> Johanna
I think the past is unalterable and the future is unknown. All any of us really have is this moment. I have the power to choose what I do and how I feel in this moment. I try very hard to live in the solution and not in the problem. Sometimes that is a moment to moment battle. I had to practice positive thinking. Training myself to think positive has been a never ending endeavor. I started out leaning recognize when my mind started going down a negative path. Then I would try to turn that thought into something positive. It did not really make a difference what the thought was it just needed to be positive.
Somehow with a lot of practice and patience my mind learned how to think positive without much conscious thought. Most of the time anyway. To be brutally honest and as crazy as it may sound sometimes dwelling in the mire of regret and self pity can be a comfortable place for me to hide out. I do not know why. Maybe it is negativity in me trying hold me back? The reality is I have to make myself stand up, step out of the mire and get on with my life. The only thing I can really do with the things that happened to me in my past is to learn from them and try not to make the same mistakes twice. This is about all I have to offer you and I sincerely hope it will help you.....