Which siblings form better bonds.

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Which type of sibling relationships do you think form the best bonds? Brothers with brothers. Brothers with sisters, Sisters with sisters. Brothers with fathers. Sisters with fathers. Brothers with mothers. Sisters with mothers. or it doesn't matter.
 

Pinky said:
I would think there is no pat answer to this question, due to a variety of circumstances.
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I agree wholeheartedly.. however growing up I was closest to the one brother who was/is just 14 months younger than me.apparently when we were growing up, one was never seen without the other.. and when my mother died and I had to raise the siblings... the youngest just being 10 years old (girls).. my younger brother and I still had a deep bond.. .My elder brother is 9 years older , and so was always an adult in my eyes..
 

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Out of 6 siblings, I'm closest to my blood-brother who is 7 yrs. younger than me .. and my half-sister who is 3 yrs. older than me. My daughter is equally close to both myself and her father.
 
In my family, I am closer to my older sister than I ever was to my older brother. My brother was 11yrs old when my sister was born. My Dad wanted my Mom to have another baby so my sister would have a sibling closer to her in age. So then I was born and my sister and I bonded right away. She is not only my sister she is my best friend.
 
I had only brothers so I can't say anything about the brother/sister thing. And I don't really understand the brother/brother thing either.

I love both of my brothers, and I believe they love me. However they have a much stronger relationship with each other than with me. No idea why, guess we just have different personalities. I am the oldest, but not by a lot, our ages are pretty close.

I had a much younger half brother who committed suicide, a different and much longer story there, but still nothing that gave me insight...
 
officerripley said:
Any siblings in the world'd bond better than in my family.
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You are not alone have 4 siblings and have zero bond with any of them ..... they do not have bonds with each other either.

I don't think it is learned behavior mother had a close relationship with her older brother ... dad was an only child But had a bond with a cousin like brothers.
None of us ever had any bond ...never had.
 
Jeni said:
You are not alone have 4 siblings and have zero bond with any of them ..... they do not have bonds with each other either.

I don't think it is learned behavior mother had a close relationship with her older brother ... dad was an only child But had a bond with a cousin like brothers.
None of us ever had any bond ...never had.
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In my case, I think it was learned behavior since neither one of my parents, nor any of my step-parents, should've had children. Not everyone is cut out for parenthood, not by a long shot.
 
I am an only child, so I can only go by what I've observed.

My mother had no bond with her 3 siblings, and they had no bond with each other. She was jealous of her younger brother because she was "Daddy's girl" prior to his being born. She had no bond with her older sister because she went to college and my mother always considered her "uppity". Her older brother was a wild-child and just did his own thing.

My partner has an extremely close bond with both his brother and sister and would do anything for either of them. His brother is one year older and his sister is three years younger. Both brothers have been particularly protective of their sister, although she is the most responsible of the three.

I can also add this. With my partner being the "middle child", he has learned to be extremely entertaining and funny because he has always had to fight for attention. Maybe "middle child" is the topic for another thread.
 
Women (despite what might be politically correct to admit) are the most emotionally intense of the species of humans. This means, and it ought to be acknowledged by everyone, that they form both the best and worst bonds with one another. So, my vote goes to sisters. Why not daughters and mothers even more so? I don't know, just a feeling, but it seems logical that sisters through growing up share more with one another than they do with their mothers.
 
I am the middle child of 5 siblings. As adults I have bonded with a brother who is 6 years younger. We have the most in common and pretty much the same sense of humor.
 
I'm the middle child in our family,never been close with older sister
My younger&only brother and I are close we talk every Sun,he has the relationship with our sister
 
I had an older brother that was 13yrs old when I was born.He was never close to me or my sister. Then a sister that is 2 yrs older me. My sister is my best friend and who I can vent to. Actually, in my eyes she is Perfect.
 
I was extremely close with my brother who was the oldest, and deferential to my sister. Both were older than me.

I have 5 kids, and they are all very close. Every child, as they grew and left home, has lived with/had as a roommate one sibling or another, in various combinations, some more than once. Right now sons #3 and 4 are living together while son #3 goes back to school for a semester or two.
 
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I agree with @Pinky, circumstances vary so much, and many other factors to generalize. Personally I bonded with my younger brother by 3 years. We did everything together until I was 11. He lives in California. I hadn't talked with him for a year or so. I called him Christmas morning and we laughed and reminisced...it was like we had never been apart. :)
My daughter, who is 46 now and still as close as we were when she was growing up. We love to have fun together. She is a research LPN, and has two children now. She is sooooooooooo busy we mainly communicate through email with lots of pictures. ( She lives near Cedar Rapids, Ia. )
 

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