What other people think of you is none of your business

hollydolly said:
Oh I would swap with you in a heartbeat BC...absolutely would love to have always had the mindset, it must be so calming not to give a care about what other people think of you ...as long of course that you're not deliberately causing anyone upset..which I'm sure you're not. My mother was the same as yours and I've inherited a lot of that.. I'm definitely too thin skinned for this crazy world...
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I do my best to help others if I can, but not because people will think well of me, but because I want to do so.
 

Needy people who have to belong to a clique :wink: obviously care what others think of them. Kinda pathetic. I left that behind in junior high.

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What is the difference between belonging to a clique, and having supportive friends? A question of degree? Perhaps a need to put down others who do not belong to the in group? Regardless, I would be hesitant to call someone pathetic for being

insecure. At some point in our lives, all of us will be faced with situations which will trigger insecurities. That is part of the human condition. Hopefully, at that time, there will be people in our lives who will react with compassion.
 
Shalimar said:
What is the difference between belonging to a clique, and having supportive friends? A question of degree? Perhaps a need to put down others who do not belong to the in group? Regardless, I would be hesitant to call someone pathetic for being

insecure. At some point in our lives, all of us will be faced with situations which will trigger insecurities. That is part of the human condition. Hopefully, at that time, there will be people in our lives who will react with compassion.
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QFT.

And even if it is just one person who reacts with compassion, that is still better than a stadium full of sycophants and phonies.
 
Ideally a group of supportive friends would be inclusive, positive and welcoming and different than the stereotypical negative high school clique which is more exclusive and critical of outsiders.

We are all insecure in different areas, that's why we need each other for support, comfort and sharing. Not pathetic at all, loving and compassionate.
 
Cookie said:
Ideally a group of supportive friends would be inclusive, positive and welcoming and different than the stereotypical negative high school clique which is more exclusive and critical of outsiders.

We are all insecure in different areas, that's why we need each other for support, comfort and sharing. Not pathetic at all, loving and compassionate.
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I agree with this :). It's got to be ok to just be yourself with someone or you don't have much.
 
QuickSilver said:
That depends. Are we talking negative feelings? If so, I Agree AND disagree... I agree so long as they keep their opinions to themselves. I disagree the minute their opinion negatively impacts me..
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I haven't had time to read the rest of this thread yet, but right off, I agree with what QS says here.

Note added: I went back to read everything and I see this is an old thread. I realized that when I saw posts from Glinda and Classic Rocker and than I looked at the date. Oh well, I'm glad to see it revived, it's an interesting subject. :)
 
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I don't agree but it depends on which other people you mean and who you are?
Are you well known? Are you a recluse? Do you have many friends or acquaintances... Etc.
I care what others think of me--it may be good that I don't always know! I might not like what I find out.

A 90 year old probably would not care what others think of her--how much longer will she live anyway?
 
I come over as very sociable, even though I dislike socialising. I can chat for the universe, but I never share my deepest thoughts with anyone, they are mine alone.
 
hollydolly said:
What Other people think of you is none of your business... a 90 year old Ohio lady Regina Brett wrote that among many other sentinents ...do you agree with it?

Do you mind a lot what others' think of you ,?
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It only matters if it concerns your livelihood or your love life. Retired, widowed,and three feet away from the finish line. I'm done!
 
Underock, I'm not ndynt, but I do like you as well.

I hope people have a good opinion of me, and if not, I just remember my grandmother's saying of, "Well he can just get glad in the same pants he got mad in."
 
I care about what my boss thinks of me and about what my sons think of me and that's it......I don't need any unnecessary stress in my life. I have plenty of more important things to care about.
 
Many people have said that other than a 90 year old lady. It is on a list I have on the kitchen fridge. Sometimes there is nothing you can do to make others like you. If I haven't ever been mean to the person and they still don't like me, "so be it." I don't care. It IS their business. :eek:nthego:
 
hollydolly said:
What Other people think of you is none of your business... a 90 year old Ohio lady Regina Brett wrote that among many other sentinents ...do you agree with it?

Do you mind a lot what others' think of you ,?
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That seems to be a popular expression these days, but to a large degree I disagree with it. The reason: because what people think of you is often directly connected to how they treat you, and that certainly is your business.
 

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