where is AZ Jim?

hollydolly said:
It's tempting, but there's really only just so far we can go as ''strangers' on the internet when dealing with people's privates lives.
I'd be happy if someone did it for me if I suddenly disappeared .. but not everyone would,. I feel that some people would be horrified at the thought that random people could track them down regardless of the circumstances.

I feel ok with contacting Jim, because we've been friends for many years.. even before this forum, but only online, I kinda feel I would be stepping over a line by contacting authorities to check on him.
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It was just a suggestion. He was so depressed lately about his late wife and his physical ailments that I have a bad feeling about him. Hopefully, he is ''just in the hospital'' recuperating from a fall with his bad knees or something. I know with my friend, I was kind of annoyed and embarrassed that she called the cops, and yet I felt love for her because she cared enough to worry about me. You never know how people will react. Let's just wait and hope he's okay.
 

This is a major failing when it comes to forums where people become friends (or maybe virtual "friends?") but really have no way of contacting each other outside of the forum. We don't know each other's real names, usually don't know exactly where each other live, have no phone numbers, etc. The board managers may have access to email addresses, but that's all. Makes it very difficult to find out what's up with someone who abruptly disappears, and it's really disturbing when it's a person you care about.

And of course, there is the issue of privacy. There could be situations where the person just doesn't want to be contacted, or "found." Hard to know when to investigate, and when to just butt out.
 
I looked up the population of Jim's town. It is only 2,837. Surely if his last name is known it would be a cinch to find him.
 

This is mainly why I have a bad feeling about Jim. On Oct 16 he wrote a thread where he's desperate for some sleep = " No sleep last night no matter how I tried. I cannot go on like this. Have a good day friends... "

After a few posts about him the thread went off topic as it usually happens on the forum (I'm also guilty of it), and Jim didn't post again on that thread. I felt sorry for him, he must have felt like chopped-liver (I would). I'm sure none of the posters, including me, realized how it must have looked to Jim. :cry:

https://www.seniorforums.com/threads/cant-get-any-sleep.43972/
 
I don't think it would have been the thread going off-topic, having as big an effect,
dear @Catlady
He was having such a difficult time, before that.
But we could all be more careful, and
I understand the feelings, though. :confused:
 
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I see nothing wrong in calling Jim's local newspaper, or even local police, and explain the situation. In a town of that population most people know, or know of, each other.
 
Catlady said:
This is mainly why I have a bad feeling about Jim. On Oct 16 he wrote a thread where he's desperate for some sleep = " No sleep last night no matter how I tried. I cannot go on like this. Have a good day friends... "

After a few posts about him the thread went off topic as it usually happens on the forum (I'm also guilty of it), and Jim didn't post again on that thread. I felt sorry for him, he must have felt like chopped-liver (I would). I'm sure none of the posters, including me, realized how it must have looked to Jim. :cry:

https://www.seniorforums.com/threads/cant-get-any-sleep.43972/
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Not as bad as it might have looked on the surface tbh..Jim is in occasional contact with some of us by PM when he is up to it, and equally a few of us will drop him a line now and again to ensure he is ok, and particularly when he's feeling poorly.. and that's how we've come to be the same ones who have tried to contact him since he last posted.
 
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He has sounded seriously depressed to me for a long time now. I think trying to find out where and how he is would be perfectly reasonable in this case. Doesn't always apply to everybody, of course. Sometimes people just abruptly leave.
 
StarSong said:
Another week of no news. Has anyone heard from @Trade or @AZ Jim? Their absence is increasingly worrying.
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Someone said that maybe AZJim just taking a break or just quit Senior Forum, but I doubt that, he was a faithful member here. I hope I'm wrong and he's okay, but he was VERY depressed and in pain. šŸ˜Ÿ And funny about Trade, his posting buddy Olivia is also MIA.
 
Catlady said:
Someone said that maybe AZJim just taking a break or just quit Senior Forum, but I doubt that, he was a faithful member here. I hope I'm wrong and he's okay, but he was VERY depressed and in pain. šŸ˜Ÿ And funny about Trade, his posting buddy Olivia is also MIA.
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You're right, CL. She stopped posting just a few days later. Has anybody heard from her?
 
Pepper said:
I see nothing wrong in calling Jim's local newspaper, or even local police, and explain the situation. In a town of that population most people know, or know of, each other.
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Has anyone sent him a PM? I missed him too. Hopefully he's dealing with these issues the best he can.
 
Pepper said:
I looked up the population of Jim's town. It is only 2,837. Surely if his last name is known it would be a cinch to find him.
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Not a small town at all ... the population of Surprise, AZ is well over 100,000 .. It's a good size city just out of the Sun City West area.
 
Bonnie said:
Not a small town at all ... the population of Surprise, AZ is well over 100,000 .. It's a good size city just out of the Sun City West area.
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In Phoenix especially, and even in Tucson, you'll know you're in the next town by a sign at the town limits with the name of the town and population. It's one city after another.
 
Catlady said:
In Phoenix especially, and even in Tucson, you'll know you're in the next town by a sign at the town limits with the name of the town and population. It's one city after another.
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I know about the population boom in Arizona... I've lived there (Phoenix) in the past. ... people keep coming!šŸ˜€

And yes, the burbs keep piling on and running into the city limits everywhere in the country . .. Same thing here in the Houston area.
And I see the day Houston and Austin will be conjoined by their surrounding annexes, and that's talking about 150 miles that was once, not to long ago, open highway and country.


Okay ... off topic! .... back to Jim .. please check in AZ Jim.
 
How long has he been off forum now ?

I tried contacting a "absent" member of a motorcycle forum a few years back. Going to the local police was no help.....[cold shoulder].
 

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