wonderful to marry that girl, but over time very testing problems will occur."
"You are probably right Old Me, but just take a look at her, the way her eyes entrance me, the way she sort of wiggles when she walks, the way she has that magic power to make certain parts of me grow bigger, and that electric feeling when we hold hands...... I think I'll risk it."
"You are probably right Old Me, but just take a look at her, the way her eyes entrance me, the way she sort of wiggles when she walks, the way she has that magic power to make certain parts of me grow bigger, and that electric feeling when we hold hands...... I think I'll risk it."
fuzzybuddy
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I don't want to co-opt Charry's thread, but marriage isn't doing so great in the thread. And the pro-marriage posts are rather idealistic. We are not starry-eyed teens anymore; we have some baggage we're dragging around about marriage. Is marriage and having kids two different things? Do you think our tradition of marriage is the best course? What do you think your kids think? Great thread, Charry.
Ronni
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Look, donāt listen. Make sure your intended walks the walk as well as talks the talk.
Words are easy. Actions are what matter. All those flowery speeches and declarations of love are wonderful, but how does your partner treat a server? Does he tip well? Is he kind to animals? Does he have friends? Is he always making excuses for negative behavior? Or even worse, insisting it was someone elseās fault?
Itās taken me a lifetime to understand that actions do in fact speak way more loudly than words! I am recently re-married. My sweet husband proved to me by what he did, the way he acted, how he treated others, that he is a good man. He demonstrates that every day just as part of living life.
I wish Iād learned that lesson 50 years ago!
Words are easy. Actions are what matter. All those flowery speeches and declarations of love are wonderful, but how does your partner treat a server? Does he tip well? Is he kind to animals? Does he have friends? Is he always making excuses for negative behavior? Or even worse, insisting it was someone elseās fault?
Itās taken me a lifetime to understand that actions do in fact speak way more loudly than words! I am recently re-married. My sweet husband proved to me by what he did, the way he acted, how he treated others, that he is a good man. He demonstrates that every day just as part of living life.
I wish Iād learned that lesson 50 years ago!
grahamg
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It would be nice to know what Mrs. Einstein thought but I remember him answering the question posed to him by a reporter: "What did he think the most important thing he'd like to be remembered for", and he stated "as a good father to his children"!
Mizmo
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Don't tie the knot !
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!rgp
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And you know this how ? Were you married to him ?
Ladybj
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Ladybj
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This reminds me of the saying "the grass is greener on the other side". However, I come to realize, it depends on whose watering the grass
grahamg
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Tell us some more about Einstein, (if you feel like it), as I only know what I've read in newspapers, or tv documentaries.
Did he write an autobiography for example, or have others penned biographies, (authorised and unauthorised)?
grahamg
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Checked myself now, and of course there are a host of biographies about this great man.
One mentions a lady called Mileva Maric and some love letters on the front cover, (but that was his first wife, though mother of his children in their six year marriage). Yes he appears to have cheated on her and subsequently married his cousin, who he married ten years after his first marriage failed, but this marriage lasted till her death.