I feel I have no one to talk to. I can not bring it up with my kids, I dont want them to judge and be involved in my problems. I dont want to talk to our local pastor either because he knows us both. Who do I talk to! I need to get it out!
We could not sort it out. We divorcedI'm so sorry that you're going through this! I find it very disturbing! Those are many years of marriage to let go of and you probably have many memories of being together. Did you try and communicate with him why he did it? Just curious. Hoping you find some peace in all of this.
What a creepo your X was, you are lucky this wierdo is gone. He tricked you, betrayed you, it is not fair. Go on with your life and make it a good wholesome healthy life. Listen to lofi chill pop or Jazz tunes, very relaxing. Watch animal videos and old comedy series. Drink hot tea and sit in a comfy chair. It is good you are reaching out to others. No matter what anyone thinks you have to enjoy yo'self, cause you will be spending the rest of this earthly trail with you!Ok, he take spyphotos and spymovies of me without my knowledge and you mean he may have the right to do it?
I'm not sure that I agree with your first sentence. Obviously the daughter is an adult, is she not entitled to know exactly the cause of the break up. Because of the nature of the situation who's to say that it might not happen again, is honesty not the best policy or does it not apply to this situation. Interested to hear others opinion.I think not involving the children in this situation is the best thing to do. I have no idea about Swedish divorces. Do you need an attorney? You seem to be lost, and overwhelmed. If you had a divorce attorney, he should be able to direct you how to get some help.
To a good lot of us, you're a 'kid'Thank you. Kid? I am 62
A direct talk with God can be a pretty big helpI dont want to talk to our local pastor either because he knows us both
Very good advice, we can all take something away from this.> Johanna
I think the past is unalterable and the future is unknown. All any of us really have is this moment. I have the power to choose what I do and how I feel in this moment. I try very hard to live in the solution and not in the problem. Sometimes that is a moment to moment battle. I had to practice positive thinking. Training myself to think positive has been a never ending endeavor. I started out leaning recognize when my mind started going down a negative path. Then I would try to turn that thought into something positive. It did not really make a difference what the thought was it just needed to be positive.
Somehow with a lot of practice and patience my mind learned how to think positive without much conscious thought. Most of the time anyway. To be brutally honest and as crazy as it may sound sometimes dwelling in the mire of regret and self pity can be a comfortable place for me to hide out. I do not know why. Maybe it is negativity in me trying hold me back? The reality is I have to make myself stand up, step out of the mire and get on with my life. The only thing I can really do with the things that happened to me in my past is to learn from them and try not to make the same mistakes twice. This is about all I have to offer you and I sincerely hope it will help you.....