Which would you rather have- a partner, or your life as it is?

David777 said:
Youthful woman =<66", reasonably healthy, athletic, intelligent, outgoing, educated, loves nature, doesn't smoke or use hard drugs, or snore.
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That's quite a list, @David777 .... I wonder how many females could check all the boxes. To paraphrase Elizabeth Bennett's comment to Mr. Darcy's list of characteristics of an "accomplished woman," -- "I am no longer surprised at your knowing only six accomplished women. I rather wonder now at your knowing any."
 
Wren said:
I love the freedom of living alone, and would never give it up for anybody, I have a few male friends who help with odd jobs around the place if needed but I’m very independent, and don’t want, or need, a partner
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Oh, Any man would have to enhance my life.
and I would do the same for him
but,
We would have to be CRAZY in love with each other!
Mediocre doesn't make it! has to be wonderous!
 
False dichotomy: my life as it is now includes a partner, and one who contributes strengths I don’t have while benefiting from those I do.

Hypothetically assuming she is the first to go, as actuarially she is more likely to be, I would not be as open to having my life and interests reshaped by another as I was in my 20’s and 30’s. Not to say that I am closed to every conceivable new thing, but I prize my dogs, garden, reading and discussion of ideas highly. There are things I prefer to do alone like steering the garden. But for card games and affection, a partner is preferable. Dogs can cover the affection but are worthless for cards.
 
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Married twice - divorced from first husband; widowed by second husband.

Now I have the perfect companion (Flash, the dog) - he is always ready for a walk and car rides, (eg: not until I finish this show/project/it is too cold, etc., etc.), loves all his meals (never "the same kibble again?"), my security (he knows when some one is approaching the front door and bark and body slams the door) and HE DOESN'T SNORE!!
 
MarkD said:
False dichotomy: my life as it is now includes a partner, and one who contributes strengths I don’t have while benefiting from those I do.

Hypothetically assuming she is the first to go, as actuarially she is more likely to be, I would not be as open to having my life and interests reshaped by another as I was in my 20’s and 30’s. Not to say that I am closed to every conceivable new thing, but I prize my dogs, garden, reading and discussion of ideas highly. There are things I prefer to do alone like steering the garden. But for card games and affection, a partner is preferable. Dogs can cover the affection but are worthless for cards.
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Really ? :unsure:
 
My wife and I met at 17 and 19 respectively and have been together for 70 years now, 67 of them married. I realize that longevity in a relationship is partly dependent on the reasonably good health of both parties, but putting that aside, I can't imagine a happier version of life than the one that she has provided.

Still share the same bed and a little nudge usually takes care of our snoring. Have 4 kids (now in their 60's) and a flock of grands and great grands, whom we see on a fairly regular basis.

Life has treated us well and if I had it to do over, I would wish to follow the same path, provided I could find the same gal.
 
MarkD said:
I meant for me it isn’t an either/or - life as it is now requires the partner I have now. Or, if you meant really actuarial more likely to go first, yes. Her health isn’t good and she ten years riper than me.
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A flippant comment from me Mark, sorry, it was the ‘Dogs can cover the affection’ part,
I cannot imagine a dog replacing a person’s affection somehow, but never having a dog in my life, what do I know ?
 
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I'm content single. I've had dating relationships I enjoyed but have never even wanted to share living space with a boyfriend and the thought of marriage has always made me claustrophobic. Alone time is as essential to me as food and water.
 
Wren said:
A flippant comment from me Mark, sorry, it was the ‘Dogs can cover the affection’ part,
I cannot imagine a dog replacing a person’s affection somehow, but never having a dog in my life what do I know ?
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Haha, well they don't cover all the bases where affection is concerned but for devoted, platonic affection they take the prize.
 
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